Page 8 | To ask the worst things your parents have said to you?

BradleyGreenToes · 2025-01-04T19:33:09+00:00

I’ll start - I’m a slut I’m a failure without any friends I’m irrelevant to the family because I don’t have children

Oneinacuckoonest · 04/01/2025 21:55

Where to start.
I was so happy when you were born. They told me I had a baby girl and I thought she’d be pretty, she’d have beautiful curly hair and I’d dress her in lovely dresses. But I got you.

Couple of years later aged 6-7 I’d run away from home to my best friend’s house. Her dad drove me home, of course. My parents very all nice and smiley with him then my father backed me into a corner and told me if I didn’t want to live with them that was fine they could easily put me in a children’s home like they’d done with P ( child they’d fostered)

And these really weren’t the worst.

middleagedandinarage · 04/01/2025 21:55

Here comes moby dick!

I was 10 on a family beach holiday, slightly over weight child. Never forgotten my mother saying it.

NoahsTortoise · 04/01/2025 21:55

tellitonthemountains · 04/01/2025 19:54

OP, did our parents attend the same parenting course?

My mum repeatedly told me I didn’t have any friends when I was a kid and teenager. Odd as I had loads and she didn’t have any.

When I did fall out with some friends at school in my teens, both parents were initially very supportive, but at the first small argument – “None of your friends like you”

The other one that stuck from my mum was telling me when I was about 5 that I was just a blob on the horizon and she only had 1 child (that being our grown up brother – she told this to me, 5, my younger brother, 3, while drunk.) Mad stuff.

Sorry you’ve had that experience. I think some people are just very emotionally immature.

Are you in contact with them now?

Wow weird to read this, my mum used to say similar to me when she was annoyed with me - "no wonder you have no friends" or "no wonder [boy I liked] doesn't like you".

She also used to constantly tell me I was "showing off" in front of other people to shut me up if I was doing/saying something she didn't like.

She'd never admit it now, to be honest she probably genuinely doesn't remember it/has blanked it out, but I remember. I really hope never to be purposely spiteful to my own daughter, even in moments of anger.

I have a good relationship with my mum and she'd never acknowledge any of this now, and it was all done in the trenches of parenting a teenager, but I still hope to do better myself when the time comes.

Takeoutyourhen · 04/01/2025 21:56

My mum has called me a cold-hearted parent as I don’t parent exactly the same as her or more likely, I don’t do what she tells me and she takes that as a personal slight.
Has also threatened to ruin my marriage if I mentioned something trivial about a sibling.
Nothing in comparison to some of the examples here. Why are some parents so evil?

TableDoorbellSmile · 04/01/2025 21:58

InformerYaNoSayDaddyMeSnowMeIGoBlameALickyBoom · 04/01/2025 19:43

Oh god i wouldn't know where to start with my mother.

Some childhood gems include "you have to suffer to look beautiful", "I never wanted a girl", "You're so fat" (size 8 and she was a size 26), she also made a massive speech the night before my wedding telling me she forgave me for having an affair with her husband (I was 10 and he was 50) and that when i realised she knew about the abuse all along.

Then after my sons death she told me I fucked up the only good thing I've ever done.

I could write a book on the crap she's said to me, been NC for a lot of years now and life is so much better, although she tells people I'm mentally ill and that's why I'm NC, so that's fun too.

NC?! You have done well not to murder her! Well done on seeing her for what she is and moving on with your life. You are amazing and if being like you is called being ‘mentally ill’ then we should all
aspire to it!

hlc123 · 04/01/2025 21:59

I must like making everyone miserable - I was 11 and had just started experiencing anxiety and panic attacks
I was an evil, selfish little shit
They are too old and too tired for my drama - they are in their 60s and me and my children were going through a horrendous time and they let us down big time

LozzaChops101 · 04/01/2025 22:00

Sorry to read everyone’s responses, nobody deserves any of it!

My mother has come out with some quite poisonous things, but one that keeps popping into my head recently is when I was about 6 and she said really viciously “you don’t deserve friends.” She has this way of hissing things through gritted teeth that still makes my stomach church. I think it was because I was too anxious to pick up the phone to someone. Wonder why!

WeWillGetThereInTheEnd · 04/01/2025 22:02

“Either you throw him out (my parents lent me money from my trust to buy a half share in a flat, while I took out a mortgage to pay the other half); or we’ll throw you out. We don’t want mixed race grandchildren!”

My boyfriend was Chinese!

“No daughter of ours is marrying a Catholic!”

Another boyfriend!

