To think I’m not doing anything wrong

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Back to work on Monday after a lovely 2 weeks off! I’m currently reading a book (well I was before I came on here) with a glass of wine and left over Pringles from Christmas.

DH was out doing his hobby and he’s just come back home and asked me why I was drinking. I said I’m having a glass of wine, not exactly having shots rolling around everywhere. He said that I shouldn’t be drinking while looking after DC and that drinking alone in the house when it’s not Christmas anymore is “weird” DC1 is upstairs in their room and DC2 is sat on the floor playing.

AIBU?

Ah I just know these things🤔

Why?

I don't get this attitude - OP isn't doing anything wrong and it would be overkill to say you'd watch it after this.

I finished work on the 20th and go back on Monday, so I am very much still in 'Christmas mode' and will be until tomorrow evening!

Hilarious. So people with children should never, ever, ever have a drink by that standard.

I do hope that on Christmas Day there was s designated driver at every table, the ambulance person, in case a sprout went down the wrong way or the pudding set someone on fire!

I take everything I read on mumsnet with a pinch of salt 😊

@Mydogisamassivetwat I could easily go and drink the rest but why would I want to do that when I could watch DC2 play happily with his cars or go and chat with DC1 while he’s on the PlayStation with his friends to be told to get out🥲

But you didn't, you outright said she was lying and you can "guarantee" it. Speaks more about you than anything else 🤷‍♀️

What’s the point though? If you’re not going to accept what the OP says, what’s the point in reading/engaging with the thread?
OP: My boyfriend is cheating on me.
You: Is he though? Maybe you’re the one cheating on him? I’m taking what you say with a pinch of salt!

I'm not saying you should or shouldn't do anything, but explaining what I did. 😒

I actually think hiding your drinking is more worrying than having a glass of wine on a Saturday afternoon while the children are playing happily.

They would do whatever those without a car would do

Ridiculous

You were having a glass of wine. Not doing bottles of the stuff. It is perfectly reasonable to enjoy a couple of drinks at home (no matter the time of year) whilst you’re relaxing.

This is also coming from someone who doesn’t even drink!

I finished a bottle of vodka last night that I bought Christmas 2023 so I'm not exactly a big drinker, I don't think you've done anything wrong at all! It was a glass of wine not a box of wine following a full bottle of spirits, tell DH to wind his neck in.

If you were drinking constantly or it was interfering with your ability to function/look after the DC then yeah maybe cut down/ pick your timing better but in the circumstances you've described? I'm jealous and good for you for taking some time to yourself

You aren't doing anything wrong by the sounds of things. However, if you rarely drink and you're drinking alone and in the afternoon, I can see why your DH might be concerned. I would find it odd if I found my DH drinking alone in the afternoon- mainly because he doesn't ever drink alone so I'd probably wonder if he was ok.

But in itself, what you're doing isn't 'wrong', no.

I love this arguement. It's completely ridiculous. In 31 years of parenting 3 kids I've never had to do this. And if I had to I would get a taxi.

Howling at the thought of not reading a book in front of the children - pass me the gin smelling salts

I’m not a drinker either, I am also not a driver.

If my children need to go to hospital and it’s not urgent I would get the bus (lucky to have a limited stop service that gets me there in 15 minutes), if it was urgent I would ask a family member, friend or call a taxi and if it was life threatening I would be calling 999.

I would imagine OP would use one of these many methods if she felt like she couldn’t drive.

@myrtleWilson I am wondering if it was a troll because surely nobody actually thinks like this

It's pretty well accepted that kids seeing their parents enjoying reading then take more of an interest in books and reading themselves. Seeing parents have a drink will also let them learn that a drink is to be appreciated and can be on its own.
Seeing hidden alcohol and hidden reading may make them more thrilling though! Kids rarely miss much - mine were well aware I sneaked a Flake in the evening and went to some lengths to get a bite out of it too!
Anyway, not sure why I added this as I've obviously been an absolutely appalling parent and even continue as grandma as in letting every adult have a unit of alcohol Xmas day whilst u18s were in the house 👀

Tell your husband not to go out do you can have a drink!

And not everyone can drive/has a car so I always think this is a stupid argument

Every bloody time, its like mumnset bingo! How bloody often do you take your kids to A&E of an evening ?

You could still have a glass - assuming it’s not one of those half-pint jobs.

I don't even have a car!! What will I do if any of my kids need urgent care?

I don't think people should drink when they're taking care or children but I hate drinking full stop but the inability to drive somewhere is kind of a moot point there are people who simply cannot drive