Mil opened presents with toddler while I was at work

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Not sure if I’m unreasonable or not here, so could do with some advice!

Mil brought her Christmas gifts to my toddler today while I’m at work and DH was at home. She then opened a few (not all) with her. I just feel a bit gutted as these were her first Christmas gifts to open this year and I missed it. Toddler hasn’t opened presents since her first birthday and I really wanted to see that excitement.

DH says I’m overreacting as I’ll see my daughter opening presents tomorrow anyway. Who is unreasonable?

Rubbish . A nice person BUYS presents first off. Wraps them and then opens just ONE or two of them on Christmas eve and leaves the rest . The child will have more than enough presents to open Christmas morning . How ridiculous. Childs mother won’t be missing out on anything.

It's no big deal. It isn't for you, it's for your child and she was delighted :)

I don’t think you’re being unreasonable at all, and I don’t agree that MIL can do as she pleases just because they’re gifts from her. It’s your family and your Christmas traditions you are starting. It sounds like MIL is included in your Christmas Day anyway, so completely normal and reasonable to wait. It was thoughtless of her to do it without you there.

I agree, I always knew Father Christmas was Santa Klaus and vice versa. Never believed in him but knew the myth :-), and about St Nicholas.

If she's here for Xmas presents should be saved until then

YABU. your MIL was excited. she couldnt wait to see your DC's face. i wouldnt be annoyed at that. she probably just wanted to have a special moment with her grandchild. if you were there its likely your DC would have gravitated towards you with excitement and maybe your MIL just wanted that moment for herself.

it is not an issue.

my mil opened Ds’s stocking (presents from Santa/ Fc) while. i was breastfeeding DD.
she was usually a pretty decent person, but I did hold it against her for ever.I think it depends on the FC/santa/grandparent ratio in your family

I don't think you're being unreasonable at all. Who opens presents on Christmas Eve for no reason?! Why couldn't she have waited?!

However I'd definitely bite my tongue for the sake of harmony.

Now this would piss me off if you were out the room. That’s sneaky with the stocking, but not just something she had bought herself and brought round.

No, you're being totally reasonable, and your husband was way out of line having a go at you about it.

Granny should have waited. That was a dickish thing to do, and your husband should have stopped her.

Indeed, and it's Santa in Ireland too.

Though many a dyslexic has written a letter to Satan.

I had moved to London and got engaged but the wedding was in my home town in Scotland. Lots of people from our little town gave me gifts - and my mother opened all of them. She never discussed it with me, she just did it. I was too scared of her to object. Anyway, I don't think it's OK that mil did this. It's controlling imo.