To ask the worst things your parents have said to you?

[BradleyGreenToes]

I’ll start -
I’m a slut
I’m a failure without any friends
I’m irrelevant to the family because I don’t have children

That it was all my fault she was unwell and if she had never had me then she would have had a great life.
Also, it was good my little boy died at birth as all the men in our family aren't right in the head, and I wouldn't want a son like that 😭

Not to us, in front of us. 'I wish my kids were like x + y' (our cousins) i think I must have been about 6.

My dad also said 'everything you touch turns to shit' when I was about 11.

Lots of vile stuff including age about 8 "i love you because youre my daughter but i dont like you", always telling me i was lazy, selfish, ungrateful and a drama queen (ive now been diagnosed as neurodiverse). Constant criticism of every little thing. Told me i had teenage acne because i was dirty and ate too much cheese (one cheese sandwich for lunch). Dragged me, literally to a hairdresser age 7 to have my long hair cut into a horrible brutal style, i cried and begged and cried for about four hours. Called me a "slut" age 11 for having a messy bedroom. Regularly sneaked through my stuff, once even opening a sealed letter id written to my bf (i was 20) then got mad at what was written. She was utterly unhinged. Now shes relatively normal but i think she lives in fear that i will tell my dad about it all.

I’m so sorry, what a wicked thing to say

My mum to me after she had a vaginal prolapse: “it’s your fault”. Right sure it is.

So many to mention.

someone gave me a pair of shoes ‘she must have felt sorry for you’

’we are just so ashamed of the way you look, don’t really want to be seen with you’

’you are terrible mother’

’you are too selfish’

and the worst was I tried to tell them I had been sexually assaulted ‘that’s not a very nice thing to say, keep your voice down’ (I was 15)

erc etc etc

My mum used to always say how great her life would have been without children as well.
Saying that about your baby is much worse though.

Oh I remember another, took my watch (I was about 10) told me I couldn’t be trusted to go out as I hadn’t been honest about losing my watch

Hope this is a cathartic thread and not a depressing one. It does seem that many people have managed to build happy lives despite their childhoods but others like me are still struggling massively with their MH.

I love you but I don't like you.

I was born at 27 weeks so spent the first part of my life in hospital, as a child my mum regularly told me that it was so fucking boring sitting next to my incubator all day and she used to pray I'd just die. She also regularly told me she wished she'd had an abortion.

JFC

That she thought she was miscarrying whilst pregnant with me, and seeing how I turned out she wished she had.

She's a nasty, bitter, old bitch. I've got an amazing family who love me. I wish I could be the bigger person and wish her well, but I can't. I wish her many years of misery.

When I was 18 and my first ever boyfriend had dumped me after 9 months. It was my first experience of heartbreak and my mum felt it best to console me with: well- you have put on quite a bit of weight since you got together.

Compounded my existing disordered eating even further. Thanks mum. 👍🏼

These nasty parents will get old and be treated as if they've been saints as well. Abused adult children will be expected to bend over backwards to care for these elderly parents and treated like monsters for not having any of it.

My Mum said ‘I love you but I don’t like you’ in response to me being a very tricky teenager ! I have never reflected on that comment, all my memories of my Mum are good ones .

OMG so much

Your fat
Your ugly
Your stupid
I never wanted a girl
If I knew then what I know now I'd never of had you
No one would want you
Your bf is having an affair no one could love you

I wish I'd just replied "of course I am, I have your DNA"

When I went to school orientation they said my gym class was being replaced with a required reading class because of my dyslexia. She turned to me with extreme anger on her face and when we got home she said that everyday I have to excerise and tell her what I did and for how long.

My 11 month old baby had a severe sickness bug (ended up hospitalised with it). As a first time Mum I told my own Mum on the phone that I was worried about him as he’d not moved from my lap for 2 days & was unable to keep anything down. Her reply, “So you’re sat there on your backside getting fatter whilst he gets thinner”. For context, I am and always been a size 10, although at that point I was still carrying my baby weight and was a size 12.

''You are stupid you and always will be'' from my father after failing my 11 plus.
''You are a vain little madam'' from my mother when I wanted to wear girly clothes. She was never cut out to be the mother of girls.

Just from my Mum when I was a child:

She wished she'd never had children
She was calling social services to take us away
We were the worst children in the world and what did she do to deserve us
No wonder I didn't have any friends (have no clue what I did for her to say this)
That she was going to leave and never come back (followed by her leaving us in the house alone).

Too much to repeat.

I think up there is my dad repeatedly telling us that he never wanted children and calling us animals.

When I was 14 he sat me down and told me that if I ran away he wouldn't look for me.

Oh this. How could I forget this one

Sorry didn't link to the original comment - it was the I love you but don't like you

Huge impact on my mental health and self esteem. I am taking all sorts of medication and it just takes the edge off that's all. I am so sorry to read all of the comments. Sending you all love x