sitting in costa coffee

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Went to costa coffee ordered drinks, sandwiches & cake. Myself & partner said we will eat in rather than take away. Place was full most seats were taken apart from a four seater table where some woman was sat. I asked if the seats on her table were taken and she said we can not sit on her table as she is with her DS.
In the end a chinese couple offered their seats and we eventually got a seat.
AIBU expecting a seat on womans table for me and my partner as no one was sat in them?

You sound rather aggressive, maybe visiting busy places isn't the best thing for you?

You can't reserve a table by looking at it 😂

You can't claim a table by looking at it 😂If you have your stuff on it, that might work better.
@Kitkat1523 I love your description of walking around the shop like a wet lettuce though. 🤣 Why do people do this at a busy time, they always look so surprised and deer in headlights when a table doesn't magically appear.

I fecking can!

It’s fine for me….I think I have a ‘table fairy’ on my shoulder cos I always always get a seat……if it’s somewhere I want to be I hang around eyeing up who’s likely to finish first, if I have a companian then we work as a team, one at one side of the cafe, one at the other…..if it’s somewhere I’m not that arsed about I will move on to the next coffe house if there’s a mega queue …..but I do just fine thanks😊….I’m 59 now so have a wealth of experience at table getting….I have also passed on my skills to my DD ….and my young GDs 9, 6 and 5 are now learning fast….. but thank you very much for your concern

No 'table fairy', just intimidation and aggression. A great skill to pass on to your grandchildren. Not.

😂😆 This thread just keeps on giving and giving!

Seriously, are you OK?!

I certainly never knew people planned seating arrangements in a cafe like a military operation and take an oppo along.

Its fucking hilarious, bashit, but hilarious

Batshit that they won't just get their companion to sit at the table instead of trying to reserve it with a beady eye.

Dear god!!!! Wouldn't like to meet you down a dark alley!!

😂 if people made sure they had a table before ordering the problem wouldn't exist either

You "work as a team" - you sound like you're casing the joint!!!

I wouldn't want my DDs to be in your company if that's the kind of manners you're teaching them.

@MNHQ would you consider this thread for Classics please?

🤣🤣🤣 says mrs aggressive

Sounds like you can't cope with being out in public then if something do small sets you iff

That is an ignorant and disgusting comment. People who are disabled/have MH issues should lock themselves in doors? May you never suffer in this way, and have somebody say your comment back to you. Horrible attitude.

If you can’t cope with a member of the public getting too close to you when you’re out in public, the onus is very much on you to mitigate this, not them.

Exactly or to go out with a carer who is trained to help the person manage and to remove them when it gets too much.

Who is going to pay for a trained carer?

Respite carers (paid by local authority) do help with daily outdoor tasks such as shopping so perhaps a stop in a cafe would be included. Mental health needs are assessed to access this help.

I don't think pp was saying that, she was saying they can't sit on her small table? You're not entitled to sit there! Don't be so ignorant of neuro diversity. I just know you're the CF expecting to squeeze in with your abundance of cakes and drinks, because a table didn't magically open up for you.

People are entitled to say somebody can't sit next to them on their small crowded table. It doesn't mean they need a trained cared, or cannot leave the house. This thread is utter hyperbole! 😂

In the case of mental health issues, that have been greatly stated on this thread, then yes a trained carer could help. The mental health illness would be assessed medically to get this help. I have no problem with someone sitting on an empty seat at my table or bar but it seems that many people have serious health issues that prevent this behaviour. Mental health is the same as physical health and needs the right care.

I am ok out in public. I just don't want a stranger trying to impose themselves on me. It is rude.
Or do you think I should lock myself away at home?

I already mitigate it by politely saying that they can't sit with me.