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AIBU to prefer when religion was the opiate of the masses

152 replies

Annabella92 · 03/01/2025 11:28

Rather than porn, drugs and videogames

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Annabella92 · 03/01/2025 16:25

JustTalkToThem · 03/01/2025 15:48

Why all the hate for video games?

Surrogate activities.

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MyNavyPombear · 03/01/2025 16:26

Lentilweaver · 03/01/2025 15:00

Being religious does not prevent people gravitating towards money or sex. They just hide it better.

Absolutely agree with this.

And I also think that sometimes religion represses a lot of things, so it can make it even more likely someone will ‘sin’.

Klovos · 03/01/2025 16:27

Anyotherdude · 03/01/2025 11:57

Except that porn,drugs and games have been around, along with religion, for about exactly the same time, forming a part of that “opiate” of the masses!

Explain further, please. How was pornography, drugs and video games this easily available for thousands of years?

MyNavyPombear · 03/01/2025 16:29

Klovos · 03/01/2025 16:27

Explain further, please. How was pornography, drugs and video games this easily available for thousands of years?

I said pretty much the same thing so I’ll reply to this; gambling, adultery / sex wih prostitutes and drugs have been around since the day we grew some brain cells after discovering fire - so a long time. Porn, videogames etc are just modern iterations.

Staringatthemoon · 03/01/2025 16:35

@2025HereICome

I wonder if Ireland will see a change after the Celtic Tiger days of (seemingly) plenty. The new generation may well find that community groups who, at their core, are CC affiliated will fill gaps where the money doesn’t quite extend especially as new levels of migration take place.

i grew up in London of immigrant parents and the scenario I laid out before would be typical of what I experienced. We could use resources as traditionally we had good access to things ( libraries, free transport, etc) so we could close gaps ourselves and make our way through the education/ employment minefields. Obviously it’s not without its issues and there is an issue of feeling slightly different to wider society but I think in London today, it has flipped the other way. The next generation come in (both domestic and international) and bring their ideas with them and some have a more literal take on things than past generations. I’m also not seeing the same integration with groups like the brownies and girl guides that I had that kept us linked in to wider British societies.

What I saw when I last visited Church with elderly relatives is packed churches and families lining up to get into Catholic schools. I don’t know if they are all believers or not. I’ve also seen a noticeable rise in African evangelical churches and other non African evangelical churches that I don’t quite know where they come from. There is a noticeable increase in other communities and whilst I don’t know too much about the number of mosques in any area, I imagine they must be increasing in number inline with the population of practicing Muslims ( there is a large, established Turkish community near me).

This is why it seems so extraordinary to me when I hear voices saying we don’t need religion and religious groups - well, no some areas don’t. They are well resourced, stable and affluent with money circulating and enough people to manage the environment ( social and economic) so that things don’t dip too much in any given direction but that is because other areas have an overspill and resources are completely overstretched.

I’ve just had major surgery in a London hospital. All but two of my nurses were black Africans (Nigerian and Ghanaian I think) - not born here but migrants. Amazing nurses who were fantastic but how they did their job I do not know ( and I come from a family of Irish nurses) - they must have been shattered after each shift. I can’t definitively say they were all practising Christians but the ones I spoke to were. They are the women I see in Church - quietly just keeping everything together whilst sending money back home so their siblings can buy books for school in exactly the same way my parents did.

There are millions of people like that in London but we don’t hear their voices but I think they would laugh at our naivety. These are people who have left wars, extreme poverty and civil tension. For many of them, they say the Church was the only body that acknowledged them - gave them an education, a route out, gave them value in a society that didn’t value them. This is what they tell me and they don’t disregard the criticisms of the Church - they are acutely aware of the problems. It’s just that they have had to weigh up the realities of their options and for them, the Church has been a preferable option. What does that say? We have the luxury of thinking in simple terms but only because others in our society have to deal with the complexities. My surgeons were all Middle Eastern/Indian (I’m guessing by surnames). I received amazing care, truly fantastic care from them. At what cost to themselves did they prioritise my care?

I just think we are being so blinkered when we focus just on historical CC abuses when stuff is happening now - it is not beyond our abilities to consider both the past and the present yet we are being led into this polarised thinking by, imv, the media that says ‘everyone look this way’ when always, always ( if history teaches us anything), the real news is happening somewhere else.

Klovos · 04/01/2025 18:45

MyNavyPombear · 03/01/2025 16:29

I said pretty much the same thing so I’ll reply to this; gambling, adultery / sex wih prostitutes and drugs have been around since the day we grew some brain cells after discovering fire - so a long time. Porn, videogames etc are just modern iterations.

How are video games iterations of drugs/prostitution/gambling? How does Tetris fit in either group?

AnotherChildFreeCatLady · 04/01/2025 19:53

Religion is the worst thing humanity ever invented, by far.

RealHousewivesOfTaunton · 04/01/2025 20:03

I'd prefer stupid video games to people being burned to death for looking at Mr Popular the wrong way TBH.

LSTMS30555 · 04/01/2025 21:17

1st reply nailed it.

AnotherChildFreeCatLady · 06/01/2025 11:34

Lilifer · 03/01/2025 12:44

Are you for real? How many people die every day as a result of drug related crime and/or drug abuse? And as for porn have you heard of human sex trafficking and snuff movies?

Those numbers pale in comparison, religion has killed millions more.

AnotherChildFreeCatLady · 06/01/2025 11:36

Bigearringsbigsmile · 03/01/2025 13:03

This!

