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to be annoyed at so much racism re “the boat people”

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NavyOrca · 19/12/2024 01:11

A large hotel local-ish to us (around 10 miles away) is currently closed for bookings as it is being occupied by just under 400 asylum seekers.

Recently, in our village and a couple of neighbouring ones, there has been a spate of parcels being stolen from doorsteps. I’m sure you can all work out who has taken the blame for this….! Even though one of the perpetrators is known to be a local lad, born and bred in our village, some people are still blaming others..

The comments on Facebook community groups are disgusting.

Since when has it been acceptable to so readily stick the blame upon those literally fleeing their countries?

I honestly feel that as a human race, we are devolving.

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GretchenWienersHair · 23/12/2024 12:34

So now we’re just changing my words completely? What I said was:
Unless the statistics you find show that 100% of asylum seekers are committing crimes in the UK, my argument will be the same.
My argument being that assuming all asylum seekers are criminals is racist.

Read, ffs.

(While you’re reading, find the part where I said I don’t care about women being raped, please? I can’t seem to find it. Even if you can find somewhere that I implied it, that’ll do.)

Poetnojo · 23/12/2024 12:35

GretchenWienersHair · 23/12/2024 12:22

You’re right. In that case send them all back to be killed, I guess.

Every man who illegally entered the UK would be killed at home? You're certain of this? Any stats to prove this? Every single one? Or maybe it's just that there is a perceived risk to some of these men? So we should accept a very real risk to women and girls all across Europe? Ok then.

TENSsion · 23/12/2024 12:36

GretchenWienersHair · 23/12/2024 12:34

So now we’re just changing my words completely? What I said was:
Unless the statistics you find show that 100% of asylum seekers are committing crimes in the UK, my argument will be the same.
My argument being that assuming all asylum seekers are criminals is racist.

Read, ffs.

(While you’re reading, find the part where I said I don’t care about women being raped, please? I can’t seem to find it. Even if you can find somewhere that I implied it, that’ll do.)

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I think it’s you who doesn’t even understand the implications of what you posted.

Poetnojo · 23/12/2024 12:37

GretchenWienersHair · 23/12/2024 12:22

You’re right. In that case send them all back to be killed, I guess.

And who would kill them? The men of their home country? The very men you would welcome to Europe?

GretchenWienersHair · 23/12/2024 12:40

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inamarina · 23/12/2024 12:44

Poetnojo · 23/12/2024 12:35

Every man who illegally entered the UK would be killed at home? You're certain of this? Any stats to prove this? Every single one? Or maybe it's just that there is a perceived risk to some of these men? So we should accept a very real risk to women and girls all across Europe? Ok then.

Last summer, Germany deported 28 Afghan nationals who had been charged with criminal acts back to Afghanistan.
From what I’ve read they were briefly detained upon their arrival back in Afghanistan, but soon released:

www.zdf.de/nachrichten/politik/abgeschobener-afghanistan-straftaeter-gespraech-100.html

TENSsion · 23/12/2024 12:44

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“I think we should know the criminal background of men who want to migrate here because other countries have shown that this group has a high proclivity for sex assaults”

You: RACIST

DinDjarin1 · 23/12/2024 12:48

Rubytuesday77 · 19/12/2024 02:18

You actually think it’s racist to object to hundreds of young men plonked in hotels often in areas right near to a school? many of whom haven’t even come from a war torn country. Meanwhile our own homeless ignored and refused the privilege of a warm bed for the night.

Looks like you might be the kinda person OP is referring to

GretchenWienersHair · 23/12/2024 12:48

TENSsion · 23/12/2024 12:44

“I think we should know the criminal background of men who want to migrate here because other countries have shown that this group has a high proclivity for sex assaults”

You: RACIST

Well, if you had bothered to read any of my posts like I suggested you do, you might find that I have not once disagreed with the idea of needing criminal background checks. I don’t know how it could be logically put in place, given the circumstances they are arriving in, but that doesn’t mean I think that thinking that is racist.

I do think using it as an excuse to hold racist views (like so many defended on this thread) is an exercise only undertaken by racists, though.

GretchenWienersHair · 23/12/2024 12:51

DinDjarin1 · 23/12/2024 12:48

Looks like you might be the kinda person OP is referring to

Ooh you’re in for a treat when you read the rest of the thread! They’re out in full force on this one.

TENSsion · 23/12/2024 12:57

GretchenWienersHair · 23/12/2024 12:48

Well, if you had bothered to read any of my posts like I suggested you do, you might find that I have not once disagreed with the idea of needing criminal background checks. I don’t know how it could be logically put in place, given the circumstances they are arriving in, but that doesn’t mean I think that thinking that is racist.

I do think using it as an excuse to hold racist views (like so many defended on this thread) is an exercise only undertaken by racists, though.

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So you admit that we need to only allow men in who we have documentation for, admit that this isn’t possible when they come over illegally on boats and we allow them entry, but also think there should be no barriers to their entry…
Do you see how ridiculous this is?

katter · 23/12/2024 13:00

TENSsion · 23/12/2024 12:44

“I think we should know the criminal background of men who want to migrate here because other countries have shown that this group has a high proclivity for sex assaults”

You: RACIST

Isn't that what the whole asylum process is for?
I don't know how it is in the UK but here it takes about 8 months.

TENSsion · 23/12/2024 13:04

katter · 23/12/2024 13:00

Isn't that what the whole asylum process is for?
I don't know how it is in the UK but here it takes about 8 months.

