I female (25) have been with my boyfriend (25) for 6 years. His best friend (26) who he loves like a brother has been acting so strange towards me.
so for a little context over the years myself my boyfriend and his friend we have all gone out together on days out, drinking together and just over all had a good friendship & I am very very good friends as well with his ex girlfriend.
since his breakup with his girlfriend my boyfriends best friend has just been out drinking all day every day, getting him self into trouble with the police and hanging around with very bad people. My boyfriend out of his own choice has chosen to distance him self from his best friend as he does not want to see him ruin his life. My boyfriend loves him a lot and has tried to help him but there is only so much you can try to help someone if they don’t accept your help what else really can you do. He hasn’t exactly fell out with him but he’s just not seeing him every day like he used.
my boyfriend is absoutley terrible with phones, he must go through 10x phones a year I’m not even over exaggerating (he works in construction and is very very clumsy)
because of Christmas we have been a bit tight on money so he hasn’t actually yet managed to take his phone into repair. So for the time being he just uses my laptop if he needs to go on social media & family or his friends for example will ring my phone or message me if they need to get hold of him,
His best friend keeps ringing and messaging me to speak to my boyfriend, I told him he doesn’t have a phone & I’ll ask him to call him when he gets back from work. He then starts to spit his dummy out telling me to tell my boyfriend he’s sly and he owes him no loyalty now as he wouldn’t ignore his friends if they fell off and went onto the rails. Tried to explain to him it isn’t like that and maybe he should come round to try and speak to my boyfriend in person instead of over the phone.
I told him that my boyfriend would be back for 7 pm as he had gone to go and see his mums for a few hours as I was working ( I work from home ) Instead he decided to turn up to my house at 3 pm - he first asked if I could put his phone on charge for him whilst he took his dog for a walk, I ran to my back gate to grab his phone of him & to put it on charge. He then asked if he could use my toliet I told him yeah just run up. He kept trying to keep conversation going with me once he came back down saying he might just wait for my boyfriend to get home. I said to him I don’t really think that’s the best idea as he’s still going to be a good few hours.
( I was drinking wine whilst wrapping presents as this was on Christmas Eve, his friend had seen my wine and started asking me what I was up to I said I was just having a few wines and wrapping he then said to me so you not going to grab me one then, I felt a bit awkward at this point I was like yeeee erm you can have one of my boyfriends beers. Whilst his friend was here I was trying to get into contact with my boyfriend telling him that his friend was here, for him to hurry up - but I got no answer back. Eventually my boyfriend rang & his friend went out to speak to him - my boyfriend told him to go home & that he will go round to his friends house later on to go and see him. His friend told me about this and he started to slag my boyfriend of saying he doesn’t know why he’s being like that.
even after my boyfriend told him to leave he kept trying to make excuses to not leave I don’t even know how to explain it but I felt so so so awkward. He kept asking to go to the toliete he must of went to the toilet at least 4 times. He kept telling me he couldn’t wee & he didn’t want my boyfriend walking in thinking anything was happening and kept pointing to his pants. I had no idea what the hell he was going on about untill he said that he had a hard on & I have made him hard the whole time he was there. He then tried to kiss me which I swerved and at that point I told him it’s probably best that he leaves.
he now keeps messaging me telling me he wants to “fuck Me” & “destroy me” that he always has - he kept deleting message so I am completely ignoring what he is putting I am not even replying.
I feel so bad for my boyfriend and I don’t even know how to tell him about what has happened because I know that this will hurt him ALOT his friend ended up coming round the day after on Christmas Day to speak to my boyfriend within an hour my boyfriend told him to go. He keeps messaging me saying he’s coming round to see me but to see my boyfriend as well.
my boyfriend has a lot of love for him and what has happened is going to really really hurt him. He doesn’t really have many friends as it is - he’s told me plenty of times he would die for his friend. I do want to tell my boyfriend I just have absoutley no idea where the hell to start.
as for the stalking me on a fake profile - for nearly 3 years a fake account has been messaging me sexually harassing me - it saves my pictures and sends me then, tells me that I am making them throb and a lot of other things but reading what his friend has sent me the messages ( the way it’s worded and the things it has sent me, sound exactly like what his friend has been messaging me) - the fake account has already told me I know who they are but they can’t tell me who - when I block it a new one is made - the whole situation is also making me feel very very uncomfortable