To ask the worst things your parents have said to you?

[BradleyGreenToes]

I’ll start -
I’m a slut
I’m a failure without any friends
I’m irrelevant to the family because I don’t have children

And ‘you’ll miss her when she’s gone, I’d give anything for one more day with my poor mum’.

Yes that's such a mind fuck! It's easier if they're horrible all the time than these ridiculous mood swings.

@InformerYaNoSayDaddyMeSnowMeIGoBlameALickyBoom

me she forgave me for having an affair with her husband (I was 10 and he was 50) and that when i realised she knew about the abuse all along.

Fewer people need to be parents. I mean that seriously.

She once told me if I wore pink cut off (ankle length) striped trousers (early 80s, I was a student) everyone would know I was a prostitute. Hope I'm a more understanding parent!

You're boring and no one in the family likes you. I was about 11.. I was a bit of a bookworm and didn't like family parties where they were all drinking.

I once called and asked my parents for a lift to the hospital when I thought my one year old son was having seizures. They wouldn’t come and my mum told me I needed to “take responsibility for my own child”. This was after not having a single break for a year because they never offered to babysit. They’d never once looked after him and “taken responsibility for him” for me. It’s not as though I was dumping him on them all the time. I only asked for help that one time because it was a literal emergency. By the way they live 10 minutes away and were perfectly capable of driving us to the hospital, just couldn’t be bothered. I lost all respect for them that day.

Don't have children they ruin your life. She had a point.

That I’m being a princess because I’m not letting the man who sexually abused me as a child walk me down the aisle at my wedding.

I eloped in the end.

‘I hate you I hate you I hate you’ while hitting me (I was backed into a corner)

tbh I don’t blame my mum, I blame my dad who upped and left her with 3 very young children and was never seen or heard from again

another one that stuck with me and fundamentally changed the way I viewed my mum

‘your life is so sad’

I could write a book on this

the one that sticks in my mind is
you look like white trash (I’m mixed)
slut/ slag the usual

you would help anyone apart from your own family

you’re a stuck up show off: swanning around with Ralph Lauren towels, don’t forget you were once a single mum in a scruffy house

my sister was diagnosed with cancer a few months ago. My mother was sobbing to me one day and said who will have her children if she dies?
I said of course I would bring them up and she sneered something about me being too selfish

My ‘D’M told me she only had me so she didn’t have to get a job

You were an accident
Why aren't you like your sister in law?

Slag
moron
haven’t even got the courage to kill yourself
look at your birth certificate and laugh that off

Nothing as bad as some of you MNetters, those parents sound so awful.

But-

That I had verbal diarrhoea
That my saving grace was that I could laugh at myself

My mum found a pregnancy test under my bed when I was 15. She was furious and when I tried to tell her I had been raped... She called me a slut and that I deserved what I got for ebing a slut. This was in 1992. Hardly the Victorian era :(

I actually spent my Christmas that year alone, in my brother's girlfriend's flat while they were on holiday because I'd been kicked out. I made 1 bag of chips last 2 days.

I was called fat, useless, frumpy, lazy, naive all kinds of things. What I actually was, was autistic/ADHD (diagnosed this year) and my autistic brain couldn't see when people where trying to decieve me. I'm honest and don't see other people's alterior motives. That was 1 of 5 rapes in my lifetime. I never learned to see clues about people being deceptive!

My two closest friends are also no contact with their shitty mothers.

This is why I just smile when people insist that if a woman has carried a child in her body she is absolutely going to love it to death.

Not particularly. I just don’t get why mothers like this bother having kids and “raising” them?

Is it because they felt they had too?

Another friend of mine is childfree (as his her sister) and she tells me the reason she is ChildFree is because her mother spent her whole life telling them “never have kids - they fuck up your life”.

So they listened….but I cannot imagine your MOTHER telling you that day in and day out.

Fucking stupid
Stupid cunt
Fucking cunt
Fucking slag

Probably many more things I've burried.

The absolute worst was my mother telling me that I should "get rid of" my eldest when I was 12 weeks pregnant.

And she wonders why I haven't seen her now for 3 years.

There’s been so, so many. The most memorable that caused me absolute shock was a few days after I discovered my ex DH’s affair. I was staying with my parents and she was helping me feed my 9 month old. I said she couldn’t give dc chocolate for breakfast and she said “mummy is such a bitch isn’t she! No wonder your Daddy has found someone better.” After nearly 30 years of abuse for some reason that one was the one that made me go low contact.

I’m so sorry. I hope your diagnosis has brought you some peace ❤️

Funny thing is I had an amazing mother but still struggle with self-esteem but I think other things have eroded it over the years undoing my parents good work.

Maybe.

To my DM I was always "ridiculous", "stupid", "selfish" and "ungrateful". Also when I happened to have an opinion I was deliberately offensive and attacking her, even when talking to someone else. Everything I did or didn't do was to provoke/upset her. My tastes/my choices were always disappointing. She always insulted me when we argued and used to pinch me and slap me (until one day I slapped her back). She understood why I had no friends (I was bullied throughout all primary school) because I was a weirdo who liked to read. If I expressed my opinions, nobody would want me. Oh, and of course, I was always either fat or dangerously becoming fat. Tbh I've blocked many, many memories about her. She was unpredictable, choleric and emotionally dysregulated. But according to her, I have a "very vivid imagination" so maybe this is all made up as she would have me believe.

I was the only one of my friends who looked fat and sweaty after exercising

I always failed everything (I didn't, the only thing I failed was my driving test once)

That when I was the victim of an attempted rape it was my own fault and she was ashamed

That when I found it hard that my first baby never ever slept she'd report me to social services and gave him taken off me for someone who'd appreciate him

God, that’s so spiteful. I’m glad you have gone LC with her.

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My friend’s mom said this to her and her sister constantly.