School uniform, would I be unreasonable to do this?

[FlowerP0w3r]

DD is 7, primary school.
Been in family court for years with her dad and he's finally getting overnights, including midweek.

It will be a big change for DD and not sure how she'll adapt to going from a 5 minute walk to school to a 50 minute drive.. but guess I'll let it happen.

My question is, her dad is an abuser and I have extremely minimal contact with him via a parenting app. He believes providing school uniform is my responsibility and isn't willing to purchase school uniform. So therefore I'm in a position that if I don't send uniform on his overnights that DD will be left without uniform which of course I would never do to her, ever.

My concern is, her father is incredibly vindictive and uniform is going to get "lost". Her uniform is very expensive in particular the outerwear which is embroidered.

I noticed a few children do just wear plain outerwear from George or Tu.

Wibu to send DD to school in just a plain cardigan from Asda or Sainsbury's? I doubt DD would care much, I know her dad won't buy or indeed wash her uniform either whereas I have always sent her in with fresh school uniform every single day.

I don't want to die on this hill but I'm not willing for him to purposely keep or "lose" expensive school uniform so just wondering if this is an acceptable compromise? I've spoken to school about it in the past and they would support my approach as its a situation they are common with.

Any thoughts?

Yes - that's a good question. It will be the OP that is breaking the school rules (by not sending the child in the branded cardigan) and if I was in the OP's position I just wouldn't do that to my child. Especially if OP's ex might use this as evidence against her that she is not clothing the child properly.

OP is not breaking the school rules. She already said lots of children wear unbranded uniform at that school. Primary schools rarely stipulate logos, only secondaries.

I have taken "Her uniform is very expensive in particular the outerwear which is embroidered." to mean that the uniform is branded.

Yes we are told that some families are not wearing branded, they may be ignoring the school rules. I can't see the point of this thread if unbranded uniform is in the school rules

In OP's position I would still send branded outerwear - Dad will have to send child to school in outerwear the next day as it's winter.