To not let my sister bring her own meat on Christmas day!

[FelizNavidadAmiga]

First off, we are a strictly vegan household for moral reasons. I invited my sister for Christmas lunch as she is recently divorced and has nowhere else to go. I usually put on a magnificent spread with roast vegetables, tagine, stuffed peppers, vine leaves, falafel, home made hummus etc. My sister has just sent me a message saying she's going to bring her own chicken to cook. AIBU to say no way! I don't want chicken cooking in my nice clean vegan oven! Plus the smell makes me feel ill 🤢 I don't want to upset her as she's very sensitive at the moment but surely she can do without chicken for 1 day.

YANBU. She can go without meat for one meal!

I'd respond by saying that it's a no-meat house so if she'd like to have a chicken why doesn't she eat it before / after coming.
Your house, your rules.

She is being ridiculous. Your food sounds lovely.

Could she bring it cooked and reheat it?

Couldn't she bring the chicken already roasted?

I am a die hard carnivore and I think she's being unreasonable. Your food sounds lovely and it's one day.

There is no middle way here. She either comes with no chicken or she can make other arrangements for Christmas Day.

She can do without meat for one day. Or if she can’t she can have it before she comes or after she goes home.

She shouldn’t expect to be able to cook meat in a strictly vegan household, but does she like the food you’ve mentioned? I would personally be really happy to eat everything but I know a lot of people who that wouldn’t work for, particularly as a celebratory meal.

Not unreasonable to say no.
But unreasonable to call this food: roast vegetables, tagine, stuffed peppers, vine leaves, falafel, home made hummus etc, a magnificent spread.

That's very bog standard food and not anything magnificent for a festive meal.

Would you be willing to let her bring it already cooked, or do you not want it in the house?

I’m also a true carnivore but I’d never be so insensitive to bring meat products to a vegan household.
Tell your dsis it’s a meat free household. That means no chickens in any form crossing the threshold.

I am a meat eater, and I don't think YABU. Fwiw, I would expect your sister to kick back though, so be prepared!
I am going to my vegetarian daughter's for Christmas, and not expecting to be served meat. I wouldn't dream of insisting on meat in her veggie home.

Yep. I'm vegetarian and I'd find your menu rather uninviting. I'd need to bring something to make it appetising. Can she bring her own meal and reheat it in a microwave?

Maybe she could eat before she comes?

Unreasonable for her to even bring already cooked meat, never mind want to cook it at yours

(I eat meat)

I think it sounds a really rather magnificent spread, and I'm definitely a confirmed carnivore!

Hmm. We are big meat eaters. On no planet would we suggest taking a ham joint to a Jewish household. What your sister suggests parallels that. Not on.

If one is invited to friends/family one accepts what is served with good grace. End. Of.

Agree with all of the above, cant she cook it at home and reheat it there? Maybe bring her own air frayer/slow cooker etc so it isnt contaminating your appliances?

My in laws do steak pie on Christmas day so I bring my own precooked turkey, gamon and airfryer with me and reheat it there.

Don’t be so bitchy. That absolutely is a magnificent spread, if you can bring yourself to imagine that turkey and boiled vegetables isn’t the pinnacle of festive dining everywhere in the world.

I don't think YABU to not want it but I also wouldn't want to eat roasted peppers and tagine etc. as my Xmas Day meal (happily would rest of the year) so I do get why she would want to bring something else. But if she's choosing to come to you she has to deal with your menu choices or else stay home and make Christmas dinner how she wants it.

Most ppl will eat food they’re not fond of for a day, it’s not a too unreasonable concept. It just depends if the ppl they are visiting are seen to be more important than the food on offer.

absolutely no to her cooking her chicken, decide if you're OK with her eating it and she can bring it pre cooked. otherwise she has to put up with no meat for one meal

If you can't stand the menu for Christmas dinner, you don't go to that place for Christmas dinner, you don't rock on up and plonk your poultry in the oven.

I think it's fair to ask her to not bring meat but your spread doesn't look very filling at all - is it worth chatting to her about what kind of food she might enjoy eating so you can compromise? Bring hungry on Xmas Day is a bit miserable.