To be fuming at adult DD?

[ThisisnotwhatIhadplanned]

My adult (21 y/o) DD is staying for two weeks. She has been taking the Mick since she arrived, but I think this might be the straw that broke the camel's back.

I bought 20 meters of wrapping paper for dd2 (7 y/o)'s presents. I have wrapped a few, but have the majority to do tonight. I have just gone to get the wrapping paper and it isn't there. DD1 has used the lot today, and also failed to mention it while I was at three different supermarkets getting the stuff the other ones had run out of. She has not mentioned it at all. I have just asked her if she has seen it and she said "oh yeah, I thought it was just spare. I was going to replace it but" and then just walked off. I have about 15 presents to wrap and even the Tesco express and Sainsbury's local are closed. I have printer paper, baking paper and kitchen foil. I am fuming. AIBU? How the hell do I wrap the presents now??? The bit that has really pissed me off is that the presents she has wrapped are for people she isn't even going to see for at least another week, so she could have bought some between now and New Year.

The dd can go. The op should just use the paper, carefully unwrapping and tell her dd she is not going to let her selfish thoughtlessness ruin her younger sisters Christmas.

Does it matter? She would have known if she asked before just taking it.

Do you not recycle paper?? We do and friends do all the time. As if a 7yo is going to notice or care.

Yanbu, what a pain in the arse...I'd be furious too. She owes you a sincere apology. Hope you can find a resolution tonight.

Hello dd1....

To be fair at 10pm on Christmas Eve I would think any gift wrap was fair game.

@Greatbritish

Sounds like DD has done well learning organisation and planning skills, despite your lack of them.“

how the fuck have you come to that conclusion??!

Just read she used it earlier. My Christmas Eve part still stands, why have you left it so late to wrap?

@JohnMcClanesVest

OP can do what she wants , when she wants. It’s her own wrapping paper in her own house for presents she herself has bought so there’s no curfew on when she wraps them

I would too tbf. As crap as it is for op it is easily done.

If they were near me I'd happily deliver some.

But hopefully presents are wrapped now and mum and daughter on speaking terms again... 😕😁

@Greatbritish

“ And they certainly don't leave important present wrapping until post 9pm on Christmas Eve.”

why? What do you think will happen if Op wraps them at like 9:23pm Christmas Eve? The presents will just spontaneously combust?!

20m?! She must have wrapped an absolute ton of presents! Get her to unwrap them

I wouldn’t begrudge my DD gift wrap. She’s home for a week, I didn’t know if she’d wrapped her gifts (she had) but I still bought extra just in case. Fail to prepare, prepare to fail.

This was my thought too. It was very selfish not to ask you if the wrapping paper was spare

Dont a lot of parents do the Christmas Eve wrap after kids have gone to bed... if you work during their school hours then there arent a lot of other opportunities to do it

The DD is 21! She's old enough to be buying her own wrapping paper, and certainly old enough to ask her mum if she can use her wrapping paper.

My kids were buying their own wrapping paper in their mid teens, never mind at 21. Not because I asked them to, but because they wanted and expected to.
And they knew to ask before using anything that wasn't theirs.

Good grief, but the bar is low for some Mumsnetters.

Some of you are being a bit harsh here, she probably assumed that you were all wrapped by now and wouldn't mind sharing some wrapping paper, it's not like it's wrapping paper made of gold.

Think leaving things to Xmas eve to sort is the issue tbh.

Have you got any fabric you could use? Paper bags plus ribbons?

Umm, I'm going against the grain here. It's a bit rude and presumptuous of her to have used it and definitely very rude to shrug it off like that, but rude to the point of you coming on here to rant? Not sure. I don't know what else she has done but to me 21 is just 16 with a few legal barriers out the way. I wouldn't throw her out yet!

It goes in the recycle bin, but no, I wouldn’t use used wrapping paper on someone else’s gifts. However, I did miss that it was all for the 7 year olds stuff, so if it can be done then yes fair enough.

I didn’t suggest neighbours, I’d be contacting family and actual friends.

I've got spare rolls of wrapping paper & have given a few if you were close by. Put an sos message out on WhatsApp & someone should be able to help you out.

Unwrap tje presents she's wrapped and reuse it. Tell her she can have it back when you've finished with it, or she can buy her own.

I don't know what else she has done but to me 21 is just 16 with a few legal barriers out the way. I wouldn't throw her out yet!

Don't be ridiculous.

21 year olds can (just) be teachers. Be staff nurses. Take on many responsible jobs. 21 year olds are not so immature that they can't think to ask to use something that is not theirs.

We've just finished wrapping now. I suppose we're just not a sensible household. Oh no.