Male staff in nursery’s

[Itsoneofthose]

Ok, hear me out.. I know this is controversial but today I was shown around a nursery for the first time. I’m dreading leaving my little one, only because I’ll miss her and worry about her. I don’t think my worry is out of proportion or anything like that though. But today I saw two male nursery nurses. Now, I know there are many men who are great with kids, and not all men are a threat to children (obviously) and women can also potentially pose a threat to children but I just don’t know how I feel about male nursery staff. Hmmm. I know I’ll be shot down in flames for this. Nursery’s are well regulated etc etc. I just can’t help feeling a bit uneasy about the whole thing. Has anyone else experienced these thoughts? AIBU

This! I can’t believe some of the comments on here. I wouldn’t want to take any risks with my dc as unfortunately some of us know what the real world is like. Would rather be safe than sorry! Especially at such a young age when they are not quite talking yet.

But why do you feel uneasy, you haven’t answered that. What exactly is it about a man working with children that makes you worried. Until you dig through that (Google the 5 whys, it’s a very useful technique) we can’t really comment.

On the face of what you’ve said though I think you’re being unreasonable. It is good for kids to have carers of both sexes and should help combat unconscious bias and sexism - which may be what you have.

I know a few male hospital doctors who insist on a chaperone to examine a female patient

So glad to read this!

If anyone is ever worried, just ask your setting for their safeguarding procudures and talk to the staff! They’ll be more than happy to talk to you about it.

Nursery's just like schools need a gender balance .

Some men are more nurturing then women and a hell of a lot more fun.lol

I understand that, but if that PP has no intention of making a false allegation, why does she feel the male GP needs one when caring for her?

OP isn’t saying all men are a danger. Why are people making things up?

Thank goodness. Someone who talks sense. Good for you for taking a stand, going with your gut, and not being oppressed by the militantly blue sky thinking, naive PC brigade. Doing what’s right for your child. I like men, and have many good men in my family and yet at 39 years of age would not appreciate personal care by a man. It’s really quite simple.

Hopefully your child won't become unwell, but if they do, what about the male paediatric doctors? Are you going to allow them to treat your child?

I'm sure most men would also feel more comfortable having a male wiping his arse than a woman.

You’re going off at a tangent. Hi

More nuns! Less men! Go! Go! How did you conceive? A session in the back of a Vauxhall Corsa with the book of revelation alone? Crazy nuts!

There is nothing to stop a female member of staff abusing a little boy you know?

To be honest Im not PC at all. I actually would fail the entry test of being liberal. I am very traditional. In a childcare setting it would be near impossible to abuse a child. Really it would. Also I think your views are not healthy and will eventually lead to you being in a position of having your child have their views being that all men are predators or could be.

Not sure how people are drawing a connection between a nursery nurse doing intimate personal care and a doctor / teacher
it’s very different
OP ignore the right on brigade, you know deep down they feel the same but are too afraid to say it

@MMXXV she's saying the ones that are working in the nursery are. With no evidence or reason to believe they would be. So therefore that must mean every man is equally likely.

Because of disgusting bigotry like this thread shows?

And the stereotype that "women ate natural carers"

The more positive male influence in a child's life the better, gives them a reference on how to act and /or how to recognise a not so great male in later life.

It is more likely that those good men could abuse your daughter than someone at a nursery.

Exactly this - my kids loved loved the male member and he was brilliant. Happy, responsive and naturally great with the kids! Ridiculous post

Children attend nursery without their parents. Parents tend to be around when their kids are in hospital.

Or, shock horror. They simply have a different opinion.

All 3 of my DC's have either had or have a male keyworker at nursery. He's also our go to babysitter.

You don't think male doctors might have to give intimate examinations to children who are in their care?

I think you are unreasonable logically. However feeling uncomfortable is my gut reaction at my daughter's childcare having a trainee male childcare worker.