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Argument and I feel like I'm going mad

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Aliceisagooddog · 21/12/2024 19:49

Please tell me who is being unreasonable in this scenario. Walking with DH, he is holding DSs (6) hand. DS keeps tripping up and eventually falls down. DH gets angry and shouts at DS. I catch up and say that DS doesn't normally trip like this with me ( he used to when younger). DH explodes and says 'are you saying it's my fault'? Very angry. When I try and explain that I'm just stating a fact, not blaming anyone he accuses me of gaslighting ( a favourite phrase of his). I was gobsmacked. Was I wrong in what I said?

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grinchalicious · 22/12/2024 11:40

Aliceisagooddog · 21/12/2024 19:57

He fell partially on one knee

I think your husband was walking too quickly and has ended up dragging your DS, resulting in him tripping up.

ToomanyMilesAway · 22/12/2024 11:59

borntoblossom · 22/12/2024 09:09

Next time he's being a shitty parent, tell him directly. And if he doesn't like it, tell him to go fuck himself. Horrible man.

Well that's a positive way forward.

Saz12 · 22/12/2024 12:02

Sounds like DH was rushing along - maybe for a good reason (eg catching an infrequent train) or maybe because he's grumpy. DC fell. He shouldn't be told off for that, that's mean... But "oh, he doesn't trip with me" isn't helpful, of course theres an implied criticism.

StormingNorman · 22/12/2024 12:04

Your comment is passive-aggressively placing blame on him. Why say it if not to let him know he’s not as good a parent as you.

The nicer way to address it would have been: “Whoopsy. I think Timmy’s little legs are getting tired. Shall we slow down”?

custardpyjamas · 22/12/2024 16:02

Slidingdowntherainbow · 22/12/2024 08:15

Because the child is 6 and the parent was in control. He clearly didn’t want to wait for his wife so stormed ahead with his young son in tow who couldn’t keep the pace.

The HUSBAND should have slowed down. Will you normally do anything to avoid seeing fault in a man’s actions? Or just this one so you can have a go at OP?

The husband is an adult, he should have ensured the safety of his child, no dragging him at a fast pace causing him to trip and fall. He, and you, it seems have no compassion for a young child.

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The OP didn't say her husband was storming ahead or that he was dragging the child, you have a fertile imagination. The child might have been tripping/slipping for all sorts of reasons, wet path, looking back at mum, looking at passing traffic or other interesting things, just tired, or goofing around, who knows, but must be the Dad's fault...

Slidingdowntherainbow · 22/12/2024 17:16

custardpyjamas · 22/12/2024 16:02

The OP didn't say her husband was storming ahead or that he was dragging the child, you have a fertile imagination. The child might have been tripping/slipping for all sorts of reasons, wet path, looking back at mum, looking at passing traffic or other interesting things, just tired, or goofing around, who knows, but must be the Dad's fault...

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“My husband walks very quickly and it was dark and wet”

if a grown man walks very quickly, it can reasonably be assumed that this is too fast for a 6 year old child.

GeorgeMichaelsCat · 22/12/2024 17:32

Aliceisagooddog · 21/12/2024 21:46

I just mean there's background information I haven't gone into here

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Then best to post the full picture or you won't get balanced replies.

lazyarse123 · 22/12/2024 17:38

Tell him he's the one being a gaslighting prick. Poor kid being practically dragged along so quickly that he falls.
You probably shouldn't have said what you did but he definitely shouldn't have shouted at his child. Wanker.

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