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AIBU?

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To be fuming at adult DD?

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ThisisnotwhatIhadplanned · 24/12/2024 22:11

My adult (21 y/o) DD is staying for two weeks. She has been taking the Mick since she arrived, but I think this might be the straw that broke the camel's back.

I bought 20 meters of wrapping paper for dd2 (7 y/o)'s presents. I have wrapped a few, but have the majority to do tonight. I have just gone to get the wrapping paper and it isn't there. DD1 has used the lot today, and also failed to mention it while I was at three different supermarkets getting the stuff the other ones had run out of. She has not mentioned it at all. I have just asked her if she has seen it and she said "oh yeah, I thought it was just spare. I was going to replace it but" and then just walked off. I have about 15 presents to wrap and even the Tesco express and Sainsbury's local are closed. I have printer paper, baking paper and kitchen foil. I am fuming. AIBU? How the hell do I wrap the presents now??? The bit that has really pissed me off is that the presents she has wrapped are for people she isn't even going to see for at least another week, so she could have bought some between now and New Year.

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saraclara · 26/12/2024 21:02

Yoonimum · 26/12/2024 20:46

I know technically your DD is an adult but I would not expect any of our DC to remember to buy wrapping paper until they were at least 25 or older! Young adults can be very trying over practicalities even when they are basically nice and unselfish people. We had started to hand out Christmas presents when our 21 yo remembered he had not wrapped his and put them out! And, yes, he had no paper of his own! I can't get exercised about this though as he helped a lot with Christmas prep, walked the dog and made one of the desserts.

Did your DC have actual jobs before they were 25? Where they were expected to actually be organised and plan ahead? Or did their bosses have equally low bars for actual adults?

I honestly don't know anyone in real life who infantilises their adult children like some Mumsnetters do.

Yoonimum · 26/12/2024 21:42

saraclara · 26/12/2024 21:02

Did your DC have actual jobs before they were 25? Where they were expected to actually be organised and plan ahead? Or did their bosses have equally low bars for actual adults?

I honestly don't know anyone in real life who infantilises their adult children like some Mumsnetters do.

Ha, ha! Because every young adult acts like they are at work when on holiday in their mum and dad's house, don't they?! Providing adult children are generally kind, helpful and responsible in the main it is exactly the sort of thing that I choose not to burst a blood vessel over and will preempt by buying extra. If they were generally taking the piss and trying to treat me like their servant and bank rolled into one then obviously nothing along these lines would be tolerated.

Suzuki76 · 26/12/2024 22:09

saraclara · 26/12/2024 21:02

Did your DC have actual jobs before they were 25? Where they were expected to actually be organised and plan ahead? Or did their bosses have equally low bars for actual adults?

I honestly don't know anyone in real life who infantilises their adult children like some Mumsnetters do.

Mad isn't it. At 24 I had done a year abroad on my own and I was living with DH and had a mortgage. And I'm only 39 now so it wasn't the dim and distant past.

Housefullofcatsandkids · 26/12/2024 23:37

Choconuttolata · 24/12/2024 22:16

Pillowcases is your solution, possibly linen napkins and string if small enough. Single sheets if larger. Explain to DD2 that you are trying to reduce waste from wrapping paper.

Make DD1 chief washer upper as penance for her selfish behaviour.

I love this idea!! Might invest in some pillow cases and ribbon for future presents!

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