Honest opinions please. Separated from ex while pregnant. It was horrendous. Ds is our only child for each of us. Ds is now 2.5, 3 in July.
Essentially, I parent ds in the week as ex works all hours under the sun. He pays me a decent amount and to be fair to him he acknowledges that I am doing ‘unpaid work’ with ds and will often pay for extras for ds. At weekends he takes him out and I often go too. This means that we have what I suppose I would call family days out. As ds has got bigger it is clear he is starting to recognise that we spend time all together and I worry if this will be confusing for him as he gets bigger? Sometimes I will go and do my own thing, it’s generally left up to me, ex doesn’t say what he wants one way or another.
I would like another relationship at some point (I think ex would too but he’s not exactly someone who gets himself out there). We definitely would not get back together. I worry ds is getting the wrong picture of relationships? But on the other hand he clearly enjoys us all being together and his dad putting him to bed at a weekend etc. We’ve not had ds stay over with ex as he lives an hour or so away and we didn’t want to disrupt his feeling of home. This means Ex is often in the house… I don’t mind this, we have got into a routine… but I worry for ds. What if I meet someone, would that upset him? Am I worrying unnecessarily? Are we doing the right thing?
Interested really as most separated parents don’t like each other but we have managed in some way to be nice for DS’s sake.