To think this is strange from my neighbour?

[Pekitothebunny]

This morning I woke up to a pack of Christmas cards that have been posted through my door. They are new Christmas cards, still sealed within their pack, unused. A note came with it saying “hi, it’s Janet from number 5. I bought these for you to send out to the neighbours next year”

Huh? Why would anyone do that? She’s isn’t my direct neighbour, she’s like 4 houses down. We don’t speak or have any kind of relationship. However, since we moved in a few years ago she has always sent us a Christmas card, and I assume she sends them to everyone on the street. We don’t bother with Christmas cards and never send them out. Could it be that she’s offended that we never send cards so this is her not so subtle way of hinting that she will be expecting a card from us in 2025?? Why would anyone care so much?

Im planning on just throwing the cards away and ignoring it. Would anyone else find this weird?

And say what?

Can you believe Sarah from Number 32 hasnt said us all cards? 🤣🤣🤣🤣

OP doesn't do that or she would have said.

I agree, it's weird attention-getting behaviour from someone with too much time on her hands. If you engage, you risk being sucked in.

It is strange of her, maybe she's lonely, is she an older person they put more value on cards. Do you talk to any other neighbours, I'd be inclined to ask if she's done this to anyone else. Part of me thinks just post them back. But maybe it would also be an act of kindness to send her one each year?

Nah l reckon they are all friendly with each other and the OP doesn't want to participate. So they gossip about that.

I mean it's no more ridiculous than letting someone send you a card for years and ignoring it.

For all she knows you could be a Jehovah witness.

Really funny and rude. I would put them back through her door with a note as mentioned above.

Nobody gets to tell their neighbours to send cards or choose them for them. Very weird conduct. I’d post them back with a note: ‘thanks for thinking of us but we only send cards to our family members so we don’t want these to go to waste.’

I mean it's no more ridiculous than letting someone send you a card for years and ignoring it

Are you the forceful card giver? 😅

That's not a bad idea tbh.
As long as a note is sent saying just that; that a charitable donation has been made in lieu of a card, to the estimated amount of card and postage.
Better the money goes to help a cause, than end up in the bin, adding to recycling woes after Xmas.

I don't agree with her attitude or behaviour, but as she bought them I'd just post them back through her door with a note saying thanks, but we don't bother with Christmas cards.

Give them back and tell her you would rather save the planet

I don't give cards to anyone.

They can talk about me as much as they want.
But probably they don't

This is so f£%d up OP. I think you must nip it in the bud and be very blunt. Post it back through their letter box. Write note stating that you don't post Christmas cards, that you find her behaviour very passive aggressive and that you won't be intimidated into destroying a tree for her. I'd suggest that she stops sending you cards if she finds your lack of reply so offensive as well. Be very assertive with this or it will escalate into even more batshit scenarios

Thank your lucky stars you don't love right next door to her!

Can you keep them until Christmas 2025, and then write them all out to her, and post them in one go. 😀

Next year send them all back one at a time… with one letter in each one…

H…A…P…P…Y
X…M…A…S
J…A…N…E…T

If you want to mess with her head, mix them up before sending them.
*You could also write, “Btw, we’re Jewish/Muslim/Hindu/Buddist/Scientologist/Breatharians, Gnostics” or whatever just to throw the boot in

Talk to her, explain reasons, as stated be blunt. If you choose not to send Christmas cards for whatever reason, that is your business.

Tell her you're Jewish, OP, and would really rather she didn't send you a Christmas card.

Talk about escalating a situation.🙄

Please let us know what you decide to do and the neighbours reaction- I'm over invested in this strange behaviour!

I would return them and then she can send them out herself next year and so she hasn't wasted her money on them.
I'd also put a note through the door with them saying "Dear Janet, Thank you for giving us the cards, however we don't send cards to anyone for environmental reasons so we won't be able to use them. Best wishes (or other appropriate sign of) Number 11"

That’s so creepy! She clearly feels upset you haven’t given her a card!! We have a neighbour right at the end of the road who gives every single person a card and knows all their names despite barely knowing them! She’s a busy body and I find it creepy!

Post them back with a note saying ‘thanks for the gesture but I don’t give cards as we donate to charity instead!’

Yes I’d find it deeply weird OP.

I don’t give Xmas cards out - but I sent one to a neighbour this year who’d sent me one.

But even so - if I hadn’t - it’s nothing to feel guilty about - it’s a tradition that’s lessened over the years!

If you don’t send Christmas cards for environmental / sustainability / religious reasons then it’s perfectly acceptable to be true to your beliefs and not send one back. The people sending cards get to choose whether to send them out, and to whom. The people who don’t send cards are fully entitled to their choice not to send them, and there’s no reason why they should be bullied into reciprocating.