To take ill toddler to school

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18 month old DD has been sick. Normally she goes to nursery on a Friday but tomorrow I have the morning off because it is DS’s nativity.

I really don’t feel I can miss his nativity; he’d be devastated. WIBU to take DD? No one else here.

I didn’t say she had… I was talking about the other poster who suggested the other mum was amazing for taking her poorly child out in the rain to watch the nativity.

If she vomited, you need to keep her home. Terrible to send her in, as she will spread it to more kids. I hate parents that do this. It sucks that you will have to miss the nativity....but these things happen and even worse your dd goes to nursery spreads the bug around and then others have to miss celebrating Christmas with family

Why risk it?

@Netflixconundrum risk what? It'll be obvious by this morning if it's a bug or just a one off.

Rubbish timing but please don't take her in.
We had DS nativity earlier this week and the hall was packed.
I would not have been happy if a vomiting toddler was there. It's not fair on everyone who's there. They don't want to be sick over Christmas.
See if someone can get photos of your DS and buy him a treat for after school.

You really can’t take her sorry. And just because a child is sick once it doesn’t mean that the people who catch it from them will be the same - we’ve had it in our house where one has been sick once and the sibling who caught it from them has been sick non stop for days. You really can’t inflict this on families this close to Christmas (or at any time!).

Risk infecting the whole hall…she could be coming down with something even if not a sickness bug (it also could be sickness bug even if sick once).

@Netflixconundrum but where's the evidence that she is? People get poorly, it wouldn't mean this child is to blame. If the child is fine within herself there's no reason not to go

All we know is she had been sick once when the OP posted. A mere hour after she had been sick...

Let's be realistic here a child throwing up at 3am is very unlikely to be doing so for any other reason than because they are unwell.

Regardless we all know you can throw up once and still be unwell and given theres no way of ruling out if it's a bug or not the sensible thing to do is treat it as one don't you think?

A one off can still be a bug; we’ve had it in our house where one child was sick once but then their sibling caught it and was sick non stop for days. Everyone reacts differently.

That’s why is said why risk it. You won’t know for sure but the toddler has been sick a few hours ago. There’s obviously a reason for it and there was no mention of over eating/ eating something they didn’t agree with her in the OP.

Rather than sniping at the OP, why not offer practical advice?

What's to be gained by snapping at everyone when they ask a question?

At the end of the day, OP has a choice. She can stay home with her not poorly toddler and let her son know he's not that important to her, or she can go. I know what I'd do

This

Tiz the Mumsnet way, everyone has to be argumentative or it's boring 🤣 honestly OP tell him you were there, even I'd you weren't. He'll never know.

It would be extremely selfish. Imagine she throws up in the hall. That's a lot of families you've potentially spread it to, and some poor caretaker who'll be cleaning it up off the floor as well.

If she hasn’t been sick again I’d go. There has been a few occasions where my toddler has been sick just once and then fine the rest of the day

People thinking that if you're just sick once you don't have a bug is probably how most of them are spread because parents think "well keeping them off school is inconvenient to me, and it was only once..".
They've done studies where they've deliberately infected people with norovirus, and I think it was a third of people who developed symptoms only vomited once.

Really? Which part of you truly believes a school would say yes please do bring your vomiting toddler into our school hall full of children. Honestly.

Vomiting definitely no…spread through school a few years ago in the week before christmas, was awful. Some responsible enough to keep kids off, others sent kids in clearly unwell, still vomiting and then refused to answer the phone when called to pick them up. Absolutely awful!

So you've just decided the toddler isn't poorly...

Having more than one child unfortunately means sometimes one misses out. It's really unfair to be portraying this as the OP not thinking her other child is important to her.

In all honesty your older child probably already had it and is going to spread it around all the kids in his class anyway 🤷🏻‍♀️

@GrumpyCactus there's no evidence the toddler is poorly. Again, being sick once doesn't make you poorly.

Being sick ≠ norovirus

My dad was sick last night, should we all now go into lockdown? When it was because of something he ate?

No one is suggesting the whole family goes into lockdown though - the older child will be at school and I don't think any poster has suggested keeping him off just in case he goes on to be sick. And I'm sure OP would have mentioned if it was because of something her child ate, so we can probably assume it wasn't.

Other than the fact the child threw up at 3am and the op obviously thinks it a bug otherwise she wouldn't be asking the question...

There's usually a rule at schools and nurseries to not take kids in to these places for 48h after they've last been sick/vomited.

Don't spread this bug to the other families and staff there.

Your child will have lots of other nativities.

My daughter isn’t in school yet but do parents and children not tend to mingle after the nativity is over? And therefore he will be looking for her? Maybe they don’t, as I say my child isn’t school age but I would have thought there was some sort of mingling afterwards for congratulations and pictures etc