To take ill toddler to school

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18 month old DD has been sick. Normally she goes to nursery on a Friday but tomorrow I have the morning off because it is DS’s nativity.

I really don’t feel I can miss his nativity; he’d be devastated. WIBU to take DD? No one else here.

Tough situation. The right thing to do is to stay at home with your daughter.

Omg imagine if she threw up in the audience?! I read that the flu, RSV, COVID and noro are all doing the rounds, there's been a spike in people being admitted to hospital with one or more of the above and they're expecting cases to rise further over the Christmas holidays when schools close. I know it's a let-down and a disappointment but it's not really fair on anyone to take a poorly child to a whole room full of other people and their children and staff.

YABVU - both to your ill DD and to everyone else. Our Christmas was ruined last year by some absolute f###ing b######d who went out with Norovirus and gave it to my DD.

It’s selfish and cruel to go out with an ill child, and you know it. Yes, it’s sad to miss the nativity but there’ll be photos. If you think your other DC will be upset at your absence, just keep them home too.

Yabvu and you know you are. If you can't send her to nursery you absolutely cannot take her into school.

Can her dad have her for the nativity performance and go in to work later? Is there a friend or relative who wouldn't mind watching her - being fully informed of course.

If none of these are possible, ring the school and ask if the performance is being recorded. It might not be the same experience for you, but your lo will love having a copy of the performance they can share over and over with you.

Was it a one off? Or is she repeatedly being sick?

Of course you can't take her!

Irrelevant. If she’s vomitted, most school policies would mean she couldn’t be back in for 48 hours after the last vomit. Same with diarrhoea.

I know it’s horrible to miss the nativity but it would be so unfair to risk other people’s health and Christmas by bringing a small child who you know is sick.

If she hasn’t been sick again I’d go. There has been a few occasions where my toddler has been sick just once and then fine the rest of the day

Oh you poor thing OP, that's such awful timing. Is there anyone else who can watch the nativity?

This might sound like a mad question but what is the layout of the school hall? Ours had big windows and I remember a mum who was in this position standing outside with her child in the pushchair under the rain cover. Not ideal for anyone but probably the least bad option in the circumstances.

I'd take her and stay standing near the back away from others. I'd do that with an 18 month old anyway so they could be taken out quickly if they started disturbing it for everyone else.

I get it, if she stays in the pushchair she's not going near anyone but no you can't really.

Is there no one who can have her or go to the nativity? A dh, grandparent etc?

Bless her that’s at amazing mum right there

I’ve missed a few nativities because of sick children. All you can do is explain to the child in the show that you can’t believe you’re missing it but you’re so proud and they’ll be fab. One of my kids was heartbroken talking about it afterwards looked at me like ‘oh yeah you weren’t there!’ the others were fine!

Please dont be THAT parent and ruin Christmas/ run up to Christmas for other families.

Unless you can find someone to watch the vomiting child then sorry you have to sit this one out. Unfortunately it's what happens when you have two kids.

You would be down right selfish to do so,

I remember a mum doing this for DS1’s Nativity. Her little boy, who was at nursery with DS2. was only sick once in the night so what did it matter? But then he puked all afternoon. Not only that most of the school started dropping like flies, including all of my family, and some people ended up in hospital,

If your child is ill you stay at home.

Ring the school and explain. They might have an adult who can be there especially for your son (visit him before, wave at him, scoop him up for a big well done after) or a couple of Y6 buddies who could do the same.

It’s not ideal but if he feels seen and noticed it will go a long way - especially if it’s by a couple of big kids he looks up to.

@STARCATCHER22 it's totally relevant. If it's because she ate too much chocolate, it's totally different to if she's been up repeatedly being sick.

It's deeply selfish - People are out and about spreading viral load for 48 hrs after they last had a crap or vomited with norovirus.. It isn't killed by hand sanitisers, either.

What a lovely idea, spreading a vomiting bug around the families of primary school children just before Christmas. What happy memories you will make for everyone. As a teacher, I always enjoy the gift of norovirus. Always welcome at any time if the year, particularly during the festive season. Don't bother with a card, your germs say it all.

You'll be potentially ruining a lot of people's Christmas season if you.

My head knows the correct answer to this query is you either find someone to watch her or don’t go.

However, I also know how important nativity plays are to small children and how important they seem to us when we have small children.

Sometimes it’s difficult to make the obviously morally choice. When making it though remember if toddler decides to cry through the play you may be asked to leave.

I believe it’s 48 hours
Adding to the many people saying don’t go. It’s not fair on others.

It’s 48 hours yes

Don’t take them, selfish and necessary