To not let my sister bring her own meat on Christmas day!

[FelizNavidadAmiga]

First off, we are a strictly vegan household for moral reasons. I invited my sister for Christmas lunch as she is recently divorced and has nowhere else to go. I usually put on a magnificent spread with roast vegetables, tagine, stuffed peppers, vine leaves, falafel, home made hummus etc. My sister has just sent me a message saying she's going to bring her own chicken to cook. AIBU to say no way! I don't want chicken cooking in my nice clean vegan oven! Plus the smell makes me feel ill 🤢 I don't want to upset her as she's very sensitive at the moment but surely she can do without chicken for 1 day.

Really, a veg tagine not filling, along with roast veg, stuffed peppers ?? Not to mention the falafel, hummus, etc. You must have some appetite.

Wow, really? Is meat that important to you? Spending time with family and friends that have gone out of their way to invite me over is what would matter to me. I really wouldn’t give the food a second thought. Yes even on Christmas Day. Different strokes I suppose.

How bitchy are you?
Do you think you are some domestic godess?

i’m really shocked at the number of people who think it’s fine to accept an invitation to lunch but say that you’re going to cook your own lunch in the host’s kitchen because you don’t fancy what they’re having! How rude are all of you who can’t imagine foregoing meat for one single meal! Honestly is the dinner not about the company, more than the food??

YANBU for not letting her bring meat to your house, but I'm vegan and YABU to have tagine and stuffed peppers for Christmas lunch. 😭

Definitely a wind up thread and people are just biting, with extreme reactions.

What a weird, nasty post.

Pathetic

I’d just say to bring the chicken cooked - I think it’s fine she brings it but I agree if you don’t want chicken being cooked in your oven then that’s fine as well

You realise meat smells right? And would probably splatter meat juice in an oven that hasn’t ever cooked meat before.

My view of Christmas is it should be inclusive, if a person coming to my house won’t eat a particular thing, I’m not going to serve it.Be it meat/ fish/ offal I’m not serving it up on that day.

Sounds like you are offering what I would call picnic food, not a magnificent spread. Delicious I am sure, but not a Christmas meal. And if that makes me a bitch, so be it.

I agree. You are providing the food. She has chosen to come. She can't bring meat.

Why not suggest she bring her own cooked chicken? That way your oven is untarnished, but she gets meat.

If she did Xmas you would expect her to provide a vegan option. This way she isn’t adding to your cooking or sullying your oven. I get it is against your morals, but surely everyone needs love and acceptance.
you would expect her to provide a vegan menu for you if she hosted, she isn’t even asking you to provide a non vegan item, just if she can bring something extra for herself.

Meet her in the middle and suggest she cook it beforehand.

And what would your magnificent vegan feast consist of ??

You’re expecting her to eat your food at your house a
not take along what she likes to eat, what would you do if she invited you to her house and expected you to eat what she cooks, meat??

Your food sounds like my favourite food OP especially if there’s a spinach pie in there… no way should she expect to cook a chicken in your oven! If she wants to bring some cooked chicken/ charcuterie I guess that could be ok?

It doesn't matter who likes your menu and who doesn't. You DH and DC do. She can't ear all the meat she wants in her own home.

You would rather stay at home on your own at Christmas just so you can eat chicken?!?!?!

I have endured a significant number of vegan meals. Not one of them was a magnificent feast.

Sounds like you don’t know what a tagine is.

Imagine not eating meat for one day being so important to so many people. I’m truly baffled. 😮!

I think you are totally reasonable but as she’s family and had a rough time I’d go out of my way by asking if she has any vegan ideas she fancies in addition to your proposed menu. Is she Middle Eastern? If it’s English Christmas flavours she fancies you could probably include something vegan that incorporates sage and onion and accompany with spiced red cabbage if you wanted to be very kind.

If you need to explain maybe you could say it’s a bit like being a non-smoker and someone asking if they can smoke in your house: you wouldn’t seek to stop a smoker smoking in their own house or where it’s permitted, nor would you expect them not to smoke at their home if you were visiting, even though you wouldn’t enjoy it, but having someone smoke/ prepare and eat meat into your own kitchen just isn’t something you want and fairly or unfairly it would spoil the meal for you entirely.

I’m an omnivorous Christmas Dinner nut and love goose with devils on horseback and all the trimmings and sauces so I’d be contemplating the vegan lunch without great enthusiasm for the food on that day but I’d mask that and enjoy the company and occasion and cook my dream Christmas dinner on either the 24th, 26th or on New Year’s Day. It’s not a biggy.

I hope it goes well and there’s no bad feeling. There shouldn’t be as you are kindly hosting her.

Christmas meal!! Of all things!

Well the sister should be bringing Turkey and all the trimmings then shouldn’t she! How dare she bring chicken for the sacred Christmas meal!

Youd be horrified to hear about the year we went to the local curry house for our Christmas Day lunch! We all had the veggie thali you’ll be pleased to hear (not! 🤣)

If the cap fits..
And who are you to determine what is acceptable Christmas food? Are you the founder of the food police?