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What are people doing to their faces?!

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Mania89 · 03/01/2025 23:27

I am mid 30s. Colour my hair, wear makeup, thread my eyebrows etc so not completely natural but my goodness what are people doing to their faces?! Young women who are beautiful now have so much injected into their faces that they cannot move them at all. I was looking back at photos in my mid 20s and was wondering why on earth did I worry about my looks at all. Hindsight is wonderful! And I am despairing that girls younger than this have already started to inject Botox and fillers. The world is going mad and don’t even get me started on weight loss injections for those who are not clinically obese! I have two daughters and really feel so worried for them up.

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Livelovebehappy · 05/01/2025 18:09

I just think this comes under the banner ‘each to their own’. Most adult women are very capable of deciding what’s important in their lives, what makes them feel good and how to spend their money. I think lip fillers are hideous if over used, and don’t make women more attractive, but the reverse, but it really is upto them. Never was an issue in my teen years or early twenties, but we didn’t have the internet then, which I think is responsible for womens low esteem, where they read and see criticism all the time on peoples weight and looks. I have fillers and Botox, but it’s very subtle - I don’t go overboard with it. I don’t have low esteem issues, but just like to look the best version of myself. I’m in my 50’s. But I respect that other people don’t bother about things like this, and that’s okay too. 🤷‍♀️

Spriterat · 05/01/2025 18:10

I work in a secondary school and students as young as year 7 come in with huge false lashes and semi permanent eye brows tattooed on - they look ridiculous. We have one year 11 that has had lip fillers - I was so shocked when I saw it. She is so young and she will never have her own face again as I am pretty sure once you start that kind of thing there is no turning back.

Kentucky83 · 05/01/2025 18:10

I worked with a lass a few years ago, she had this done after talking about 'getting her face fixed'. She was 19, and felt like her face needed 'fixing'. So I'm inclined to agree with OP, it does worry me that young women think this way about their natural bodies.

ChristmasKelpie · 05/01/2025 18:15

Anotherparkingthread · 04/01/2025 00:05

Frankly, while you're entitled to an opinion, they are also entitled to an opinion. It's their bodies. Their choice. They like it.

The only person who getting upset about it is you, and it isn't your business.

You are on a public forum, opinions will voiced.

Ponoka7 · 05/01/2025 18:15

ErniesGhostlyGoldTops · 04/01/2025 12:13

I'm not convinced that men find it attractive though.

I have male friends and out and about, they are scathing about 'sink plunger' lips and being able to 'suck a golf ball down a hosepipe'.

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And you don't pull them up on being so derogatory? Do they come out with the shit about women smelling bad if they have sexual partners and wizards sleeves? It all comes from the same agenda of policing women's behaviour. While paying for only fans/chasing women who do have work done.

Let's face it! There's a classist element to putting down some chosen looks. Although I remember feeling sad when Marnie Simpson (Geordie Shore) had work done, she was naturally beautiful, just didn't have the sex doll look going on. It was after she went on Big Brother, alongside women who did have a lot of work done.

Ponoka7 · 05/01/2025 18:18

Spriterat · 05/01/2025 18:10

I work in a secondary school and students as young as year 7 come in with huge false lashes and semi permanent eye brows tattooed on - they look ridiculous. We have one year 11 that has had lip fillers - I was so shocked when I saw it. She is so young and she will never have her own face again as I am pretty sure once you start that kind of thing there is no turning back.

Of course she will have her natural look back, as soon as they disolve. I know it's disappointing to many on her that women aren't disfigured for life, but except for face lifts, it can all be undone. I take it, it was passed to the safeguarding lead?

Nikki75 · 05/01/2025 18:19

Angrymum22 · 04/01/2025 02:10

Jocelyn Wildenstien died recently. These are her before and after photos. Admittedly she had surgery but her face was massive due to the vast amount of filler she had done. There are plenty of women out there heading towards this look.

Oh dear this is the extreme why was she allowed to keep on having surgeries that ruined her face it's so wrong !! It may start with a little this and a little that but the reality is once you start down this road where does it end at which point do you have acceptance that you are getting older you can still be mature and look amazing by making the best of yourself that's what confidence is.
How you carry yourself nice clothes natural make-up even those things called personalities.

