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Dh’s work lunch was at 12, when would you expect him home

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Lightswontstopflashing · 23/12/2024 17:30

If it was you?

Not expect as in, he has to be home a certain time, but 5.30 now and still not back..,almost 6 hours at a work lunch 🤷🏻‍♀️

It’s a 10 minute drive away

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Lightswontstopflashing · 23/12/2024 21:57

Home at 9, thanks all

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NewName24 · 23/12/2024 22:06

Oxforddictionary12 · 23/12/2024 20:37

There was very similar thread on here recently where someone's husband came back very late from a Christmas lunch without so much as a text or any heads up leaving the OP to deal with children alone wondering where he'd got to and the consensus was from the majority of posters said he had done nothing wrong. (I know!)

I'd take any advice on here with a whole salt shaker of salt as many people these days don't believe that letting another half know a rough ballpark of when to expect them home is good manners. Or maybe there's just an exception for work dos as of course they are THE event of the year. (Ha!)

Of course things go out the window sometimes but a message doesn' take long to send.

When did he say he'd be back? (Roughly) we're not going to be concerned about exacts tonight.

That was different, as - if we are talking about the same one - he was expecting her to pick him up.

The OP in this thread had not, in any way suggested she needed him at home or that he was expecting her to pick him up, or that she was worried about where he might be. She just asked a simple question as to what time would each of us expect our other half home from a work Christmas do.

Sometimeswinning · 23/12/2024 22:20

Wonderi · 23/12/2024 21:55

So neither of you trust each other…nice.

I guess it’s good you’re both insecure.
Hopefully it balances it out.

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I think one vetos the other. I’m not sure.

Best bit is, as we’re a family 360 we watch our kids as well!! Not sure how that works but they can see where we are. So maybe they’re the controlling ones?? I don’t know anymore.

Maybe you can tell me the answer. Is it me, dh, dc15 or dc13 who’s controlling? Dc15 uses it the most if that helps you.

Oxforddictionary12 · 23/12/2024 23:03

NewName24 · 23/12/2024 22:06

That was different, as - if we are talking about the same one - he was expecting her to pick him up.

The OP in this thread had not, in any way suggested she needed him at home or that he was expecting her to pick him up, or that she was worried about where he might be. She just asked a simple question as to what time would each of us expect our other half home from a work Christmas do.

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Different thread I think. There must be quite a few of these this time of year...

But yes, I did digress. To answer the aforementioned question from the OP. I would expect husband back when he said he'd be back give or take an hour. Given that he didn't say when he'd be back I would assume for a work 'lunch' 8-9 ish and to let you know if it was going to be later. Depends what kind of sector he works in/cultural expectation as to length of work party- they sound tedious! (Personal opinion!)

Jayne35 · 24/12/2024 18:11

My DH would possibly go elsewhere after lunch so maybe 10,11pm. Doesn't bother me though as I enjoy the peace (and time to binge watch netflix). Also I could do the same if I wanted to.

Clarabell77 · 24/12/2024 19:52

Depends. If I’m having alcohol it would be when the pubs shut. If not probably 3 hours max. My husband would be the same.

Trishthedish · 24/12/2024 20:18

Lightswontstopflashing · 23/12/2024 17:36

Drinking, taxi back

When the pubs chuck out. Seriously don’t worry.

laraitopbanana · 24/12/2024 20:35

At least 6pm

neighboursmustliveon · 24/12/2024 21:05

I met someone for Christmas drinks at 12 last week and got home at 11. It wasn’t planned but we had such a good time we kept going.

Alaimo · 24/12/2024 21:19

DH doesn't drink and is not super sociable, so would probably be back around 3pm. If it were me, I could be back any time between 3pm and 3am depending on how much fun I'm having.

DisabledDemon · 24/12/2024 22:17

I’d expect the lunch to wrap up around 3.30pm and if they’re going on to the pub, I expect a phone call to let me know that. Contrary to his expectations, I’m not actually bloody psychic!

Sometimesright · 24/12/2024 22:23

Lightswontstopflashing · 23/12/2024 17:30

If it was you?

Not expect as in, he has to be home a certain time, but 5.30 now and still not back..,almost 6 hours at a work lunch 🤷🏻‍♀️

It’s a 10 minute drive away

Knowing my husband probably around 11.00pm

LouDeLou · 25/12/2024 01:22

I no longer expect him in, I just get phone calls saying “ be in soon” every couple of hours.

Shazam2 · 25/12/2024 10:16

If he is at the pub for 6 hours he should not be driving

Butterfly292828 · 25/12/2024 19:38

If he’s a lightweight like my hubby 5/6 pm

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Lightswontstopflashing · 25/12/2024 22:34

Shazam2 · 25/12/2024 10:16

If he is at the pub for 6 hours he should not be driving

Who said he was?

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Basketballhoop · 25/12/2024 22:40

Given the lunch was 2 days ago, is he back yet?!

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Lightswontstopflashing · 25/12/2024 23:11

Basketballhoop · 25/12/2024 22:40

Given the lunch was 2 days ago, is he back yet?!

I posted in the thread two days ago that he was back 😂

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petmad · 26/12/2024 11:05

Whenever he felt like coming home but thats me he would inform me approx what time im not his keeper hes an adult

Closetheblinds · 26/12/2024 18:23

When he is ready to leave the party and come home

Deeperthantheocean · 27/12/2024 00:48

No time limit, he's out on the pop, just let him enjoy it. X

pollymere · 28/12/2024 12:24

Hopefully before midnight. Our Work Christmas Lunches used to end just in time for us to go home usually 😂

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