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Happy Elon Musk calling out govt over grooming gang PT 2

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Chainzreaction · 03/01/2025 14:20

Pt 2 can commence!

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poetryandwine · 04/01/2025 16:52

Chainzreaction · 04/01/2025 16:39

It was horrific & ran so deep. I genuinely believe the parents had no idea about the SA. Those kids spent 6 days a week in the gym . And had multiple training camps at the Karolyi ranch from a young age with only their coaches.
My daughter got Aly Raismans book last Christmas, they thought the sa was normal at the start, part of their treatment..
I still feel the Karolyi's got away scot free & Bela's dead now..
Dominique Moceanu has also been very vocal. It wasn't just SA it was physical abuse, made compete on fractures , ligament tears... again where was the safeguarding?

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Whoah, OP -

Neither Bela Karolyi nor his wife was accused of physically or sexually abusing or assaulting anyone. Creating an oppressive climate, yes. Verbal abuse, yes. But these are not criminal offences, however wrong you or I might think them. Many parents are happy to send their children into this type of environment for a chance of Olympic glory.

The accusation is that the climate of oppression they created allowed Larry Nassar to operate unchecked, because the girls were scared. That’s bad enough, but we can’t leave readers with the possible impression that they were sexual abusers.

poetryandwine · 04/01/2025 16:55

…. Or physical abusers any different to many in that brutal world. There was a shortsighted encouragement to work through pain and probably an emphasis on weight that triggered some EDs. But this was sadly typical and the term ‘physical abuse’ usually suggests something much darker.

Chainzreaction · 04/01/2025 16:58

poetryandwine · 04/01/2025 16:52

Whoah, OP -

Neither Bela Karolyi nor his wife was accused of physically or sexually abusing or assaulting anyone. Creating an oppressive climate, yes. Verbal abuse, yes. But these are not criminal offences, however wrong you or I might think them. Many parents are happy to send their children into this type of environment for a chance of Olympic glory.

The accusation is that the climate of oppression they created allowed Larry Nassar to operate unchecked, because the girls were scared. That’s bad enough, but we can’t leave readers with the possible impression that they were sexual abusers.

I feel they may have known not committed a SA crime. This man was working on their ranch at the camps, he was the team doctor , the girls were taking to each other. How were they not aware?

Also many of the girls suffered emotional abuse at the hands of Bela & Martha. Made compete on injures .. look at Kerri Strug at the Atlanta Olympics, she vaulted on a broken foot after injuring herself on her first vault.& hobbled back for vault 2
She was told "you can do it" instead of bring withdrawn

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BlueSilverCats · 04/01/2025 16:59

@Chainzreaction I can absolutely assure you that some parents did know. However a chance at fame and fortune, or simply escaping poverty/a better future ? That’s worth a lot in some people's eyes. Even their daughters.

Let's just say, been there ,done that.

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Chainzreaction · 04/01/2025 17:03

BlueSilverCats · 04/01/2025 16:59

@Chainzreaction I can absolutely assure you that some parents did know. However a chance at fame and fortune, or simply escaping poverty/a better future ? That’s worth a lot in some people's eyes. Even their daughters.

Let's just say, been there ,done that.

Do you really believe that? I would seriously hope not buy who honestly knows...

The USA team had & still has massive depth Making the US team or getting a scholarship is a massive achievement & speaking out would have banished you to gymnastics Siberia. I totally get why they were afraid to speak out ..

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BlueSilverCats · 04/01/2025 17:12

@Chainzreaction l don't think. I know.

Like I said.. been there, done that. As a child, not a parent of course.

poetryandwine · 04/01/2025 17:12

Chainzreaction · 04/01/2025 16:58

I feel they may have known not committed a SA crime. This man was working on their ranch at the camps, he was the team doctor , the girls were taking to each other. How were they not aware?

Also many of the girls suffered emotional abuse at the hands of Bela & Martha. Made compete on injures .. look at Kerri Strug at the Atlanta Olympics, she vaulted on a broken foot after injuring herself on her first vault.& hobbled back for vault 2
She was told "you can do it" instead of bring withdrawn

I acknowledged with disapproval this type of physical abuse in my subsequent post. It is worth noting that Strug stayed close with the Karolyis and re-created this pose with BK jokingly at her wedding. As much as I think it’s wrong, she us the ultimate judge.

Who can say what really happened? We may feel cynical but the Karolyis were never charged and I am not seeing the outcomes from any lawsuits online. ‘Innocent until proven guilty’ is a basic principle of both British and American law. We owe it to the dead to honour it.

Chainzreaction · 04/01/2025 17:37

poetryandwine · 04/01/2025 17:12

I acknowledged with disapproval this type of physical abuse in my subsequent post. It is worth noting that Strug stayed close with the Karolyis and re-created this pose with BK jokingly at her wedding. As much as I think it’s wrong, she us the ultimate judge.

Who can say what really happened? We may feel cynical but the Karolyis were never charged and I am not seeing the outcomes from any lawsuits online. ‘Innocent until proven guilty’ is a basic principle of both British and American law. We owe it to the dead to honour it.

You are correct, she never spoke out against them. I agree with you that they were never charged but gymnasts from the 2004 Olympic era felt they knew but did nothing . To me ( if true!) that is complicit , failure to take action. The emotional abuse is a given with Karolyi's. Buy you are right innocent until proven guilty.

