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To ask why employers will bully, stomp and bribe with lunch vouchers to make staff go back to the office

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Everythingisnumbersnow · 11/01/2025 10:55

But won't in any way make the office a nicer place to be?

Hotdesk serfdom is real.

Just give people a space and treat them like humans?

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BIossomtoes · 11/01/2025 14:01

Everythingisnumbersnow · 11/01/2025 13:48

Collaboration doesn't require an office. Many young people are more comfortable collaborating using the digital tools they have grown up with.

Creative collaboration absolutely requires being in the same space. It’s well nigh impossible to brainstorm (or whatever the in vogue term for it is) if the participants aren’t in the same room. Work should be about being productive not comfortable.

ViolinsPlayGentlyOn · 11/01/2025 14:03

BIossomtoes · 11/01/2025 14:01

Creative collaboration absolutely requires being in the same space. It’s well nigh impossible to brainstorm (or whatever the in vogue term for it is) if the participants aren’t in the same room. Work should be about being productive not comfortable.

I disagree with this. It’s perfectly possible to creatively collaborate remotely. Even ignoring people WFH, we have people working in different office locations and I don’t think I’ve ever had a meeting with my current team where we’ve all managed to be in the same place at the same time.

Wonderingpigeon · 11/01/2025 14:04

Ideally hybrid is best for me.

I love working from home. But sometimes on tricker parts of work I just want to be able to ask the teams input and show eachother. It takes half a day to work things out when it's over messages and trying to describe it over a video. So for most of my job it's great but on training and learning new bits even just allocating an hour together with everyone is great. I know in some jobs that's not an issue, but it depends on the work.

Also I find when I work from home people seem to not acknowledge I'm working..so every few mins DH waltzes in asking to do xyz..sort the kids out quickly as they aren't listening. Then my job i should finish in 20 mins takes longer and stupid mistakes can happen as I'm interrupted constantly, so i like being able to go into the office so I can just focus and have everything i need in one room 😅 also even when you chat about work people just assume it's easier work or voluntary work as its from home..even though I do the exact same work in the office 😂

Everythingisnumbersnow · 11/01/2025 14:09

chocolatespreadsandwich · 11/01/2025 13:49

I disagree. It's our youngest employees who are most likely to go into the office more than the mandated minimum
They want the supervision and support and camaraderie. They are least likely to have a lovely little study set up at home. I love my working from home set up but it is a huge luxury to have it , I never forget that many in the teams I manage may live in shared accomodation or cramped flats

Must depend a lot on your sector but in mine the under 30s basically refuse to come in. I do worry that the suffering of my youth helped me develop a lot of coping mechanisms they won't get to build but tough to prescribe stress and discomfort on the offchance it might make you into a bruiser down the line!

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Everythingisnumbersnow · 11/01/2025 14:11

ViolinsPlayGentlyOn · 11/01/2025 14:03

I disagree with this. It’s perfectly possible to creatively collaborate remotely. Even ignoring people WFH, we have people working in different office locations and I don’t think I’ve ever had a meeting with my current team where we’ve all managed to be in the same place at the same time.

Agree. I also think "brainstorming" (aka the only reason they still have a market for post-it notes) is not a great way to get sensible decisions in a lot of industries.

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EffinMagicFairy · 11/01/2025 14:12

If I get called back in full time, currently hybrid, bang goes the early morning and evening Teams meetings with China, India and the US, I shall work my paid hours and no more, currently give more than my commute back in time. I’m also wary of companies insisting on full RTO as they can also use it as a headcount reduction exercise banking on people leaving of their own free will and avoid having to pay severance/redundancy.

BIossomtoes · 11/01/2025 14:12

Everythingisnumbersnow · 11/01/2025 14:11

Agree. I also think "brainstorming" (aka the only reason they still have a market for post-it notes) is not a great way to get sensible decisions in a lot of industries.

It’s a brilliant way to develop ideas in creative industries. Clearly you don’t work in one.

MrsTerryPratchett · 11/01/2025 14:13

Agree. I also think "brainstorming" (aka the only reason they still have a market for post-it notes) is not a great way to get sensible decisions in a lot of industries.

Fundamentally misunderstanding brainstorming.

BIossomtoes · 11/01/2025 14:13

MrsTerryPratchett · 11/01/2025 14:13

Agree. I also think "brainstorming" (aka the only reason they still have a market for post-it notes) is not a great way to get sensible decisions in a lot of industries.

Fundamentally misunderstanding brainstorming.

That too.

Everythingisnumbersnow · 11/01/2025 14:14

MrsTerryPratchett · 11/01/2025 13:54

Many young people are more comfortable collaborating using the digital tools they have grown up with.

A lot of them have phobic avoidance of social situations. Because they've been raised digitally, overly dependent on parents not peers, gaming online, and haven't been forced, yes forced, into social situations to acclimatise.

The number of peers my teen DD has who 'can't' variously; talk to a teacher one-on-one, walk into a shop and buy something, do a club or sport. I'm a pretty low-demand parent but I expect DD to try to be outside her comfort zone to do normal tasks.

And there is already a recognised issue with young men, very isolated and very very maladapted. Socialised by the internet and never having the edges knocked off by working with women, POC, gay people. Locked in their rooms listening to hate. Doing everything online.

Well, I have had social anxiety all my life and it never went away. I was just forced to do awful things while blousey types insisted it was for my own good (Google translate for THEIR good).

It's absolutely awesome not having to interact so much for some people and going back to the office isn't a cure just a lifetime of unnecessary bad experiences.

