DH slagging off my Santa gifts

[needlesandhaystacks]

I've had a good few glasses of wine so maybe I'm het up.

As I was getting the Santa presents out earlier DH declares, 'Is that it?' We have 2 DC, 2 and 5. I have, as always and with most things, got all the gifts. Both children have got exactly what they asked for. 2 year old won't have a proper clue anyway about quantity and 5 year old has nice things but I haven't gone overboard. We have a house full of toys, we have extended family who will be buying lots. They both get lots throughout the year.

DH questioning why they haven't got more toys. He's done absolutely nothing to contribute to getting the presents, if I'm being honest, isn't that great a dad, I literally do everything. He's saying I'm boring etc. my Christmas's must have been boring as I've got them some practical stuff too.

I just think we have years ahead of us of the kids demands etc and I don't want spoilt children; Christmas or not.

I know some children won't have half the stuff mine will get, and just because we could afford to spend more, should I have to?!?

Great, he can do it next year then!

Sorry op, he can’t be not involved then suddenly have an opinion. Don’t let him think he can disrespect you. Type
you’re either a team or what’s the point?

Tell him to fuck off.

And follow it with, well you can sort next Christmas and we can see how well you do

YANBU. Too many presents can be overwhelming when they're small. We have bought limited but high quality gifts for our 4YO and 1YO this year. They are being spoilt by various relatives. Space is limited.

I know it's the season of goodwill, and I know you want a nice atmosphere for the sake of the kids tomorrow...

He sounds like an absolute waste of space. He does nothing and then criticises you for doing it instead. What does he contribute?

Ohhh I'd be pissed off at that. Let him do it next year; every single bit of it from start to finish.

Santa is bringing DD precisely one toy. She asked for a marble run. He also brings a stocking of little treats and accessories, but nothing crazy. We got her a few other gifts but nothing mega pricey. She's also 5 and has lots of toys already. I'm sure yours will be thrilled tomorrow, just as I hope DD will be!

My DH made a similar comment one year. I said, "No, this is just what I've bought. Did you want to add in what you've bought". That shut him up.

What do you mean Santa gifts? Do you have gifts from you and gifts from Santa?

just a massive sigh and head shake. i agree with you that you dont need to go overboard just because you can. so many reasons why and sounds like you've done great. dont let him make you think otherwise

Exactly the right response. Not sure why he is being such a dick- if he want to ensure the kids have more gifts he needs to get involved in the work of it. I am sure your children will love the gifts.

Tell him to go get the stuff he’s bought, wrapped, and hidden. That should bulk it up.

Definitely with the "no this is only my half, do you want to get what you've bought out too"

Waste of space!

He's not a great dad? Bin him!!

2025 has to be the year of getting rid of shit men and not taking a minute more of their incompetence / abuse / laziness / selfishness / add your own here!

id go nuts if my husband said this. He can do it next year if he’s so good

what a dick

I’d echo the above, and would literally tell him to go fuck himself.

He can make sure they have a nice Christmas next year when he spoils them then can't he.

What a bellend! I'd be telling him to go fuck himself.

It’s a very easy and simple response “ ok you’re in charge of the presents next year”.

ps it sounds like plenty. Too much is wasteful, overwhelming for children and they won’t be as grateful for what they do get.

Give your kids the gift of a happy home and happy mum via divorce.

LTB

What a cunt.

He sounds awful and he’s projecting really. He knows he hasn’t done anything for them so he’s trying to deflect that onto you by making it seem as if you’re the one who’s fallen short. How embarrassing to comment on your partners presents for the kids when you didn’t even help choose them 😵‍💫

Did he at least financially contribute?

You get to have an opinion about a task when you do that task.

I know a lot of women are married to fuckwits so I know you probably won't LTB because you're used to this but FFS, at least lose your shit at him. Lazy arsehole.

What a dick. When my dd was 2 her favourite gift was a new spoon and fork with Peppa Pig on the handles.

It’s the excitement, not the gifts themselves, at this age.

My ds age 5 was literally hopping up and down with excitement earlier tonight, and when it was time to put out the carrot and the mince pie for Santa he was over the moon.

"He's done absolutely nothing to contribute to getting the presents, if I'm being honest, isn't that great a dad, I literally do everything".

Well then he can f* right off. I would be raging. How dare he. And perhaps your response should be ah okay well don't worry next year if they're so rubbish at least you won't have to endure it once you've moved out 🤨🙄