Dh’s work lunch was at 12, when would you expect him home

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If it was you?

Not expect as in, he has to be home a certain time, but 5.30 now and still not back..,almost 6 hours at a work lunch 🤷🏻‍♀️

It’s a 10 minute drive away

my lunch last Friday was 1pm. I got home at 11pm and was the first to leave.

If he’s drinking then maybe closing time to be honest. I was at my work lunch a few weeks ago, it started at 12.30 and the lunch itself only finished by 4. I went out for drinks after and got home around 10.30. In the past on similar starting times I’ve gotten home around midnight if I stayed till bars closed.

Mine used to stay out very late when he was younger. He was never up to anything, just enjoyed the social event and the opportunity to ‘let his hair down’. Now much older and wiser, he’s more of a ‘home bird’. He’s generally back at a reasonable time, often surprising me at how early that is!

Our Christmas work lunch started 12:30 and most people last until about 9pm and the last people about 3am!

Midnight ISH unless they are going to casino

Whenever he wants. My DH is an adult and I don’t give him a curfew.

Midnight unless they go totally overboard with the alcohol like my last Xmas lunch, when everyone was home and in bed by 9, as they were so drunk I sent them all home!

I didn’t go as I’ve got a young baby, but my works lunch recently went from 12 noon to about 11pm. Why are you bothered?

DH never goes out so I'd have no idea!

Anything from 4pm till 4am depending on how the night goes.

1:30am in a taxi home, without his coat or keys, judging by DH’s recent Christmas work lunch

If it's anything like our Christmas lunches, the other half could walk through the door any time from 8pm to midnight. All completely normal.
It is a once a year thing so unless you have any other reasons to be worried in your marriage, then he can enjoy his meal and drinks afterwards.

Enjoy a quiet house !

I take works nights out as a 'Don't Wait Up'. There may also be a duvet and a pillow left on the sofa so I'm not disturbed.

This. Why put any expectation on him at all?

It wouldn’t matter, I’d expect to be asleep before he got home 😂

Why are you clock watching on his behalf?

In this scenario where its already known that he's drinking and getting a taxi, I don't think you'll see him before 11pm

Some would call me controlling etc but dh and I are on family 360. If he’s out for the day I check in to see where he is. If I see he’s walking home I run to bed because drunk dh is very repetitive!

Depend on the circumstances. No young children-then whenever he feels like. But he would tell me if he was going to be much later than he said. And he would have said.

With one ex, about 9-10 hours after his money had run out.

With DP, about 40 minutes later as he doesn't enjoy work socialising and would only be there under duress.

If he's going for a drink and getting a taxi back I'd assume he'd be back when he felt like it.

Mines just got in, OP is yours back yet?

Yes that’s definitely controlling and just very odd behaviour.

You obviously don’t trust him so I’m assuming a back story.

Give him till midnight

I wouldn't give it much thought,very much a case of see him when I see him