Bf on works Xmas do but not texting me

[Beepop22]

He’s been out since 3pm and was texting me up until around 8:30pm now it’s 11:30pm and complete silence but yet he keeps appearing online ?????? He does this everytime he goes out ? Is this strange

Going against the grain but all those saying it would be antisocial of him to be texting, he's clearly on his phone or he wouldn't be showing as online!

I dont think he should be expected to be in constant contact with his partner but I can see why it's bothered her.

On a separate note why do so many people say works do instead of work ?<heads over to Pedants Corner>

OP I've been really similar to this in the past and it's made me self sabotage in relationships, I'd really like to suggest counselling and CBT therapy as this was a life changer for me. I'll never be totally "fixed" but it's meant that I have been able to have a really happy relationship with my partner and not have to face the constant anxiety that I'd struggled with for years. I don't know about you but mine stemmed from childhood trauma and without getting help I would never have managed to find peace and happiness in my life, which I would never wish on anyone else. Please do seriously consider this, I promise it will help.

Ffwssr aright yhuuh im pissed hahuhu yea boobs huhu

Can't see the point of texting during a pissup myself.

Why? Why would you jump on this thread to just post that? OP has EUPD. She can't just 'stop being so needy' without a lot of therapy. This comment is just rude.

Are you insecure? Are you controlling? You're not normal in your reaction.

No she's not, she has EUPD but by all means stick the boot in a bit more

UPDATE : found out on New Year’s Eve the reason he disappeared is because he spent that night with his ex gf !!! And then took her shopping the next day …. Maybe I was not just paranoid x

I'm so sorry to hear this OP.

I must admit when I first read this thread at the time I was annoyed at the amount of comments labelling you intense, paranoid, toxic and unreasonable.

Every relationship is different and generational relationships are certainly very different. But for me and my friends, not hearing from a partner on a night out for hours on end isn't normal and would be worrying. Whether you're worrying about cheating or something bad happening it's not normal in this day and age. And no it's not toxic or needy or clingy or unreasonable to expect a quick text back when out.

I'm sorry if this thread made you feel any of those things, especially given your EUPD.

Leave that fucker in 2024. All the best for 2025 xx

So he may be messaging other people who are messaging him? Is he not allowed to message anyone else? Only you?

Soz OP missed this one....so sorry :((

I know his communication patterns he texts me morning till night I knew the minute he stopped at 8:30pm something wasn’t right

Just to add OP, going forward, any relationship where you need someone to text you constantly to feel secure isn't healthy. If someone is going to cheat they will cheat. They could do it on their lunch break, on holiday, a night out or wherever. Whether you message that person 20 times a day or not at all is irrelevant.

I called his ex when I confronted him he tried to deny it all I did some things that aren’t quite morally right and blocked his ass been 4 days not heard a thing except his sister messaging me to tell me he feels shit and that he is just a people pleaser who couldn’t fully close the chapter with his ex even though he ‘wanted to be with me’ OK

Sorry to hear about the update I wouldn't have called you paranoid in the first place regarding text on night out honestly my dh messages me while at work daily and I do him we just always keep in touch never thought of it as odd or controlling we just like to chat/communicate all the time

Time to block his sister.

So sorry OP.

What a wuss he is getting his sister to write to you.

Oh Op! That's really shit. Did he carry on as normal until you found out?

It should reassure you that you're not paranoid and you recognise what is appropriate behaviour and what isn't. You'll be ok

He did !!! Bought me Christmas presents spent Christmas and new years with me all while seeing his ex throughout our relationship 🤣🤣🤣 I told her everything but she sounded like she’ll end up getting back with him since I explicitly told her I’ll be out the picture from now

Sounds like you will be better off without him. Hugs.