Should I ignore this text

[Mulberrytree20]

Please tell me if iabu and a bit cold.

Split from ex 2 month ago. Felt like it weren't working. Felt she wasn't nice to me, constant digs. Her DC caused drama i Felt and I did not like her ex parented her. Dc came across very spoilt and entitled (she's now a young teenager). Felt like me and my DC never came first and it was always what she and her DC wanted first.
Me and ex have been messaged a little but not much. Tbh I felt so relieved and happier after I left. Ex wanted me back. I met up with her a few days ago to give belongings back, we had a brief chat about our Christmases.
I received a text late last night saying she's had to sit with her DC because she's inconsolable that we are no longer together. Ex said she feels we have let our children down and wondered if I could speak to her DC to let her know I'm around if she needs me.
No offence but most of our arguments were because of her DC behaviour. I'm quite happy with the way my life is now. I feel like ex is trying to emotionally manipulate me into feeling bad (nothing new there)
Aibu to just ignore this text?

I had a couple of typos I ment know what her dc is like.

Yes it was a question maybe you like the drama?
I don’t think you seem to do so .
So block

You feel anxious as you have spent 4 years prioritising this person and dealing with consequences when you don’t. You are FREE now! You don’t owe them anything further and you dont have to be manage a badly behaved step child, an ineffective parent for a partner or explain yourself in any way. ‘No, a clean break is best for us’ is all you need to say

Why is that ? Ask yourself why and try to work from that ?

Was it her reaction to you in the relationship when you stood up to her ?
If so it’s over .
If it’s guilt , remember it’s her who should feel guilty for doing it to her dc not you. You would feel more guilt keeping your dc involved in her mess .

Block her and delete her number and txts .

Because she is manipulative and controlling?

Well done for spotting and paying attention to your gut - that anxiety is your emotional smoke alarm. You probably know she will escalate this. You have a choice - block / mute her and focus your finite headspace, time and emotional energy positively on your own DC today instead of getting sucked into this drama nonsense - unless that is your priority and where you get your kicks? Be clear what you contribute to this dynamic by beind accessible and engaged in it.

You're feeding into this at this point which comes across like you don't really want to cut contact? You've had a lot of good suggestions of short sharp messages and then to block but you keep responding to her. You (allegedly) aren't interested, your DC has been clear he isn't interested, so just block the woman - why go into 2025 carrying unnecessary baggage?

I guess a reason I'm worried is because I will still see her DC at my work. I work at the same school. I was trying to be nice because I don't want any drama brought to my work or for them both to cause drama for me at my work. It's not because I love drama. I really don't.

She has replied what's happened to you you used to be a nice person

Well done, now block @Mulberrytree20
Edited as I read your update - please do not reply to the ‘nice person’ text. Just block. Keep away from her dc at your work or anywhere else.

What she means by 'you used to be a nice person' is that you were easy to manipulate and follow her orders.

"What's happened to you, you used to do as I say"

You need to block her now on everything. She will keep trying to suck you back in.

Speak to your boss asap.

Explain the sensitivities of the situation for you and the DC.

Be unemotional and protect your career.

Have you seen any vexatious attitudes from ex towards others in the time you have been with her - if so expect that it is your time now.

Are you actually going to block her now and stop facilitating this nonsense?

If you get any shite off this child at school, report it.

Dont give her any more air. Narcissists thrive on it. Kill it at source and block.

So sorry you are going through this OP

She's trying to draw you in so you can't do anything other than block now. Keep any correspondence so if anything does crop up later, you have it to show to work or whoever.

She is never going to listen to no.

Just block you've explained enough for her to understand

Exactly as @Itsallgonesideways said. Nice equaled doormat. Don't be tempted to respond. Don't sit around waiting on edge for more from her. Block and keep busy. It will just keep going on and on otherwise. Get out, do anything but do something.

For goodness sake, block and be done. Stop feeding it!

"I’ve moved on, I suggest you do too. Goodbye"

Why are you still engaging with this crap?

Block her.

I'm not engaging now. I'm just worried they will bring drama to my work

@Mulberrytree20 What could happen ? What do you think could /would happen ?
You have to rationalise it .
It will be on then if they do not you .
Maybe to make you feel better you have a word with your boss .

And so you should be - so get ahead of that with an email or meeting booked with your boss first thing.

It's time to ask her to stop messaging you, if she continues you will block. Definetly worth letting your school know the situation.

@Mulberrytree20 then talk to your peers/Manager. Make sure you are nowhere you could encounter her. Failing that, consider looking for a new role. You shouldn't have to, but, clean break and all that.

Reading your update, speak to your boss and block. Avoid her child unless necessary in a work capacity (to avoid any false allegations). You can't live your life in fear of what your ex may do. The sooner you cut it off the sooner she'll get bored and move on!

send An email to your line manager today outlining the issue and requesting a meeting. The email will make sure you have a start of any evidence if needed.

with the ex; grey rock.please stop contacting me. And block.