Stbxh says he can't see ds for a month unless he stays at my house this weekend

[SoonToBePinocchiosExWife]

Stbxh sees ds6 every other weekend at his parents house near to me (because he moved 3 hours away and it's the only practical option.). He says he can't stay there this weekend so could he stay here. If not, then it means ds won't see him for a whole month. Ds would be very upset by this, as it happened once before that he didn't see him for a month. AIBU to be peed off over this?

Shame he won't see them then....
Yanbu to not agree to such an idea...

I'd suggest he looks into the option of booking a hotel.

Say no. Tell him to book a Travelodge.

He’s testing your boundaries. If you say once he’ll ask again and again.

Of course he can see him without staying at your house. He doesn’t seem to want to, which makes him crap. Poor DS, I’m sorry.

This. Firm no. In email.

I'm sure there are hotels close by that could put him up. If not then it's him that is disappointing your son, not you. Don't let him blame you.

I’d be planning something special with DS to take his mind off the fact he won’t be seeing his father this weekend.

Premier Inn are doing £45 rooms

His choice… he could make it a lovely weekend at a holiday park or a hotel … don’t let him bully you

Are there no Premier Inns or Travelodges?
Shame he won't see DS for a month in that case.

He needs to sort out an alternate venue. Hotel or air B&B. It's not your responsibility to sort this, do not let him guilt trip you or manipulate you into staying at yours.

Agree with others. Cheap B&B nearby or chain hotel. Your home is not an option and it's not your problem to sort out. Don't engage in pages of messages arguing about it either -a few lines once and ignore everything else sent trying to guilt you into agreeing. Don't even acknowledge it.

What about hotels, bowling, cinema, restaurants, play centres, a million things and places he could go. It's not your problem.

Firm no, he can book a 2 bed air b&b

His issue to solve, not yours. If seeing his child was important to him he’d book somewhere to stay.

Absolutely no. He is seeing how firm your boundaries are if he weaponises the child. You give an inch, he'll take a mile.

What a shame he can’t see his child then. Perhaps suggest he books an air bnb or a hotel?

No he can’t stay at yours

No way. Don't let him stay. Unless he's absolutely on the bones of his arse, he can get a cheap hotel or borrow some money from a friend or sleep in his fucking car.

I don't know any mothers who would just shrug and say "oh well, can't see my child for a month" 🤷 I know plenty of fathers who have done similar (or worse) though. Why are so many men so shit?

Why can't he stay at his parents without them there?

Because then he would have to do the parenting?

Absolutely not, he can get a travelodge. This is his problem to fix.

Agree with this. He does have other options he’s just trying to see what he can get away with, and in your shoes I would absolutely not let this happen.

Id do it for my kid. Seems uncomfortable for all though

No, it'll be a green light and you'll be plagued.

What a shame.

(What a chancer...)

Is he not familiar with Premier Inns or Air BnB?