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Chainzreaction · 04/01/2025 17:39

BlueSilverCats · 04/01/2025 17:12

@Chainzreaction l don't think. I know.

Like I said.. been there, done that. As a child, not a parent of course.

Jesus. That is a shame. I did rec gymnastics as a child & my dds are involved recreationally now. We are massive gymnastics fans though & I have been since my childhood, I am disgusted to hear that ,I honestly believed all parents were in the dark.

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itsgettingweird · 04/01/2025 18:27

RemusLupinsBiggestGroupie · 04/01/2025 15:53

You’re unbelievable OP. Time to get a life - I assume you’ll be back to school in a couple of days?

Maybe she'll be "delighted" about that too? Wink

Chainzreaction · 04/01/2025 18:33

itsgettingweird · 04/01/2025 18:27

Maybe she'll be "delighted" about that too? Wink

I'm not a teacher, not back to school anytime soon! Just for the school runs😁

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RemusLupinsBiggestGroupie · 04/01/2025 18:46

Chainzreaction · 04/01/2025 18:33

I'm not a teacher, not back to school anytime soon! Just for the school runs😁

I wasn't implying that you were a teacher.

SerendipityJane · 04/01/2025 18:48

I'm not a teacher,

We knew that already.

AdventFridgeOfShame · 04/01/2025 18:51

So @Chainzreaction where are your daughters? Because the amount of time you have spent on this thread indicates you do not spend much time with them.

Do you know what a DBS is? Have you ever had job that requires one?

What do you think about the closing of Surestart centers? They were meant to tackle generational abuse and allow mothers to protect their DC with support.

How any broken bones would you accept before you stopped working with vulnerable children.

Yesterday morning you didn't even know there had been a report. All your posts indicate you are rather naive. Go get a job helping the girls and women you care so much about and get back to us in a year or so.

Chainzreaction · 04/01/2025 18:54

AdventFridgeOfShame · 04/01/2025 18:51

So @Chainzreaction where are your daughters? Because the amount of time you have spent on this thread indicates you do not spend much time with them.

Do you know what a DBS is? Have you ever had job that requires one?

What do you think about the closing of Surestart centers? They were meant to tackle generational abuse and allow mothers to protect their DC with support.

How any broken bones would you accept before you stopped working with vulnerable children.

Yesterday morning you didn't even know there had been a report. All your posts indicate you are rather naive. Go get a job helping the girls and women you care so much about and get back to us in a year or so.

My surestart centre was great but it became frequented by mc mums & then it closed. It wasn't used by the groups it was intended to help. It was a great facility.
My dds are at their cousins , home tomorrow.

Yes I do know what a dbs & no job I have ever worked on required one.

Broken bones? I'm not entirely sure what you mean? Are you insinuating vulnerable children are breaking people's bones. Please elaborate further.

Also I'm not going anywhere, this is my thread & I won't be chased off it!

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ilovesooty · 04/01/2025 18:57

SerendipityJane · 04/01/2025 18:48

I'm not a teacher,

We knew that already.

Whatever she is she seems to have tremendous stamina and I'm wondering if she manages to factor in toilet breaks, let alone interact with her family. 😁

SerendipityJane · 04/01/2025 19:00

ilovesooty · 04/01/2025 18:57

Whatever she is she seems to have tremendous stamina and I'm wondering if she manages to factor in toilet breaks, let alone interact with her family. 😁

Pah. A real Muskie would work on the toilet. Comfort breaks ? We didn't win 2 world wars to succumb to that sort or woke nonsense.

cardibach · 04/01/2025 19:00

Chainzreaction · 04/01/2025 16:43

Who? Only those who committed the rapes or abuse? How many who failed to protect the vulnerable women? What consequences have they faced?

We’ve been round this merry go round of consequences for other people. Is your memory really short?

yellowspanner · 04/01/2025 19:03

I'm glad Elon Musk is calling out our government . It's an important issue and he's certainly raised its profile

Chainzreaction · 04/01/2025 19:05

cardibach · 04/01/2025 19:00

We’ve been round this merry go round of consequences for other people. Is your memory really short?

Yes but not one person has given a comprehensive answer as to WHY those women were failed.

Today's Telegraph article provides a glimpse into possible reasons.

What matters is what happens next. The ball is in Labours court, they have many options . What will they choose to do.

Rape gang culture ( plus the aiding & abetting of it) is both a national scandal and a national emergency.

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Chainzreaction · 04/01/2025 19:06

yellowspanner · 04/01/2025 19:03

I'm glad Elon Musk is calling out our government . It's an important issue and he's certainly raised its profile

He's reposting tonight that people should contact their local MPs to demand a vote of no confidence in government.

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Efacsen · 04/01/2025 19:07

RemusLupinsBiggestGroupie · 04/01/2025 18:46

I wasn't implying that you were a teacher.

Spelling has improved a great deal today

ilovesooty · 04/01/2025 19:09

Chainzreaction · 04/01/2025 19:06

He's reposting tonight that people should contact their local MPs to demand a vote of no confidence in government.

🤣🤣🤣

AdventFridgeOfShame · 04/01/2025 19:09

Chainzreaction · 04/01/2025 19:06

He's reposting tonight that people should contact their local MPs to demand a vote of no confidence in government.

He also asked Charles to shut down Government, a situation that has not happened since 1824?

He does not understand how the UK work, quite like you.

Have you considered getting a job. You relentless drive for something could really help some causes.

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