FERAL xmas day gift opening

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AIBU to cringe and feel deflated on xmas morning when the kids (we have a few, aged 7-14) dive into the presents like feral animals, rip open the wrapping on their gifts, not even properly look at the gift before moving to the next, sometimes not even finishing removing the wrapping paper. No thank you. No comment about the gift. Just manic, uncivilised chaos. :( Then disappear back to their rooms.

Have been at my ex's BIL at Christmas and it was 6 under 10s ripping paper at once. Three of the kids were ex's BIL and his OH and the other three were nephew and nieces of his OH. It was chaos. Some family gave similar presents to the children as of a similar age. They forgot who got them what and what their actual presents were. For example the boys got Beyblades (the toy at the time) one was given a blue one and the other a green one. Couldn't remember who got which colour.

Parents should be giving the presents in order, leaving the main present - ie the one they want the most or most expensive to last.

but there's a balance.

I am all for excitement, but ungrateful children who can't wait to go back to their room without a thank you, that's not festive.

I can't understand the rules and idea of strictly regimented Christmas gift ceremony from some posters, it sounds pretentious and boring. It's a long way from expecting teens to show basic manners and pleasantness after opening their gifts.

Parents should be giving the presents in order, leaving the main present - ie the one they want the most or most expensive to last.

you have not got children yourself, have you! 😂

This.

As the parent, you are in charge.

All of my life and including when we were tiny kids, it was one person, one gift at a time. Handed out by mum or dad, with time taken to admire the wrapping, admire the gift, thank the giver (if present) and savor the moment. Our gift opening took well over an hour or two , for six people.

The presents wouldn’t bother me. And I don’t understand rhe odd rules some folks have round present opening. But spending the day in their rooms would upset me.

I let mine chaos but all the presents under the tree are bought by me, family bring theirs when they arrive for dinner and are thanked then and there. They’re always appreciative of anything they’re given to be fair to them.

We hand everyone’s piles out and then go round and open one at a time. Some people have expensive presents (so fewer gifts to open) will finish before others, but that’s fine.

I wouldn’t want feral present-opening.

Other than not saying thank you and not even bothering to look at the present, it wouldn’t bother me.

Everything is from Santa here and I don’t mind the feral opening. It’s Christmas and only happens once a year, part of the fun.

We always did one by one present opening, but now that the numbers have swelled with partners and grandkids, we each open one of our presents at the same time, then share what we've each unwrapped, and thank the givers.
Then on to the next round.
It's also means that bit everyone is starting at the one person, which I think at least one the partners might find awkward.

But I'd never ever have countenanced the feral and ungrateful behaviour that OP describes.

Santa doesn't wrap presents so that takes care of that. For present giving with family we usually go one at a time, if someone has multiple we just adjust the goes a bit. Or two at a time if it's a big group. Its all quite calm but took effort to control DS 1 who would rip the room apart if he could.

I'm still annoyed at the memory of my little sis screaming and ripping all her presents then randomly grabbing others including mine and my mother laughing along as she would look in disgust at my present and throw it away. There was a big gap so I was well into the 1 or 2 nice gifts stage when she was at plastic tat stage. I remember one year fishing through ripped paper for my gift. Spoilt brat!! Thankfully she turned out lovely in the end.