Partner not wanting sex while I am pregnant

[Motherof1and2dogs]

Just wanted to see what everyone thinks about the above. My husband is fully aware I am writing this by the way, but I am curious to see what others think so we can sit down and read together your replies, either I need to respect his feelings or he needs to respect mine (by the way this is not an argument, we have been joking around about the situation but he is 100% serious) so he refuses to have sex with me as soon as I start to show my bump, he gets really freaked out about the thought of having sex when I am pregnant, I can kind of sympathise as it must be a bit strange, but how can we both go the next 6.5 months without sex 😫 I mean he seems fine with it but I'm not. I am not an addict in anyway, but I think at least 1-2 times a month is healthy for your relationship. I do think it will affect me not being able to do it for such a long time in terms of self esteem as well as the emotional side of it, and then when baby is here it will probably be even longer after that!

Has anyone else been in a similar situation? Should I respect how he feels and just deal with it? Should he just build up the courage and have sex with me while pregnant? Sorry for so much information but just interested to see what people say, maybe some comments may help me or him with the situation. Thanks in advance! :)

Yeah: fuck off if you're pressurising op for blow jobs

I mean, if that's how he feels, then he has the right to say no.

Although, it's a bit odd. Sex does nothing to harm the pregnancy unless you are some sort of high risk . So essentially, while he has the right to say no, he also should think about seeing someone about his anxiety as it isn't based on any facts or can't be justified with facts.

It's a problem with him and nothing to do with you being pregnant. The same as if he couldn't get it up or had ED, it isn't to do with you.

As you would with any anxiety (fear of flying, social anxiety), he should get himself down to the Dr's for some therapy. Poor chap.

Also, isn't it bizarre how men will get off to porn where women are being 'role play' degraded, abused and shagged by multiple men... but find it odd having sex with their pregnant partner... something that should be natural.

I think he shouldn’t be forced to have sex but he needs to make sure that you don’t feel rejected as that will lead to problems down the line- I hope you are listening husband! I would talk and cuddle regularly- what is it about eachother that you love physically and everything else- personality etc. you need to make sure you keep that connection strong. You need to be proactive on this and it’s not as a late night after thought to give a consiliatory hug. Think of ways you both can show how much you love eachother without sex until you give birth.

It's really weird once the baby is moving it's like there are three of you involved and it's distracting!

@Melissa2023 literally hit the nail on the head with your comment. We have literally been joking around with the whole thing. I even said to him last night "well if I'm deprived of sex I want foot and back massages or you can play Mario kart with me instead to make up for it" 😆 (things he wouldn't normally do) all in a jokey way. Obviously would never force him to have sex and I can obviously wait if he doesn't want to do it, we were both just curious on what others thought about the situation and how other couples dealt with it etc. Some comments have been such a laugh for us though and a shock too!

It’s only odd if it’s the same men doing both, and there’s no reason at all to think that OP’s husband is in to degrading, abusive pornography 🙄

I was a single parent during one of my pregnancies, it was absolute horrendous when the hormones kicked in and the horniness was there constantly.

My best advice is to invest in a decent toy…. My room sounded like a barber shop every night but hey, I was satisfied 🤣🤣