WendyA22 · 04/01/2025 22:04

Mum to me : The only difference between you and your cousin (who was a prostitute), is that she charges!
When I got in late after being raped aged 15 she made me strip off in the passage (in front of my dad) and said it wasn't rape.

Told my young sister, whose 6 month old baby died of cot death, that it must have been her fault because she'd probably used fly spray around her.

Told my sister that she was the reason that she argued with our dad all the time, making my sister feel really guilty. They had been arguing and fighting for years before they had my sister.

When my sister finally killed herself (years after our dad killed himself), my mum blamed me for her death, saying I must have said something to upset her.

Daniki · 04/01/2025 22:05

When my parents split up my mam took it really bad and was out drinking a lot. I was 11 and my younger brother was 7. She came home one night in a state and woke us up, my brother started crying and could hear her giving out to him. I remember charging in and roaring at her to leave him alone she could say whatever she wanted to me but not him. She told me to pack my suitcase and go live with my dad she didn't want me.
Still remember it clearly now, she sorted herself out and is grand now but I can't be around her when she drinks she is twisty.

CJFJ1 · 04/01/2025 22:07

"If any of you are gay, you're disgusting and no longer part of this family" (to me and my siblings)

Monstermashermashedthemonster · 04/01/2025 22:07

It has to be what my dad said to me on a regular basis.
I should have beat her until she lost you.

Hwi · 04/01/2025 22:08

Awful examples, difficult read. But you know what? My aunt and her husband were old first-time parents. They worshipped their daughter, literally, from birth. She was told 24/7 that she was the most beautiful, talented, amazing person requiring no improvement and that any person would be beyond lucky to be around her. She grew up into a fat slobby person convinced she was beautiful and even irresistible. Did not bother to study well at school - why, she was already amazing. Dropped out of uni, treated boyfriends like dirt, encouraged by her loving parents, as no man was good enough for her. Dropped her music lessons, dropped her horse-riding. Never heard a simple 'no' from her parents, and never heard a word of criticism from them either. She is a bewildered miserable person now, uncle died, lives with her mum. The other aunt had criticised, belittled and even slapped her 3 children into high achievers, well adjusted and happily married people. Strange thing, unconditional love, I think.

adviceneeded1990 · 04/01/2025 22:08

InformerYaNoSayDaddyMeSnowMeIGoBlameALickyBoom · 04/01/2025 20:09

Its so much easier for people like them to blame those they made victims.

Me and my kids play a game of what mental illness my mother will say I have this year.

She gets a certain amount of my life fed back to her, not much because I don't keep in touch with anyone who knows her, but it's a very gossipy area.

So my daughter, a few years back was very ill and in hospital for a few weeks, my mother told everyone she wasn't really unwell, I just had munchausen by proxy (she had sepsis).

Then she heard one of my older dds had a girlfriend and told everyone that I had forced my dd to be a lesbian to cast shame on the family, and also to get money from the benefits office (somehow).

She has also told everyone (including going into several places I've worked) that I'm a sex addict and will try to have sex with everyone to get babies from them.

I also had cancer a few years back and she told everyone that I blamed her and her genetics for my cancer and that my blame was going to kill her, never even thought about her when I was going through it tbh.

As much as growing up with her was traumatic, the shit she spouts now is pretty funny.

She has also written a death letter telling me how shit I am and how great she was and all the awful things about me and how I am banned from her funeral and deathbed (as if I would go) and that's wht she has, apparently, left m in her will. Jokes on her because it will be getting burned. I won't even open it.

Hopefully you get to the point where you can just laugh at the bullshit op 💐

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No one told me paid lesbianism was an option before I married a man! 😅 Glad you have no intention of going to her funeral!

lifeonmars100 · 04/01/2025 22:08

my dad used to call me the "whore of Babylon" and tell me I was pretty but not attractive and when I got into college said it was a "second rate place that took second rate people". There was a lot of other stuff too but not really fit to post on a public forum and one of insults was alliterative involving using my name followed by a string of nasty adjectives. He thought this was clever and funny. Oh and then there were the months on end he didn't speak to me at all and used to walk out of every room I walked into and at mealtimes would point at me and say "who is that girl, why is she in our house?"

PleurePasLaBouchePleine · 04/01/2025 22:10

She is a failure
you are fat
fat cow

from my my parents/sibling

PrincessHoneysuckle · 04/01/2025 22:10

Of course you've got back ache you spend most of your time on it

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BradleyGreenToes · 04/01/2025 22:11

WendyA22 · 04/01/2025 22:04

Mum to me : The only difference between you and your cousin (who was a prostitute), is that she charges!
When I got in late after being raped aged 15 she made me strip off in the passage (in front of my dad) and said it wasn't rape.

