To ask the worst things your parents have said to you?

[BradleyGreenToes]

I’ll start -
I’m a slut
I’m a failure without any friends
I’m irrelevant to the family because I don’t have children

My mother said it was the reason why my parents got divorced. Apparently I wasn't an easy child and always fought with my sister.

My dad had an affair. My mother was utterly vile.

If everyone else knew what you were really like, they wouldn’t like you.
I made you, I can do whatever I want to you / it’s not your hair, it’s mine, I made it.

I’m never sure which personality disorder she has, but I’m pretty sure she’s got one.

I get judged by my mum as well as criticism yet people say aww, I hope you will speak to your mum you only get one

From my mum
You are always so weird when you come back from your dad's..

I was 8 years old saw my dad once every 3 weeks.

sorry you’ve been through all that @tellitonthemountains
My father is dead now (good riddence) and I’m NC with my mother but she keeps hassling me to get back in contact. I’ve repeatedly forgiven her throughout my life but not any more.

When I announced my pregnancy after a stillbirth my DM said “well I’m not buying it anything, I wasted my money last time,

Adding to say, what a sad, disturbing thread this is. It feels good to vent a little, it weirdly feels good to know we all weren't alone, but what a sad read it is. Thoughts are with everyone who grew up/currently dealing with shit that our parents should have dealt with themselves before having kids. No wonder mental health issues are on the rise, let's hope we're breaking the chain with the next generation. God knows I'm trying my best to never be like mine.

I’m so sorry, that is vile.

You are too thin to be seen out wearing them (leggings at about 8 years old)

You know what you've done and you need to apologise properly (25 years on still don't know)

I don't want to talk about your children. I don't know them and they mean nothing to me.

Your dad wants nothing to do with you after what you've done (?)

No contact for approx 26 years, sporadic attempts to make contact (see examples above). I have severe mental health problems and can no longer cope with any contact.

I'll never be attractive or get a man with the way I am..I was 14.

I'll never forget the day she sat me down to explain why my sibling was her favourite🙄

Name changed.
'It's all your fault I did this'
This was said to me after her failed suicide attempt when I was 15.

I've always been anti animal testing, always buying cruelty free beauty products (but never shouting about it and completely non judgemental on those that don't)
When I had my daughter my spiteful father said 'if your baby gets cancer it'll be interesting to see your morals then, you'll be refusing treatment will you?'
Interestingly he died of cancer 4 years later - can't say I shed any tears. Horrible man.

That’s awful. I got the “your sister got the beauty, you got the brains” talk.

That’s KARMA 😀

What a wicked thing to say

"If you were a proper mother your children would have been brought up properly and treated their grandparents with respect, and I would have a better relationship with them".

From the woman who never babysat once.

Last time I saw her. She's dead now thankfully, but I'll be a long time in therapy. I know now she was a covert narcissist. Horrific.

Wow
I'm incredibly sorry for everyone on this thread's experiences .
I'm inspired by all of you x

'You're an awful nasty person and people don't actually like you. If they knew the real you they'd know how you're not actually this nice person you pretend to be. I know the real truth about how awful you are' - from my 'mother'

I was so young, maybe 9 or 10. I was, as I am now, an easy, likeable person. I think this was the first time I'd really understood that my mother hated me and begun to understand what a manipulative gas-lighter she was. I'm very grateful she can no longer harm me and is no longer in my life. Good riddance.

Its so much easier for people like them to blame those they made victims.

Me and my kids play a game of what mental illness my mother will say I have this year.

She gets a certain amount of my life fed back to her, not much because I don't keep in touch with anyone who knows her, but it's a very gossipy area.

So my daughter, a few years back was very ill and in hospital for a few weeks, my mother told everyone she wasn't really unwell, I just had munchausen by proxy (she had sepsis).

Then she heard one of my older dds had a girlfriend and told everyone that I had forced my dd to be a lesbian to cast shame on the family, and also to get money from the benefits office (somehow).

She has also told everyone (including going into several places I've worked) that I'm a sex addict and will try to have sex with everyone to get babies from them.

I also had cancer a few years back and she told everyone that I blamed her and her genetics for my cancer and that my blame was going to kill her, never even thought about her when I was going through it tbh.

As much as growing up with her was traumatic, the shit she spouts now is pretty funny.

She has also written a death letter telling me how shit I am and how great she was and all the awful things about me and how I am banned from her funeral and deathbed (as if I would go) and that's wht she has, apparently, left m in her will. Jokes on her because it will be getting burned. I won't even open it.

Hopefully you get to the point where you can just laugh at the bullshit op 💐

Amongst the general nastiness, telling me I was fat and calling me a slut my favourite, and how I wished it was true, was that I must have been swapped at birth because she couldn’t have spawned a child like me!

‘Why do people have children?’. 🤔
Thanks Dad .

My mother "I wish I'd killed your whilst it was legal", I was 13. Needless to say I have nothing to do with her as an adult

And from my dad after my brother died.
'And now we're only left with you'
He didn't say it but I could feel 'I wish it had been you' on the tip of his tongue.

I’m glad you have your own lovely family now and can laugh at her batshit craziness 😀

Both parents told me I was a mistake. I'd worked that out from the short gap between their wedding and my date of birth to be honest!

When I had my first DC, they told all my family that I wouldn't let them see the baby. I had concerned aunties ringing me up telling me to include them. They'd seen us twice a week including being the first people to meet the baby.