Right, because religious people always do the right thing .... absolute nonsense. All they do is use religion as a crutch and/or justification to do heinous things. No thanks, I'd trust an atheist to do the right thing over a religious person and day of the week.

AnotherChildFreeCatLady · 06/01/2025 11:37

RedPony1 · 03/01/2025 14:15

We "lost" a friend to Christianity last year. he was very vulnerable and they sucked him in via his ex.
It was like watching an emotionally abusive relationship play out in, it was heart breaking for us, his friends, watching the control they had over him take over his life and take him away from his hobbies and friends. He had just left a very abusive ex (the one who got him involved in the farce!) It felt VERY cult like.

It's been said that all religions are cults, but not all cults are religions.

The only difference between religion and a cult is the amount of time it has been around.

Annabella92 · 06/01/2025 11:42

MyNavyPombear · 03/01/2025 16:26

Absolutely agree with this.

And I also think that sometimes religion represses a lot of things, so it can make it even more likely someone will ‘sin’.

Edited

That's a very common theory propagated largely on the basis of Adorno's work on the idea of sexual repression and the authoritarian personality. I don't think there is really any strong evidence for this other than people who believe this to justify their own sexual incontinence. I think it benefits the next generation far more to suggest they try and control their appetites rather than lean into and embrace them. Because desire is limitless. The ratchet effect of ever seeking greater and more novel forms of satisfying base urges are making our young people very unwell.

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Annabella92 · 06/01/2025 11:43

WestwardHo1 · 03/01/2025 14:06

Are you able to continue the thread without pushing your own particular brand of Christianity OP? Do you think that it contributes to community cohesion?

The cohesion of what community?

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Annabella92 · 06/01/2025 11:44

AnotherChildFreeCatLady · 06/01/2025 11:37

The only difference between religion and a cult is the amount of time it has been around.

Out of interest, what were your thoughts on Hillbilly Elegy?

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Annabella92 · 06/01/2025 11:48

Klovos · 04/01/2025 18:45

How are video games iterations of drugs/prostitution/gambling? How does Tetris fit in either group?

Tetris is to gaming what weed is to hard drugs I suppose. Or erotic nude sketches to explicit photos. It all exists on a spectrum. The disembedding escapism, the compulsions it produces in the user is the point surely? Some forms will be more potent and hard to resist than others. But you know that.

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Loteflp · 06/01/2025 12:08

Was Jesus not real then?

Did Muhammad just make it all up?

thepariscrimefiles · 06/01/2025 12:09

Annabella92 · 03/01/2025 11:28

Rather than porn, drugs and videogames

TBH I think what is going on in Afghanistan in the name of religion is much more harmful to women that porn, drugs and videogames.

Think of all the scandals with child sexual abuse in the Church of England and the Catholic Church. Think about how religion has been used through the ages to control women, particularly relating to their reproductive rights.

Religions are rather dangerous for women and children, Men seem to do alright though.

AnotherChildFreeCatLady · 06/01/2025 13:02

Annabella92 · 06/01/2025 11:44

Out of interest, what were your thoughts on Hillbilly Elegy?

I didn't read it, JD Vance is a moron.

Annabella92 · 06/01/2025 13:14

AnotherChildFreeCatLady · 06/01/2025 13:02

I didn't read it, JD Vance is a moron.

Yet he made it to VP and bestowed you with a username. Is he a moron because you disagree on things? How do you know he is

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Lilifer · 06/01/2025 13:18

@AnotherChildFreeCatLady

https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Masskillingssundercommunisttregimes

148million people killed in 20th century alone by various communist regimes.

How many killed by religion in 20th century? Certainly not as many as 148 million.

WestwardHo1 · 06/01/2025 14:21

Annabella92 · 06/01/2025 11:43

The cohesion of what community?

A normal British community, where Roman Catholicism is not the major religion and people might resent being told that your way is the only way to maintain morality and responsibility and tradition and a sense of purpose etc

And no I'm not being all woke and multicultural (Hmm) - I'm thinking about your average town or village in Middle England.

RCism has not had the greatest of press in recent years after all.

AnotherChildFreeCatLady · 06/01/2025 14:56

Lilifer · 06/01/2025 13:18

@AnotherChildFreeCatLady

https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Masskillingssundercommunisttregimes

148million people killed in 20th century alone by various communist regimes.

How many killed by religion in 20th century? Certainly not as many as 148 million.

So what's your argument here? That religion is just a little less horrible than violent communist regimes? Ok, in the 20th century maybe, throughout history religion still has the highest body count. I guess we are also disregarding all of the children molested and women raped in the name of religion?

Religion is evil. It was created by misogynistic men to subjugate and control stupid people who are incapable of rational and critical thought.

Hard pass.

Annabella92 · 06/01/2025 17:07

WestwardHo1 · 06/01/2025 14:21

A normal British community, where Roman Catholicism is not the major religion and people might resent being told that your way is the only way to maintain morality and responsibility and tradition and a sense of purpose etc

And no I'm not being all woke and multicultural (Hmm) - I'm thinking about your average town or village in Middle England.

RCism has not had the greatest of press in recent years after all.

What values do normal British communities hold that are at odds with RC?

While RC has been getting terrible press, plenty of other rather dubious things have been getting glowing write ups. I don't tend to go with what the press says.

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WestwardHo1 · 06/01/2025 19:32

Annabella92 · 06/01/2025 17:07

What values do normal British communities hold that are at odds with RC?

While RC has been getting terrible press, plenty of other rather dubious things have been getting glowing write ups. I don't tend to go with what the press says.

Well. They tend to agree with contraception and access to abortion. That's one thing.

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