Husband's cousin has called their son the same name as our son.

[shoulde]

Bit annoying considering they also share the same surname!

I know no one owns a name, but it's pretty annoying.

Aibu?

In theory, there are infinite names available but in reality there’s definitely a theme to what you both like, someone liking Arthur isn’t likely to also be liking Braydon or Jaxon. If you’re both English with a long line of English in your family, then you’re unlikely to look for a Welsh/Scottish/Irish/overly American etc name. Then you have names you don’t like because of previous associations, like a knobhead boss or that creepy guy at university. Then you have the have the names that don’t work with your surname, no matter how much you love them.

Most people are left with a handful of names, at most, that they like. We had 3 names that we liked for boys and all of them were either friends sons or already family names. We discounted family names not because it’s weird but because we didn’t want to look like we were favouring that family member. So down to two.

They love the same name as you. They clearly have great taste, take it as a compliment and move on with your life.

YABVU
Total non issue

My surname isn’t common either but I’d draw the line at saying “no-one” has it.

How can you possibly know that? Did someone invent it 30 years ago and the rest of you all changed your names by deed poll?

That WOULD be an interesting thread.

The horse has bolted. Nothing to be done.

Perhaps, but still a compliment that you picked a name that someone else liked enough to use too!

I really couldn’t get remotely excited about this.

More funny than weird. Let's call me JJ. My brother said he couldn't imagine a world without JJ in it (as I was unable to have children and was getting married), so he named his firstborn JJ in my honour. My nephew JJ then had a son and also named him after himself, like JJ Jnr. So that's 3 of us on my side. FIL happens to be called JJ. His firstborn is also called JJ, and he called his son JJ. Then there is a cousin on my DH side called JJ. And a sodding labrador 😂😂

I would say they’re third cousins and your DH’s cousin is your child’s second cousin. Sounds even less of an issue put like that too

I have a lot of cousins, we were all born in the 70s and 80s and there are a lot of repeats among our names, Darren, Gary, Dean, yep we are a council estate family, our names were the Jaydens and Ellie-maes of our generation. Just get over it, shorten one of the names or number the kids or whatever, they probably won’t even meet that much in the future, it will be fine, you will face harder parts of parenting than this, this is an easy one, chill!

YABU. I have the same name as a cousin, and my brothers both have names in common with cousins, and none of us mind in the least. Why would we?

I know a weirder story than this... Two brothers with the SAME NAME, and the SAME BIRTHDAY, born 20 years apart! (actually half brothers). The name was also the Dad's name. 😂

They've probably got reasons for giving their son that name and don't think that him having a second cousin of the same name is a big deal.

Could be the name of a grandparent, best friend, favourite fictional character, favourite singer etc. Or maybe it's just a name they've both always really liked.

It doesn't take anything away from you or your son that another child has the same name.

You gave your son the name you wanted to. They've given their son the name they wanted to.

We have family names. I’ve got my grandfathers middle name and my great granny’s first name. My cousin have my mothers name as their middle name and this is all before we get started on our Saints names.

In my family, it’s how we honour you.

It IS weird. Even if I had a name in mind, if a family member with the same surname decided to name their son Tom Jones I would have chosen another name for sure. For those arguing that nobody owns a name, sure nobody's saying that somebody owns a name. Just that it's fucking weird to choose the same name as another family member when you also share last names. YANBU

Yes. Two of my cousins have given their sons the same name. One lives on the other side of the world.

Yes it's weird but we had exactly the same situation. Babies born weeks apart too. I have no idea why. Just presume they both loved the name to much to back down.

I think it is a little odd but how often do you see them, is it a top 20 name or a family name? It used to be quite common that cousins would have the same name.

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Surely you have bigger things to worry about? I couldn't even tell you the names of any of my second cousins.

In the Us? They do that a lot Tom senior, junior etc. In Europe it's quite rare.

If they were first cousins, I'd find it a bit odd. Second cousins less so but then I barely know my second cousins. If you're close to them and see them regularly then it's an unusual choice. But at least everyone in the family knows that your DC was the first to have that name.

I would state with 99.99% certainty that no one, other than DC and me have our surname. Because we made it up and changed by deed-poll.
And depending on if they have children/what surname they chose we might always be the only 3 of us.

YABU. Second cousins don't tend to spend much time together, this is very unlikely to affect their lives.
I've come across several people in life with my same first and last name (neither of them is unusual but also not extremely common, it's not like Sarah Jones or something!) and currently work with one, it's really not a big deal.

It's his cousins child, if it was his brothers I could understand but cousins..nah. Ridiculous.

Are you in the North East?