AIBU to think husband ruined NYE?

[Chummychoos]

Last night for the first time ever we went out to celebrate NYE.
We bought tickets to an event, along with a couple of friends, and were really looking spending NYE at a party altogether but I feel like my husband ruined the night.
Both my husband and my friend’s husband mixed their alcoholic drinks and ended up in a bit of a state. However while her husband quietly retreated to a corner of the room mine was on the dance floor bumping into people, stumbling about and getting progressively more and more irritating and embarrassing as the night went on.
We left promptly after midnight as most of us were no longer enjoying ourselves, plus I felt like I had to keep a constant eye on what my husband was doing to make sure he wasn’t bothering/falling into other guests etc but I am really annoyed with him and feel that he ruined what should have been a good night out.
I don’t even want to talk to him today, although I imagine he isn’t going to wake up feeling too bright so hopefully won’t try to talk to me, but I am also wondering if I am BU to be so annoyed particularly because I didn’t drink alcohol (driving) so my perception will be somewhat different

I think it’s actually a pretty good benchmark.

Also think it’s a bit of an overreaction.

I wonder how you friend will be treating her husband today.

YABU. Nothing wrong with letting your hair down once in a while even if if means acting like a bit of a dick. Let it go and maybe try not to be so uptight this year.

Maybe he needs to go out more often so he can learn how to drink sensibly

Drunk man dances on NYE at a friend's party......LTB obviously!

@DreamTheMoors Why does the OPs husband being pissed remind you of your father sexually harassing someone.

They are not even in the same ball park

Man gets drunk on NYE. 😱

Definite LTB scenario. 🙄

I think if one of you is driving you need to have the conversation beforehand about expectations. It's no fun being stone cold sober with a legless partner. It's probably better to get a taxi or if not possible agree that neither of you will drink too much. I wouldn't get cross with him but it's something to discuss for next time. It's not unreasonable to want to spend a nice evening together.

I’m sure he will have The Fear today if he is not used to drinking which will be punishment enough. It doesn’t sound like he did anything that bad.. just forget about it and try and have a good New Year’s Day.

Plenty of people are embarrassing on NYE but I’m sorry your evening was ruined. I’d probably take the mick out of him today rather than get angry, which will ruin your NYD as well as last night.

Ofgs it’s hardly crime of the century - get a grip

Its not surprising you don’t go out much together

This was your first time going out to celebrate new year and I think there can be a lot of pressure on having a great time on new years. Sounds like the pressure got to him and it went wrong.

op would i be right in thinking that this issue aside.., your marriage is less than healthy atm?

It was NYE, you hardly ever go out, I think your over reacting big time

Sounds like you ruined your own evening tbh, so don't take it out on someone for making the most of a rare night out on NYE.

YABU. It’s New Year’s Eve. Poor guy never really goes out and he had a few too many and stumbled around a bit having fun. Leave it alone and don’t make him feel bad for this.

Plenty of people would have been drunk there, it's a NYE event, it's kind of the point to enjoy the drinks!

You wouldn't have found it as bad if you weren't sober.

Cut him some slack on this one, he took it a bit too far but he doesn't sound ridiculously bad!

It really depends on you and as others have said if he form for ruining events by drinking too much. When it's your husband you do feel like they're behaviour reflects on you.
My husband was drunk by about 3.30. Important family party this year and he was in bed by 9 because he was so drunk. Also stole his mum's drink and when she told him off he told her to fuck off. It's hard because I know uptight around drinking now but if this is out of character I'd chalk it up to a mistake. If he's always doing it then it's different, only you know what he's like with drink.

Book an Uber next time and join in with the daft dancing.

YANBU - there’s nothing worse than a DH who is way too drunk to even enjoy the night out. I would feel like I was stood up, especially if you were fully sober.

Gently, YABU.

Id have been a bit annoyed at the time too, but it doesn’t sound like he has form and presumably lots of other people were pissed too so won’t have even noticed.

It was NYE! I’d gently rib him about his hangover and get over it.

just not the drunkenly pushing and bumping in to other dancers and staggering around the dance floor maybe

Yes it sounds annoying. You can tell him you’re annoyed but then let it go and don’t go on about it

You were sober, it would have seemed worse to you. I bet no-one else will be thinking of him today, really nothing at all!
I remember my first night out after about 18 months plus with pregnancy and breastfeeding. It was the first time in ages I had got dressed up ready for a night out. I had a great night but got carried away and the night is very blurry I was sick etc! 🤦🏼‍♀️
i had the fear massively the next day but luckily my husband was very reassuring saying it was just because I hadn't been out for a while, out of practice 😂 and just enjoying letting my hair down 😂 just the next time I went out I was prepared not to end up like that! 😂
I think if it's rare you go out, it can be very easy to get carried away. Although it really doesn't sound like he has done anything wrong at all!! I wouldn't say anything at all and just forget about it tbh.

Just let it go - it was a one off, he didn’t start a fight, vomit, it’s really not that bad. Most of us have been there. DH and I always look after the other when hungover, not be in a strop with them.

I think unless he’s got a habit for doing it all the time then I’d let this one go. He’ll probably be feeling embarrassed and very hungover this morning. Maybe run the Hoover round extra loud just to seal the deal 😂😂.