Would you go on this holiday?

[Etilo]

My husbands parents, uncle and his wife, and grandparents have presented the offer of a new tradition.
10 days holiday, all flights and Accomodation paid for in the Easter holidays to the Caribbean.

In attendance would be

• Husbands Grandparents
• Husbands Parents
• Husbands uncle and his wife
• Husbands sister, her husband and 2 children aged 4 and 7
• Husbands brother, his wife and their children aged 5, 8 and 10
• Husband and I and our 2 children 6 and 9
• Husbands cousin, her partner and her child aged 3

They have found a villa which they claim would fit everyone nicely. AIBU to say I don't want to go and husband can go with the kids and his family and I'll have a nice week, not waste any annual leave and have evenings and a weekend to myself.
If it goes well they want to make it an annual tradition and I just don't think I can stand 10 days with the in laws and so many kids.

I think if you do decide to give it a go, then it needs to be on a "try it out and see" basis for the first few years. I wouldn't want to commit myself to something for years without trying it out first. It also might be something that you can do every second or third year, so that it doesn't take up every single Easter vacation and holiday leave for ever more. If you really don't want to go yourself, I would send your DH and kids (assuming they want to go) this time, see how it goes and maybe you will fancy it another year, if it is repeated.

Just go and book some of your own things to do to break up the time all spent together. You could even book the odd night in a hotel for you and your husband to get some alone time.

If the first trip doesn't go well then obviously don't go again.

Too many people in one villa.
You'd need min 10 bedrooms, and min 5 bathrooms.
Plus Utility room/washing machine. Home from home.... not.
Just imagine 14 adults trying to have a shower, let alone 12 kids.
Catering: Too many cooks ( excuse pun ) and too many to just waltz out into a restaurant plus Caribbean expensive even for basic stuff, restaurants let alone upmarket.
No break from home, who wants to cook/shop/bbq for 22 people daily ?
For such a large party I'd do
3 villa min , close by obvs , or all inc or a cruise.
That long list sounded exhausting , let alone the planning but guess many large families do
it.
Not my idea of a relaxing holiday at all, even if free.

I would definitely give it a go at least once. I'd want to understand a few more things before I committed. I would definitely carve out time for myself, as a couple and just as a family with that many people present!

Give it a try, sounds like a blast for the kids!

A free holiday to the Caribbean....the absolute bastards.

Seriously op...how ungrateful are you?! I'd happily take it... wouldn't even care who I'd be going with 😂

Sounds fab. As it is a free holiday i would be willing to give ut a go. My kids would love playing with cousins and if kids are happy holiday is relaxing for me.

I was sold until the ‘villa’ bit. Absolutely no way would I share a villa with that many family members. If it was a hotel I would definitely go

No I'd only do it in a hotel where I could have my own room to escape from the family for some space.

Tell them you have other things booked up and don't get enough annual leave to do both.

Hell, no!

How many toilets/bathrooms?
And how will you do shopping/cooking?
Trying to cater for that many people 3 meals a day.... too complicated! Especially if there are any fussy eaters or allergies.

Is it self catering? How would the planning/shopping/cooking/clearing up be divided?

All kids sharing a room sounds like a recipe for disaster?

Does it have a pool or close to a beach ? pros/cons of that with small kids.

Urgh, this would be a hard pass from me, too many people in close quarters for too long!. I have a feeling you'll end up going this time and then refuse for any future trips! At least no-one can say you didn't give it a try.

I can't even begin to calculate the number of ways this could go wrong.

I'd go, why not? Do you like them?

I'd go as a one off but be clear I'm not committing to every year. It's a lot of time/leave to sacrifice EVERY year.

I'd only be going if I had my own villa, I couldn't share a space with that many people for that long. I'm in the don't go camp and enjoy the time to yourself.

I'd do it once, but if it starts being regular, just say that you can't afford to use your leave up on it every year, as there are other places you want to visit too .

It's sounds great and extremely generous of them to pay for it.

@Etilo I'm on your side, I couldn't be around my In-laws for 10 days no matter how beautiful the surroundings. With so many people packed in together it will be a miracle if no one falls out and since they've paid your In laws will expect everyone to do as they want.
More worrying for me is the idea it will become "a family tradition", they'll expect you to holiday with them every year. Very generous of them in one way, but the idea makes the hairs stand up on the back of my neck

Let your DH test it out with the kids this year, you can say you don't have the annual leave.

See how he gets on and if he loves it and really wants to go next year, you can consider joining him; if it's a shit show, he won't want to go again anyway.

I wouldn't want to go as it sounds manic! Id say i have a big project coming to fruition then and work don't really want me to have time off. But DH and DC can go... you enjoy the peace.

Sounds horrendous. I'd consider it if a hotel where everyone has their own space to escape.

I try it for for one year and see how it goes.