AIBU unreasonable OH being ridiculous

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Competely understand this is a 1st world problem and of little significance to most people but it’s a ‘straw that broke the camel’s back’ for me.

I was building Lego for our son and had the torch on my phone on. I accidentally shone it in OH’s eyes momentarily. He said ‘you shone your torch in my eyes.’ with a look of complete annoyance and disdain and took off his glasses and rubbed his eyes like I had blinded him.

i told him it was a complete accident and that it wasn’t likely to happen again but honestly he’s made me feel completely crap and useless.

He hasn’t felt very well today but honestly I do so much for him and he’s not poorly enough to not be on his phone / watching TV. I’ve brought him coffee from the shop and taken some of his returns to the shop because he gets anxious about doing it himself. I got up with the kids and haven’t asked him to do a single thing all day.

Would it have killed him to not mention it or seem so annoyed? Knowing it was a one off and a complete accident?

I feel like walking out if I’m such an inconvenience. See how convenient life is without me. Sounds dramatic but I’m honestly sick of him.

Edit: I spoke to him and he said ‘it really hurt.’ Is that even possible? 😂

I don’t like light shining on my eyes DH does it to me but it doesn’t hurt it’s just slightly irritating and not worth being a big baby over

he is right to be annoyed and you don’t mention apologising. you say sorry even if it was an accident. i would find that very triggering for a migraine. i can’t tolerate that type of light. same reason I can’t have photos taken with a flash.

Yes it hurts my eyes when a torch is shone in them.

My guess this hasn’t really anything to do with the torch (I wear glasses, I’ve had a phone torch shone accidently in my eyes, it is uncomfortable and I took off my glasses to rub my eyes and sat blinking for awhile)
Sounds like you feel unappreciated and you’re are irritated by his behaviour, so the torch shining incident was the final straw.
I would have apologised for accidentally shining the light and have expected your apology to be accepted and then the whole thing forgotten about.

Ummm this shows your genuine distain for him. Im very light sensitive. Light in my eyes hurts. My husband loves light torches etc. Its taken him years to realise it actually hurts my eyes. His eyes are different.

He needs to get over himself.
Also, building Lego for your son? Do you mean building it with your son? Or are you doing your son's activity for him?

Yes. I have sensitive eyes and it actually hurts to shine a phone torch into them. You should have apologised.

But I'd focus on the clearly much bigger problems you have.....