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Should she replace it? Part 3

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Langarg · 02/01/2025 19:09

I can’t believe we have a part 3 🤣 this has provided some lighthearted entertainment at a time where I’m feeling really let down by someone I considered a good friend. So thank you! I have posted an update on thread 2, will post it here also.

I have sent the following text message ‘Having reflected on what you have said, how the airwrap was lost/broken or otherwise is irrelevant. I considered asking you for pictures of the broken airwrap or asking to speak to your sister to ask her what happened but it will get us nowhere. All that matters is I am down a Dyson airwrap and I want a new replacement. You’ll need to either transfer me the £399 tonight to pay for this or purchase it yourself from boots and send me the email receipt this evening. You can then sort out with your sister whether she is going to contribute to the cost of it. We can then put this behind us’

I have no interest in maintaining the friendship after this for obvious reasons. I am worried that she’s seen the thread (how can she not have 🤣) and knows this fine well so will have no intention of replacing it sadly.

I don’t think I’ll ever get the truth (was there even a wedding at this rate?! 🤣) all that matters to me now is getting a replacement airwrap!!!!

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CoverMySoul · 02/01/2025 21:10

Hey, CF! Have you clocked yourself in the Daily Fail yet?

Never has a lying CF been so deserving of all this attention Grin

DoggingDave · 02/01/2025 21:11

Thread 3! 😂 I've been a follower since the OG thread!

JudgeJ · 02/01/2025 21:15

Wheretostart25 · 02/01/2025 20:39

@Pickledpoppetpickle You do know that absolutely no one other than the OP knows who this person is? It's not impacting this person's job, other friendships, family. This is just an entirely unknown person. It's not like the OP has posted a picture of her with her name and address. She has not given away a single identifiable detail about who the person is.

Stop virtue signalling for the sake of it.

The OP has come across fine. There are people who talk far worse on this forum about close family members and even their own husbands and kids. The OP hasn't come anywhere close to the usual daily character assassinations we see on here.

Were I in the same position as the OP, ie my property is in the possession of someone who refuses to return it, I would make damned sure that our circle knew all about it to avoid this ex-friend 'borrowing' anything else she doesn't intend to return. If that has further impact on her life etc then 'tough', all her own doing.

Errors · 02/01/2025 21:15

ThatKhakiMoose · 02/01/2025 21:00

"I wish I was that person."

"That person" = someone who "faffs about for a long time on their hair."

No, you don't wish you were that person!!! You just insulted women who like to do their hair! Own it! 😂

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Nah, not at all 😂
I am pointing out that I am lazy as fuck 😂

TwentySecondsLeft · 02/01/2025 21:17

I’m not sure about making a claim through the courts. That the item was ‘broken’ is difficult to prove - especially as she states a third party has broken it. I do wonder if this is a pretty clever ploy to absolve responsibility.
The sister can state I didn’t break it, friend can state I didn’t break it, they could even claim it was broken when you gave it to her. It’s difficult to prove.

Pedallleur · 02/01/2025 21:19

AhBiscuits · 02/01/2025 19:11

Great text.
She is the queen of the CFers. No chance of her having £400 knocking about so who knows what she'll do.

Doesn't need 400. Pay on cc or Klarna or PayPal credit depending on the shop.

Silvertulips · 02/01/2025 21:19

It doesn’t matter who broke it, the friend had responsibility for it. It was in her care and she didn’t return it, she told lies, she avoided the truth.

fingers crossed she comes up with the money.

Teanbiscuits33 · 02/01/2025 21:20

TwentySecondsLeft · 02/01/2025 21:17

I’m not sure about making a claim through the courts. That the item was ‘broken’ is difficult to prove - especially as she states a third party has broken it. I do wonder if this is a pretty clever ploy to absolve responsibility.
The sister can state I didn’t break it, friend can state I didn’t break it, they could even claim it was broken when you gave it to her. It’s difficult to prove.

But the fact of the matter is that friend borrowed it and didn’t return it. It’s irrelevant as to the reason why she didn’t return it. It’s not her property to keep.

CoverMySoul · 02/01/2025 21:21

TwentySecondsLeft · 02/01/2025 21:17

I’m not sure about making a claim through the courts. That the item was ‘broken’ is difficult to prove - especially as she states a third party has broken it. I do wonder if this is a pretty clever ploy to absolve responsibility.
The sister can state I didn’t break it, friend can state I didn’t break it, they could even claim it was broken when you gave it to her. It’s difficult to prove.

The OP has enough evidence with messages etc. to establish the facts, I think.

Plus, since the CF hasn't returned it, the 'some wine broke it' defence is fairly meaningless anyway. The claim would be for theft, I assume. The CF can whine her lies to the court office (and almost certainly will, it seems).

Consequences of being a thieving, lying POS, basically.

HappyMummaOfOne · 02/01/2025 21:22

I am LOVING your threads 😂
So invested now and can’t wait to see if she actually transfers the money! But have a sad feeling she will continue to drag this out and she will refuse to replace it. I hope I am wrong though

ScupperedbytheSea · 02/01/2025 21:22

Errors · 02/01/2025 20:57

I just watched a YouTube video on someone showing you how you use one. I couldn’t get through the whole thing as I find influencers insufferable but her hair looked nice. However, I had to remind myself that I would never be arsed to faff about for that long on my hair. I wish I was that person.

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Sounds kind of fun though. I've had a pixie cut for years, but my hair is super thick and people seem to go mad for it when I grow it.

It's like a lion's mane and drives me crazy.