MarvellousMonsters · 05/01/2025 18:20

I know it's a trend, I know it's all personal choice blah blah blah, but the long term implications of these kinds of body modifications are all speculation. I honestly hope there are no long term side effects, but I worry that there will be a lot of scarred lips and reconstructive surgery needed eventually.

I mean, the long term impact of 'turkey teeth' is problematic, the crowns need to be replaced after a certain amount of time, and the natural teeth are filed down to skinny stumps, so you can't just stop getting them done.

In the NHS we already see botched surgery, infections and complications of work done abroad on the cheap, as well as issues from cosmetic work done privately in the UK, and I suspect that will only increase.

alwaysontheloo · 05/01/2025 18:20

flashspeed · 04/01/2025 01:48

I totally get you OP, seeing women that don't conform to my standards pisses me off too. I'm so sick of seeing slightly overweight women in drab boring clothes who don't bother fixing their face and just let it age. When they turn around and I see jowls it's hard to not recoil in horror. With their roots showing and their boring mum shoes and their frumpy comfy coat I wonder what society is coming to and where class and elegance has gone

Oh wait, that would be rude, only frumps are allowed to judge another woman's choice.

Why on earth are you assuming that not modifying your face is frumpy?

Why on earth would be as yourself be frumpy? 😳 That's revealing more about how YOU think than anything.

quixote9 · 05/01/2025 18:21

Dcbjgfdh · 04/01/2025 00:39

I think the young women these days are going to look back on photos of themselves in years to come and cringe far more than previous generations have done at past photos of themselves.
They are often making permanent changes to their face and are absolutely wasting their youthful looks. A lot of the girls in their 20s look like they are women in their 50s with overdone plastic surgery.

Lordy. The irony of having "work" done to wind up looking older.

HoppityBun · 05/01/2025 18:22

Angrymum22 · 04/01/2025 02:10

Jocelyn Wildenstien died recently. These are her before and after photos. Admittedly she had surgery but her face was massive due to the vast amount of filler she had done. There are plenty of women out there heading towards this look.

I had no idea she’d ever looked so beautiful. What a tragedy

DreamTheMoors · 05/01/2025 18:23

There’s two notable examples in the US:
The ”Mar-a-Lago face” and
The ”Real Housewives face.”

Mar-a-Lago is Donald Trump’s Florida home and even women in their 70s have tweaked themselves to appear like they’re in their 30s & 40s. The photos they post online show them always dressed inappropriately.
Very bizarre.
The Real Housewives are basically the same, although not as severe as the MaL women.

Randomontheinternet25 · 05/01/2025 18:23

Spriterat · 05/01/2025 18:10

I work in a secondary school and students as young as year 7 come in with huge false lashes and semi permanent eye brows tattooed on - they look ridiculous. We have one year 11 that has had lip fillers - I was so shocked when I saw it. She is so young and she will never have her own face again as I am pretty sure once you start that kind of thing there is no turning back.

WTAF that's a child's face!
Who gives a child lip filler?
That's utterly appalling on the salon and parents .

Rottweilermummy · 05/01/2025 18:24

You are not being unreasonable at all, it's so sad to see beautiful girls ruining their lips and faces, wish they could see they don't need it. Does no one remember the state of some celebrities ruining their faces some look like monsters now, Lesley Ash ruined her face.
I know people can do what they want with their bodies, but I think a little bit more info needs to be given to people

ObieJoyful · 05/01/2025 18:25

Anotherparkingthread · 04/01/2025 00:42

Speak out? Lol. Speak out against people looking how they want to look?

And op is clearly upset. Enough so to make an entire thread. What other words would you prefer? Perturbed? Distressed? Hysterical? Traumatized? All rather hyperbolic in comparison but not necessarily inaccurate either.

