Am I being too sensitive or would this bother you?

[Privateeye34]

My boyfriend of 1 year and I went to a little family gathering last night for the new year. I’m nervous of dogs and the dog kept coming over and sniffing round me (as dogs do). I said to my boyfriend about it and he said “that dog knows a bitch when he smells one”
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It depends if this kind of thing is out of the ordinary or not. DH and I are both very sarcastic and we banter a lot and roasting each other has always been part of out relationship but if this is not normal for you then I can understand why it pissed you off. I don't think it's a LTB situation though.

Is he a bit antsy about your dog anxiety?

I think some men can't resist riffing on the 'bitch' theme when a dog, a literal dog, is referred to. It's immature and sexist not witty wordplay.
However, only you know if he's generally better than this and has learnt not to say that sort of thing to you again or whether it reveals the real him, in which case dump him.

@Comtesse maybe an apology is in order, yes. It’s always a good idea when you upset someone. But equally I think OP needs to chill and stop taking things so seriously.

@asrl78 no, it’s not necessary to be perfect. But she’s made her feelings known to her partner, she’s called him out. Now what?

It’s gone from a poorly received joke to a LTB thread, with people insinuating that it must mean he’s a misogynistic, good for nothing, sexist pig. When he made ONE joke which could arguably seen as funny.

He was having a laugh. He obviously doesn’t think you’re a bitch OP or he wouldn’t be with you. You’ve mentioned no other times when he’s been disrespectful or unkind. He’s said he didn’t mean it seriously and presumably your relationship is otherwise good. So to drag this on and make it something it wasn’t intended to be will only damage your relationship. You may not have liked the joke, fair enough, but I’m sure he doesn’t like the insinuation that you think he thinks you’re a bitch. This is one of those situations where you can relax and let it go, or you can make it into a bigger deal, risking all the good things to prove a point that no one was intending to make.

Honestly? It sounds like he’d accept the banter!

Ive called my partner lots of silly names over the 25 years we’ve been together. So has he. It’s a joke. We laugh, sometimes it escalates into a banter match, sometimes it stays as one witty comment that we both bring up later and laugh.

Weve never once insulted each other seriously (to each others face, anyway). I would never swear at him in a horrible way, I love him. But we joke. We laugh.

Sometimes life can be lighthearted. Perhaps OP and her boyfriend are in different pages.

That’s how it can start though, isn’t it? One joke.

I simply wouldn’t be interested in anyone who thought misogyny is something to joke about and they clearly wouldn’t know me at all to think I’d find it funny.

...but I’m sure he doesn’t like the insinuation that you think he thinks you’re a bitch.

Talk about twisting things. He called her a bitch but she's in the wrong for 'insinuating' that?!

@snotathing as. a. joke!