DH slagging off my Santa gifts

[needlesandhaystacks]

I've had a good few glasses of wine so maybe I'm het up.

As I was getting the Santa presents out earlier DH declares, 'Is that it?' We have 2 DC, 2 and 5. I have, as always and with most things, got all the gifts. Both children have got exactly what they asked for. 2 year old won't have a proper clue anyway about quantity and 5 year old has nice things but I haven't gone overboard. We have a house full of toys, we have extended family who will be buying lots. They both get lots throughout the year.

DH questioning why they haven't got more toys. He's done absolutely nothing to contribute to getting the presents, if I'm being honest, isn't that great a dad, I literally do everything. He's saying I'm boring etc. my Christmas's must have been boring as I've got them some practical stuff too.

I just think we have years ahead of us of the kids demands etc and I don't want spoilt children; Christmas or not.

I know some children won't have half the stuff mine will get, and just because we could afford to spend more, should I have to?!?

Ask him what he would have got them and then ask why didn’t actually get them himself, or suggest them to you. Was the role of getting presents allocated solely to you, was he supposed to be consulted on ideas?

He can either get involved and have an opinion on the presents or he can shut up snd be thankful he doesn't have to do it when he obviously doesn't want to. Leaving it up to you then complaining makes him an arsehole.

My reply would be...'right, now let's see what you've got for them'. 😁

I totally disagree with the posts saying tell him to do it all next year. You shouldn't even be with him still next year!

He's a shit dad, who leaves everything up to you, then criticises you despite having made zero effort himself..And he also clearly doesn't even like you, what with the comments about you being boring..

Get through this year (where I'm sure your children will enjoy their gifts that you have got for them), then make plans to have a better Christmas next year without him making it miserable.

YABU to assume everyone should do Christmas your way. Dump him OP.

Why not give yourself a nice gift this Christmas and dump your critical, lazy, useless h?

Just coming on quickly to reply whilst the kids are playing.

Thanks for all of the replies. I appreciate everyone taking the time.

The children were very happy with the presents, the 5 year old especially excited as they got everything they asked for.

As many as you have pointed out here, I have a DH problem, not something I was completely blind to. I know I need to do something about this.
Just to add, DH did contribute financially to the gifts not that that makes everything ok.

Thank you again to all of you, I'm off now to have a lovely day with the children.

Wishing you all a very happy Christmas!

You may indeed!

I've gone overboard when the kids were small and honestly half of it was never used, you did the right thing and let him do it all next year😊

Another vote for the "fuck off" option. as I clear up the debris of all my solo wrapping

he's free to take care of the gifts next year then

Perfect.