I fancy growing it now thought, just so I can try this damn hairdryer. I'll report back in a couple of years...

WickedWitchOfTheEast87 · 02/01/2025 21:24

Omg this CF is unbelievable! I honestly don't think her sister broke it I think she still has it how the fuck can a glass of wine break a £500 airwrap.

@Langarg I think its time to go nuclear. If she refuses to pay just turn up at her door and tell her DH what she's done and hopefully shame her that he'll put his hand in his wallet. Also it will be harder to bullshit you in person especially if you don't tell her you're coming that will really put her on the spot.

Libertysparkle · 02/01/2025 21:24

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CustardySergeant · 02/01/2025 21:25

I don't believe that the Airwrap was broken, either by the CF's sister or the CF herself. It's either been stolen for her own use, or stolen to sell. What a horrible way to find out what someone you thought was a friend is really like.

Errors · 02/01/2025 21:25

ScupperedbytheSea · 02/01/2025 21:22

Sounds kind of fun though. I've had a pixie cut for years, but my hair is super thick and people seem to go mad for it when I grow it.

It's like a lion's mane and drives me crazy.

I fancy growing it now thought, just so I can try this damn hairdryer. I'll report back in a couple of years...

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Please do. I don’t doubt it would be fun but even though I have long pretty thick hair, I would probably use it once or twice and it’d get put away in a cupboard somewhere because I am too lazy to keep using it 😂

alwsysri · 02/01/2025 21:27

@Langarg I’m confused, does she own her own Airwrap? I have one and it took me a while to master how to use it, keep the curls in etc, so I’m surprised she asked to use yours on her wedding day when presumably she’s had no prior practice.

CoverMySoul · 02/01/2025 21:30

alwsysri · 02/01/2025 21:27

@Langarg I’m confused, does she own her own Airwrap? I have one and it took me a while to master how to use it, keep the curls in etc, so I’m surprised she asked to use yours on her wedding day when presumably she’s had no prior practice.

Might not be her first 'oooooh can i borrow your AirWrap' rodeo... Grin

YourGladSquid · 02/01/2025 21:30

I still think she sold it.

If you had posted this all on TikTok maybe Dyson would have sent you one! With that latest trend with the scraggly puppet (I don’t know its name).

Honestly, the GUMPTION.

menopausalfart · 02/01/2025 21:32

@CoverMySoul I wonder if she has a stack of them hidden in her attic?

PureBoggin · 02/01/2025 21:33

Pickledpoppetpickle · 02/01/2025 19:55

There is something really distasteful about some of your posts,OP. I mean in relation to your believing your friend will likely have seen all of this and your assumption is that she will now make the decision not to pay. You have listened to strangers, rather than trusting in your friendship, and have been happy to accuse her of every awful thing possible in relation to this airwrap.

She did a stupid thing - she knows that. Maybe she tried to 'get away with it' but I think we can all agree, she's had her compuance in abudance. You got confirmation of how right you are in the first thread. Now it feels like you're just bashing her because you can, safe in the knowledge that the internet backs you. It makes me itch and it's bullying.

I hope she refunds you the money and as much as you feel the need to step back from the relationship because what might have happened, if she has seen these threads, she would be equally right to step back from you, regardless of how in the wrong she might have been. This is mumsnet at it's worst, I think. The pile on is horrible and is happening all the more because posters believe the woman concerned can see this.

With friends like you, who needs enemies, eh?

There's no pile on of the friend. The friend isn't here is she? A pile on can only happen to someone actually participating in the thread. Unless she is?

Manxexile · 02/01/2025 21:34

@Langarg - I haven't read all of the three threads so I don't know if anyone else has already said this.

From a consumer rights/warranty point of view you are probably better off getting the CF to give you the money so that you can buy a new AW yourself.

The problem with a third party buying it and giving it to you is that you won't have bought it yourself and you will end up with no consumer rights against the retailer and you may also have difficulty enforcing any warranty rights against Dyson. And I doubt that your friend would then help with any of these issues

So I'd suggest getting the money off her is a better deal for you then her buying(?) one for you.

However, if her providing a replacement is all you're going to get, I suppose you'll have to settle for that...

Longtimelurkerfinallyposts · 02/01/2025 21:34

It doesn't sound like the CF has any intention of paying you back or returning the item she stole from you. You might as well start the small claim process tomorrow - you can do this online, and as they're married, they can be made jointly liable for your loss. Have you been in touch with her DH yet? It strikes me that he might be completely unaware of her lies/ attempts to blame him originally, and utterly mortifie to realise that he's just married such a dishonest untrustworthy CF.

They will have to pay the court fee (of £50) on top of the £500 the Airwrap cost you in the first place. If they don't then pay up, you can apply to send the bailiffs round to seize goods from their home, or get the funds taken from their earnings/ bank accounts, or put a charge on their house (if they have a mortgage/ own it). What a great start to married life for him!

PureBoggin · 02/01/2025 21:34

DorothyStorm · 02/01/2025 20:10

It is a £500 product. Of course people are going to insist on getting it back. Who can write off £500!

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Why are you here if you're not part of the MN crowd? 🕵️‍♀️

Buxomblondie · 02/01/2025 21:35

PureBoggin · 02/01/2025 21:33

There's no pile on of the friend. The friend isn't here is she? A pile on can only happen to someone actually participating in the thread. Unless she is?

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Also struggling to see what comeuppance has the CF friend has actually had...

OhcantthInkofaname · 02/01/2025 21:36

I'm wondering if you unknowingly paid for her wedding!

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