To be disturbed by 11yo girl with piercings and pink hair in IKEA

[lover99]

How can anyone be so unhappy with the way their daughter looks that they would wish to change everything about her?! She must be homeschooled as well (which I also disagree with) as I can't imagine a school permitting it.

She had 2 cheek, nose, lip and eyebrow piercings.

She can't have been older than 10, and no, she was not a young-looking adult. She was 10 or 11 and 100% pre-puberty. The smoothness and porosity of a child's skin was unmistakable: she was under 11. I work with children and know how they look.

This is so desperately sad, it's just another parent-influenced performance of adult femininity on a young child, to me. This is why females will never be free. Why would you want your daughter to look so adult?

I try really hard not to judge mothers as parents, but I am tested daily.

I had very real looking fake piercings when I was a similar age. Even my dad (who I lived with) thought they were real for weeks before I told him it was a joke.
Pink hair... well me and my kids all have rainbow hair ATM. It's spray on and will wash out tomorrow.

If the kid you saw seriously had facial piercings then yes, that's awful. But you just saw her in passing, it's very unlikely to be real.

Where's the dad? Or is it the mother's fault?

None of these things are permanent, experimenting isn't new. She's likely not an adult, but could easily be a young looking 16 yr old.

I'm really amazed at your ability to to detect biological changes in the skin smoothness and porosity of a child that enables you to state with such confidence you know for certain they were "under 11" as opposed to 11 and a half, 12 or even <gasp> a young looking 13.

No way was this kid 10

And also, stop looking at minors so closely you can see their pores. Very strange.

I'm more disturbed by how closely you must have been looking at her tbh.

"She was 10 or 11 and 100% pre-puberty. The smoothness and porosity of a child's skin was unmistakable: she was under 11. I work with children and know how they look."

Can you honestly not hear how bizarre this sounds??

I’ve just done a quick google search out of curiosity and yep, these are both things (fake piercings) that can be bought. There’s even a TikTok influencer who explains how to fake the cheek piercings.

Ive no problems with piercings or hair colours. She probably is influenced by her mum - we’re all influenced by something.

My daughter is 19 and she's tiny, she looks the same age as her 12 year old cousin. I find it disturbing how closely you were looking at her, you probably freaked her out. Worrying that you work with children and study them so closely you can tell by their pores how old they are. I wouldn't want someone that close to my children.

Yes because having different colour hair and probably fake piercings on a very likely young looking teenager are the same as starving and beating a toddler to death. Jesus Christ.

If I caught you staring at my child in IKEA hard enough to try and determine their age based on their SKIN PORES I'd be alerting a member of staff.

"tested daily", wow, can't believe what I have just read. Maybe you could have a more peaceful life if you did not stare at every sartorial and styling detail of strangers you encounter when out and about and then make baseless assumptions about their lives.

Youre the poster with the long running thread about the tacky wedding dress you rate, right @lover99 ?

In which case I have no faith in your style assessment as well as no faith in your ability to keep your judgy beak out of what doesnt concern you!

@lover99
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I work with children and know how they look.

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This is, hands down, one of the most bizarre sentences I’ve read on here this year. Op knows how children look, because she works with them 🤣🤣

Op, where do I start… first of all, working with some children does not make you the authority on all peoples ages. Secondly, you’re on Mumsnet, a forum filled with mums. We all have our own children-we don’t just “work with them”
Thirdly, you haven’t lived very much or seen very many people in your life if you didn’t already know that it is not remotely possible to judge someone’s age based on “the porosity of their skin” 🤣
Also, no piercer will pierce the lip, eyebrow, cheeks and nose of a 9 year old 🤣

Is any of this post true op? No?

looking at a child for 3 secs who has attention-getting appearance = casting a lustful gaze? Guess I'm a pervert

OMFG hun - 999 NOW. 🙄🙄🙄

My son is wearing magnet piercings tonight for a party, and will have a coloured stripe in his hair. Both will be gone by the morning. Should my child be taken away for child abuse?

You awful mother!!
PM me your details so I can report you immediately!

And while the SS are carting away your poor, abused child I want you to think about your actions

You just want to the address to come to the party don't you? 😎

I cannot lie. I want a blue streak 😔

Make sure to take a pic so @lover99 will have something to be Tested Daily with....

I should probably put all my old piercings back in from when I was a teen. She’d have a cardiac arrest

Wtaf. Kids have hair. It is either long or short, depending on their/their parents' preference. Just because wou,ldn"t pass at a military academy doesn't mean their parents are doing something wrong

I home educate and meet many dc with hair of all colours, funnily enough it has never stopped them being kind, interesting kids. Sometimes it’s permanent due, sometimes it’s temporary.
I’ve also met many tweens/teens with fake piercings too, the real ones tend to come a bit later although I know some twins with bellybutton piercings who are 12 (and at school if it matters).

I was 12 when I had my belly button pierced. It was in the early days of its popularity, I saw Naomi Campbell with a belly button piercing and urgently needed to get one myself 🤣 my mum had to take me and provide consent. But this was the 90s

I remember these days, I was desperate to have mine done but my mum wouldn’t let me.

I know someone who looks very very young and could possibly pass for that kind of age although they are mostly definitely an adult.