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Everythingisnumbersnow · 11/01/2025 14:15

MrsTerryPratchett · 11/01/2025 14:13

Agree. I also think "brainstorming" (aka the only reason they still have a market for post-it notes) is not a great way to get sensible decisions in a lot of industries.

Fundamentally misunderstanding brainstorming.

There isn't a magical significance to the word.

God offices were like being trapped in linkedin now I think about it

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Startingagainandagain · 11/01/2025 14:16

'BIossomtoes · Today 14:01

Creative collaboration absolutely requires being in the same space. It’s well nigh impossible to brainstorm (or whatever the in vogue term for it is) if the participants aren’t in the same room. Work should be about being productive not comfortable.'

Untrue.

Most of my career has been in media, design, comms and marketing which requires creativity and I often do 'brainstorming' sessions remotely.

No need whatsoever to be in the same room these days.

Also considering companies may have teams based abroad and/or in various parts of the UK, technology is the best way to bring people together.

lynnepartridge · 11/01/2025 14:19

Ugh I hate hotdesking. We have a job where you need to have everything set up a certain way. I find it soul destroying and don't feel like I belong. I miss having a pic or a plant on my desk.

theeyeofdoe · 11/01/2025 14:20

I dropped off a friend last week as she's (hopefully) temporarily unable to drive and the firm wants them back in the office at least 3 days a week. She managed to get this down to 2, but last week I dropped her off - 10 minutes later she calls to say that there weren't enough work stations and she had been sent home!

MrsTerryPratchett · 11/01/2025 14:21

We're going to become a society of Hikikomori if we don't watch it.

Everythingisnumbersnow · 11/01/2025 14:27

MrsTerryPratchett · 11/01/2025 14:21

We're going to become a society of Hikikomori if we don't watch it.

Not really we just get to control who we see and how and when.

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ShadowsOfTheDays · 11/01/2025 14:28

For much of MN that seems to be at a distance and almost never.

squirrelnutcartel · 11/01/2025 14:29

Everythingisnumbersnow · 11/01/2025 11:02

Yes and a lot of companies have financial interests in the commercial property sector

It's really sad we've missed an opportunity to free people in order to further enrich multimillionaires.

Funnily enough, I've just been talking with ds over facetime and he said that his company are going to demand they go in four times a week from April. He has adhd and will struggle with this, so he's job hunting right now and says he won't stay if they insist upon this. I mentioned about disability and 'reasonable adjustments', but he doesn't want to go down that route.

SerendipityJane · 11/01/2025 14:37

AmiablePedant · 11/01/2025 12:42

Your last sentence is thoughtless and cavalier and quite probably elitist. Tell that to nurses, paramedics, teachers, police, people who mend the roads and clean the streets.

Putting aside the amusing use of the word "cavalier" there, you can be thoughtless, cavalier elitist and correct.

Incidentally, the coming of the motor car did not lead to a complete extinction of horses. In the same way increased WFH won't lead to the end of roles that can't be done WFH.

However in a country obsessed to the point of fetish about "efficiency" it is highly suspicious that the one inefficiency few people talk about is the wasted time commuting. Which can add an extra 25% to a working week.

Has anyone run some modelling to see what reducing a persons free time by 25% does to the economy ? And if they haven't, why the fuck not ? Afraid of what they will find ?

ilovesooty · 11/01/2025 14:40

Everythingisnumbersnow · 11/01/2025 14:27

Not really we just get to control who we see and how and when.

I imagine that many employers will just say you're free to work elsewhere if you don't like the terms of your contract.

MrsTerryPratchett · 11/01/2025 14:45

Which can add an extra 25% to a working week.

Has anyone run some modelling to see what reducing a persons free time by 25% does to the economy ? And if they haven't, why the fuck not ? Afraid of what they will find ?

'...can add' is doing some heavy lifting. Google (and I haven't checked) says the average commute in the UK is 27 minutes. Unless you work less than a 2 hour day, lucky you, that isn't 25%.

user1471556818 · 11/01/2025 14:50

I'm a retired nurse so wfh was never going to be an option. However I'm always surprised that the environmental impact of reducing commuting traffic is never mentioned when talking about wfh.
I also think women in particular need to be really mindful that their work is important and not rush about doing all the homework school runs while the person not at home has a much lighter load.
Just how it's reading from all previous posts about wfh.
It also just plays into the wfh equals not working agenda that's being pushed .
Surely a mix that suits both employees and employers is the way forward.

SerendipityJane · 11/01/2025 14:52

MrsTerryPratchett · 11/01/2025 14:45

Which can add an extra 25% to a working week.

Has anyone run some modelling to see what reducing a persons free time by 25% does to the economy ? And if they haven't, why the fuck not ? Afraid of what they will find ?

'...can add' is doing some heavy lifting. Google (and I haven't checked) says the average commute in the UK is 27 minutes. Unless you work less than a 2 hour day, lucky you, that isn't 25%.

An hours commute each way a day (which I have done on occasion) is 8 hours on a 40 hour week. Which is 20%. And I have worked with colleagues whose commute could average 90 minutes.

Anyway we're just arguing over the price, to channel George Bernard Shaw.

Everythingisnumbersnow · 11/01/2025 14:52

ilovesooty · 11/01/2025 14:40

I imagine that many employers will just say you're free to work elsewhere if you don't like the terms of your contract.

And if their highly skilled staff all do so then what

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SerendipityJane · 11/01/2025 14:53

However I'm always surprised that the environmental impact of reducing commuting traffic is never mentioned when talking about wfh.

Funny, that. It's almost as if climate change is less a real thing and more an excuse when it's needed ... very unreasonable of some people to think that.

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