Kissing grandparents

[Eddy334]

Just wondered what everyone's take on this. My 5 year old sees her Grandma and step Grandfather on her dad's side every couple of months for a weekend. They have been together and married for 30 years. We go down as a family and stay for 1 or 2 nights

The grandfather always insists on kissing my daughter on the lips which I find a bit weird. Shall I say something or is it not a problem?

Your son sounds like a lovely boy.

I'd say to all family members we are going to do hugs not kisses now she's getting older. And treat it as an age thing. Teach dd it's ok to say no thank you

So you haven’t asked him to not do it? It doesn’t sound as if he is insisting it just sounds as if it is a natural part of his family dynamics.

Parents lip kissing; maybe okay if child is okay with it. We kissed our boys on the lips when they were young, but they soon let us know when they had grown out of it.

Other relatives though……nope! I would be very uncomfortable with this.

Absolutely not....this screams red flags to me.....and I hope she sleeps in the same room as you whilst staying there too.

You just can't be too careful sometimes....once abuse happens the damage is done.

He’s not even her granddad, he’s a step grand father. Absolutely not. In childhood SA cases it’s so frequently a grandfather figure. He should not be insisting on ANY type of physical affection, you need to teach your child about bodily autonomy and then educate the adults around her on respecting her boundaries. I don’t even hug my own nieces or close friends kids without their express consent, and I make sure I do it in a way that makes it explicitly clear it’s their choice and offer a high five if that’s preferred. He has no right to force her to do anything and you as a parent need to make it clear to him that you won’t allow that behaviour to continue - you can do this in a kind way that doesn’t put any shame on his past behaviour and pitch it as she’s getting older and learning about her body/her choice etc.