What other women look like, wether that be filler, hair dye, peircings, tattoos, fat, thin, boob job, short skirts or other clothing choices, doesn't matter a dot to me. So I'm not starting threads about it, desperately trying to find other judgey mares to snort at other women with. I don't feel the need to have my opinions validated by others. I don't need to put other women down. I don't need to busy body in something which, frankly, is optional. Nobody is expecting you to get filler or Botox if you don't like it. I don't go around saying 'urgh, look at that woman with wissened little prune lips! She desperately needs some filler to look normal!' because it would be a twatty thing to say. The same can't be said for those who are sanctimonious about women doing anything to xosmetically alter their appearance, they can't resist sticking their opinion in when it has no effect on their life and no effect on them. These thoughts about others are often also rooted in deep misogyny, these threads reinforce the notion that women's bodies are open to critique and criticism. Posters will often express disgust and say how terrible it looks but then go on to suggest that it makes them or other women feel inadequate. These two statements are contradictory, which means neither argument against is is a particularly good one. Often these type of argument only masquerade as concern, when in reality they come from a place of hatred for other women for simply existing and making choices that do not have any bearing on your life, but do not affirm or align with your own set of beliefs. This is prejudice.

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I don’t think it is. If my daughter was to go down the route of Botox and fillers at 25, frankly I’d be concerned.

Not because of how it looks, but because this is the first generation of this being cheaply available.

Tbese women could be permanently damaging their faces- we don’t know yet.

Errors · 05/01/2025 18:26

I do think that the pressure to look ten years younger than you are is bollocks though. Look at Jessica Alba. She is 43 and still looks 30. How???

I have also noticed a couple of actresses with more natural faces in their recent Netflix releases. Like Keira Knightly in Black Doves. I thought fair play to her, she looked beautiful. Then must have hit the Botox again after filming in time for the promo.

User14March · 05/01/2025 18:28

@Errors EMface & similar, a natural, if very ££ lift, fairly regularly & laser peel & RF. The lit & lifted from within look. Expensive derms.

TarotLady · 05/01/2025 18:29

I'm 53 now but when I was 35 I had botox, lip injections, gel nails and also facial filler. I was working in an industry where appearance was everything and I was so insecure I followed suit. I did that religiously for 10 years.
Granted I went to a doctor for it, paid a fortune and the results weren't Jordan-esque thankfully.
I ended up leaving the job when I was 45 and reinventing myself after experiencing a massive breakdown. Not one injectable, fake nail or tan or lash has come into my orbit since.

Nikki75 · 05/01/2025 18:30

Zippedydodah · 04/01/2025 03:09

I do wonder what the long term effects will be from using fillers etc.
Thankfully I have never been tempted because I don’t rely on my looks!

Exactly what happened to everyone having a personality it's a shallow world we live in.

quietplaceday5 · 05/01/2025 18:30

I’m from northern Europe currently visiting the UK. It’s like walking around among young
cartoon people all trying to look the same. So fake. So weird. The lips and teeth must be the worst. What happened. It will be like a breath of fresh air going home.

Shirtss · 05/01/2025 18:33

This is the millionth thread I’ve seen putting women down for their aesthetic choices under the guise of concern.

Youngheartsalittletogetherness · 05/01/2025 18:35

I'm not clued up on the brands of skin creams pushed to teen girls (under 16) I think it was something elephant does young skin need the chemical gunk and is it perhaps this is when the pressure starts in using products and looking a certain way ?

WestwardHo1 · 05/01/2025 18:36

flashspeed · 04/01/2025 01:48

I totally get you OP, seeing women that don't conform to my standards pisses me off too. I'm so sick of seeing slightly overweight women in drab boring clothes who don't bother fixing their face and just let it age. When they turn around and I see jowls it's hard to not recoil in horror. With their roots showing and their boring mum shoes and their frumpy comfy coat I wonder what society is coming to and where class and elegance has gone

Oh wait, that would be rude, only frumps are allowed to judge another woman's choice.

This post isn't quite as clever as you think it is.

TheBeautifulMoors · 05/01/2025 18:36

I’m planning to have my eyebrows henna dyed this week! Eek! Will this lead me down the road of adding more stuff?

Wooky073 · 05/01/2025 18:37

Anotherparkingthread · 04/01/2025 00:05

Frankly, while you're entitled to an opinion, they are also entitled to an opinion. It's their bodies. Their choice. They like it.

The only person who getting upset about it is you, and it isn't your business.

When you says it’s their choice I do wonder though. When social media is full of adverts and influencers who heavily influence brands / surgery / injections / treatments (mostly for the financial rewards they get for doing so) …. What choice is it when that’s what they are surrounded by. It’s manipulation really. It stens from the porn industry which is also now all over the internet and widely available . It’s all very sad. This is why kids on social media needs regulating