Told my young sister, whose 6 month old baby died of cot death, that it must have been her fault because she'd probably used fly spray around her.

Told my sister that she was the reason that she argued with our dad all the time, making my sister feel really guilty. They had been arguing and fighting for years before they had my sister.

When my sister finally killed herself (years after our dad killed himself), my mum blamed me for her death, saying I must have said something to upset her.

I don’t know how to respond. That’s so heartbreaking.

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thepariscrimefiles · 04/01/2025 22:11

InformerYaNoSayDaddyMeSnowMeIGoBlameALickyBoom · 04/01/2025 19:43

Oh god i wouldn't know where to start with my mother.

Some childhood gems include "you have to suffer to look beautiful", "I never wanted a girl", "You're so fat" (size 8 and she was a size 26), she also made a massive speech the night before my wedding telling me she forgave me for having an affair with her husband (I was 10 and he was 50) and that when i realised she knew about the abuse all along.

Then after my sons death she told me I fucked up the only good thing I've ever done.

I could write a book on the crap she's said to me, been NC for a lot of years now and life is so much better, although she tells people I'm mentally ill and that's why I'm NC, so that's fun too.

JFC, your mum is pure evil. What a disgusting human being she is. So sorry you had to endure all that.

lifeonmars100 · 04/01/2025 22:11

JHound · 04/01/2025 21:09

@InformerYaNoSayDaddyMeSnowMeIGoBlameALickyBoom

me she forgave me for having an affair with her husband (I was 10 and he was 50) and that when i realised she knew about the abuse all along.

Fewer people need to be parents. I mean that seriously.

I agree and I would include myself in that category too. I have done my best but I wasn't the sort of mum I hoped I would be and a lot of that was to do with having a bit of a fucked up childhood. my mum was kind and loving but my dad was the opposite

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BradleyGreenToes · 04/01/2025 22:13

Hwi · 04/01/2025 22:08

Awful examples, difficult read. But you know what? My aunt and her husband were old first-time parents. They worshipped their daughter, literally, from birth. She was told 24/7 that she was the most beautiful, talented, amazing person requiring no improvement and that any person would be beyond lucky to be around her. She grew up into a fat slobby person convinced she was beautiful and even irresistible. Did not bother to study well at school - why, she was already amazing. Dropped out of uni, treated boyfriends like dirt, encouraged by her loving parents, as no man was good enough for her. Dropped her music lessons, dropped her horse-riding. Never heard a simple 'no' from her parents, and never heard a word of criticism from them either. She is a bewildered miserable person now, uncle died, lives with her mum. The other aunt had criticised, belittled and even slapped her 3 children into high achievers, well adjusted and happily married people. Strange thing, unconditional love, I think.

There is a middle ground where parents don’t abuse or mollycoddle their children!

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TunaTheSilverTabbyCat · 04/01/2025 22:14

Screaming 'you're so much like your fucking father' literally centimetres from my face
'Yeah, that's if it'll fit you' after picking an item up in a clothes shop
'What the fucks the matter with you' coming down the stairs after having a nap as I was ill and shattered after cooking for 15 people on Xmas Day
Speaking about my 27 year old daughter who's a bit of a tomboy 'she needs to wear make up, it'll make her more attractive' - she's actually really rather beautiful without it

A few gems there, there's lots more
My Mother is a delight!!

Tracystubbs · 04/01/2025 22:14

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I was raped by a friend (a trusted friend) and I was finding it hard to cope,I was just trying to get through the next minute,let alone the day

I'm nc with my family,so hadn't said a word to anyone,least of all them

Of course my mother found out (god only knows how) and dined out for weeks on the details that she made up

One of her friends (who is a genuinely lovely woman) said 'oh Tracy's mum,don't you think she needs support?can you reach out to her?she needs you right now'

My mother-'oh Katherine!she didn't realise she'd been raped until the cheque bounced'

(An unfunny joke from ofah-del says it to rodney)

The lady was so upset,she rang me to tell me (god knows why but she did)

All the 'I wish I'd never had you' 'after everything I do for you' (that was a joke) and 'having you has ruined my life/marriage/dreams' paled into comparison

She laughed when the bastard was found not guilty and was off again,telling all her mates the finer (made up) details

And it's a total mystery to the family why I refuse to speak to them

GreyLion · 04/01/2025 22:14

When I first alerted my Dad that I was being bullied at High School. I had explained it was two girls in a different year to me had no classes with or any reason to speak with me. They randomly started on me at break times and after school. One threatening to beat me up. His response was basically that I must have started it.

Doggymummar · 04/01/2025 22:14

I wish I had aborted you, like your grandparents wanted.