Friends awful baby name

[ThisIcyHare]

My best friend is due to have a baby soon, they are having a girl and she has been talking baby names with me, which feels super special. She has got a few very lovely traditional girly names, and a couple of more unusual choices, but not ‘offensive’. They are names I would expect from her. However, she has one absolutely terrible name, that actually just feels very cruel. It would be bad even by American standards and ‘tragedeigh’ names. It’s not that I wouldn’t choose it, it’s just crazy stupid and the child will be ridiculed by peers and adults. Some of her choices are genuinely wonderful, but I’m so worried she will madly choose this one awful name, I can’t say anything can I?!

Jane is such an unfair name anyway. Plain Jane…

Of course you should tell her. She hasn’t decided yet- it’s the perfect time to tell her. She’s meant to be a friend, and we’re meant to offer honest feedback and wise counsel when asked.

ask her if she wants to know your opinion of the names. Then be diplomatic and honest. I love X and Y….. I really like A and B because….. The only one I’m really not keen on is Z. I’d be worried it would be give people something to bully/pick on her for, and I know you wouldn’t want that.

pretty simple really…..?

I’d just say, “I must admit, that’s not my favourite.”

But Athena is a perfectly normal name. Tina Onassis was actually Athina. ( just a different spelling)
And Calamity Jane, was actually Emily Jane. It started as a joke.

Boo makes me think of Boo Radley.

Bu is definitely a derivative of But. How unfortunate.

Evangeline?

Oh wow I hope it's not Rectitude, which was suggested above!
Purity? Horrendous
Virtue? Could be ok.

I think I would make a joke about it, but maybe I'm awful!

Ok so it has to be something like Honesty, Probity, Rectitude, Character,

or

• Decency, Goodness, Morality, Righteousness

any of these are ridiculous for a name! @ThisIcyHare please tell me if my guess is there lol !

Now I've seen INTEGRITY written down a few times I'm starting to quite like it as a name

But only on a person non-white

One of my close acquaintances is called Chastity, literally forgotten what it means as it's now her in my mind. Yes, she's black and a totally normal name.

Is it Clemency?

There's a few things here, she is obviously sharing this with you as she values your opinion and involvement.

If you really want to give your take on the name but don't want to ruffle feathers then I'd give her the order in which I think are good choices then I'd give her why I think number 1 is the best and why the last one, that being the name you think is dreadful last staying your concerned the child could be teased because of the name and leave it there and then its up to her but the thought of her child possibly being teased over it may concentrate the mind.

That being said, whilst revealing th name would be outing, we really need to know what it is

No you can’t. You could say you prefer other names on her shortlist.

Now that is childish
Ps. Feel free to add my name to your blacklist. 🙄

It would be bad even by American standards

Your unconscious bias is showing.

Honesty?

(Neuro- / Bio- /) Diversity?

University?

Pubity?

Designer-tee?

If the name hasn't been chosen yet, you should tell her your concerns. Gently but frankly IMHO.

Perhaps say that the child has to live with the name and also mention what other children will call her as a nick name. Ie teasing
ie teasing

Is it 'tegridy after 'Tegridy weed farm in South Park?

Candida?

Rectitude sounds like a brand of laxative pills.

Honesty?