There is no protocol for ensuring the asylum
seekers have clean criminal records. They don’t have passports, many come from countries that don’t even issue birth certificates never mind record crimes carefully.
Sadly.

GretchenWienersHair · 23/12/2024 13:04

TENSsion · 23/12/2024 12:57

So you admit that we need to only allow men in who we have documentation for, admit that this isn’t possible when they come over illegally on boats and we allow them entry, but also think there should be no barriers to their entry…
Do you see how ridiculous this is?

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At this point I’m going to assume you either don’t know how to use the search function on the webpage (therefore have no idea what my argument has been since I first joined this thread), have confused me with someone else or you’re choosing to fabricate arguments that I have never made. Each one of those scenarios is slightly foolish but some more than others.

Poetnojo · 23/12/2024 13:04

katter · 23/12/2024 13:00

Isn't that what the whole asylum process is for?
I don't know how it is in the UK but here it takes about 8 months.

And during those 8 months what? Free reign? So each man posses an acceptable risk to women and girls during that time? Well that's ok then isn't it.

Poetnojo · 23/12/2024 13:06

And don't forget, that's a rolling 8 month time frame multiplied be tens of thousands of men

TENSsion · 23/12/2024 13:07

GretchenWienersHair · 23/12/2024 13:04

At this point I’m going to assume you either don’t know how to use the search function on the webpage (therefore have no idea what my argument has been since I first joined this thread), have confused me with someone else or you’re choosing to fabricate arguments that I have never made. Each one of those scenarios is slightly foolish but some more than others.

Ok explain to me where I went wrong

Should we have strict procedures on entry for asylum seekers whereby only ones with passports and the ability to check their criminal records should be permitted to enter?

ChardonnaysBeastlyCat · 23/12/2024 13:09

Giggorata · 23/12/2024 12:11

i don't think it is racist or any other kind of ist to ask why do people want to come to Western countries, for the freedoms, social contracts and way of life that are absent from their own countries, but then try and maintain the very things they wanted to leave behind?

I worry about people who openly say they want to impose Sharia law in the UK. And there are some who do say that - I have seen interviews and heard it in real life from people in community meetings.
It isn't racist to object to those who want to introduce a completely different legal system (and one that totally disadvantages women)

I worry about the people who have come to live in the UK but who seem to have disdain for our culture and way of life. Why emigrate to a country but refuse to participate in shared social and cultural mores and activities?
And again, this disadvantages women, who end up isolated in a house, with no possibility of integration or even learning English.
When I worked as a social worker, in a northern town with a sizeable immigrant population, I came across this so many times, in some of the immigrant nationalities. And the young men appeared to be taught to maintain their attitudes towards women, despite attending schools and apparently integrating.

And now the influx of unattached young men of various nationalities and religions adds to the tension, some of which are slotting into gang culture, some of which have these mediaeval attitudes towards women.

Nothing to do with colour, not even religion as such, because many Muslims, Sikhs, Hindus and Jews are happily integrated into the UK and have been for years.
But something needs to be addressed here and the knee jerk reaction of calling it “racist” prevents it even being discussed.

I could have written all of that myself. The only thing that would be different is that I’m not a social worker,
although I do work with migrants.

What worries me, is that we are sleepwalking into a Farage government the same way we sleepwalked into Brexit.

TENSsion · 23/12/2024 13:12

ChardonnaysBeastlyCat · 23/12/2024 13:09

I could have written all of that myself. The only thing that would be different is that I’m not a social worker,
although I do work with migrants.

What worries me, is that we are sleepwalking into a Farage government the same way we sleepwalked into Brexit.

Yep.
It scares me how little we learn from what is happening in the rest of Europe.
The only way we can avoid sleepwalking into a far right government is to really tackle this issue.

GrouachMacbeth · 23/12/2024 13:17

If you work/volunteer with applicants for asylum, is there a process for informing the people of British culture, norms and rules regarding behaviour, human rights and the rights of others such as women?

katter · 23/12/2024 13:18

Poetnojo · 23/12/2024 13:04

And during those 8 months what? Free reign? So each man posses an acceptable risk to women and girls during that time? Well that's ok then isn't it.

What do you propose?
Imprisonment?

inamarina · 23/12/2024 13:20

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Had OP’s post been about an immigrant family moving into an area and the locals being suspicious of them, I think the majority of the replies on here would have been different and more people would have sided with the family.

Large groups of mostly male asylum seekers are different though, there have been many issues connected to those groups in the recent past, so it’s more understandable if people are wary.

Of course it’s never ideal to suspect innocent people, but it’s also disingenuous to suggest people’s concerns are completely unfounded.

Poetnojo · 23/12/2024 13:21

katter · 23/12/2024 13:18

What do you propose?
Imprisonment?

No, just don't let them in unless they have applied for and recieved approval before arrival

username299 · 23/12/2024 13:28

Poetnojo · 23/12/2024 12:35

Every man who illegally entered the UK would be killed at home? You're certain of this? Any stats to prove this? Every single one? Or maybe it's just that there is a perceived risk to some of these men? So we should accept a very real risk to women and girls all across Europe? Ok then.

It's not illegal to enter the UK to claim asylum. In order to gain refugee status, which the majority of these people do, they have to have a fear of persecution in their home country.

You can't send people back to a country where they could be in danger.

There is no evidence that asylum seekers are more of a risk than other men in the UK. There is a lot of evidence that women and girls are in danger from British men and in particular, men they know.

ChardonnaysBeastlyCat · 23/12/2024 13:29

Big groups of men with nothing to do and nothing to lose have some very fucked dynamic.

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