Colleague threw wine down my dress

[Gone12]

Not really an AIBU but posting for traffic.

Joined my company 2 months ago and had Christmas party on Thursday evening.

Was mingling with colleagues before sitting down to dinner. This colleague was a bit tipsy and complimented me on how I looked and my dress before then suddenly moving towards me and spilling her glass of red wine down the front of it.

She and the male colleague she was with laughed and walked off. I was mortified and felt upset. Luckily the dress is dark so it doesn't really show the stain, but I can't get the smell of the wine out. The dress will need dry cleaning.

Will see colleague on Monday. Not sure what to say or do.

Did she do it on purpose?

Sorry, are you saying you think she did it on purpose?

I think this is one to be filed in the 'Shit Happens' cabinet.

It's not clear from your OP whether this was deliberate, but, either way, laughing and walking off was rude. I would be tempted to present her with the dry cleaning bill. I wouldn't suggest this if she had apologised.

Highly unlikely it was accident. If it was colleague would have been mortified not laughing. She's a bitch who you know now to keep away from.

I'm sure she didn't 'throw it' at you.

But she should've apologised.

Mildly annoying, but I've had lots of drinks spilled on me on nights out. I'm fairly sure most of us have?

What makes you sure?

Were you also "a bit tipsy"?

Loudly, in ear shot of as many other colleagues as possible, say

“Hope you don’t feel bad about that drink you spilt over me. Am sure you didn’t mean for it to happen”.

What might you do? It doesn't seem like a situation that calls for action unless you're thinking of a well timed trip whilst carrying a coffee as you pass her by

I don't think there's much you can do. Tipsy or not she should have apologised and not laughed and walked off though obviously. Just see how it goes with her going forward.

This happened on my works night out once and worse the person spilt on was Muslim so really upset by it.

still, it’s just one of those things. You don’t need to do anything, drunk person might’ve gone on to do worse or barely remember really.

I'm not sure why you'd need to do or say anything, unless you think she did it on purpose!

Ummmmm........wash the dress?

Did she deliberately throw it over you?

So she laughed and walked away. Didshe apologise at any point?

If she didn't apologise she's a rude selfish fucker.

I wouldn't do anything because she's the one that one that should be embarrassed and ashamed at her rudeness.

If she brings it up at work then ask her to cover the dry cleaning bill...if not just know you're a better person and not a sad pisshead at the works Xmas do spilling drinks on people and funding it funny.
She sounds delightful 🙄

How closely do you know this colleague? Will you have to work with them a lot? Was this a deliberate act?

I would say nothing to her, but I would informally flag with your manager/ HR that when she was drunk at the Christmas party she poured wine on your dress.

Buy some tumble dryer dry cleaning sheets. They should sort it.

Why are you quoting a homophobe like it's nothing?

Were you not planning on cleaning the dress anyhow?

Be weary with her and bring it up if she talks to you.

If you believe It was done on purpose, I think you should formally raise it with your manager. If you think it was a drunken accident do nothing.
Either way, moving forward I wouldn’t engage with either of them at all unless I had to for work purposes.