To take ill toddler to school

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18 month old DD has been sick. Normally she goes to nursery on a Friday but tomorrow I have the morning off because it is DS’s nativity.

I really don’t feel I can miss his nativity; he’d be devastated. WIBU to take DD? No one else here.

Dragging her youngest ill child out in to the cold to watch a play through the window??

too sick for nursery is also too sick to be in a crowded room full of not only children but quiet possibly older relatives who are more at risk too

My friend was at a nativity this week where a toddler AND a parent threw up in the audience! She’s counting down the hours to catching it, her coat got sprayed.

That doesn’t mean they aren’t contagious though.

This is why these bugs spread like they do. Especially just before Christmas.

No. I know it’s really disappointing but you just can’t. Not under any circumstances, but especially at this time of year - you’d be setting up a load of families to have norovirus over Christmas as she could pass it to a lot of people and it would still be doing the rounds in their households by the 25th.

Yes she wasn’t going to let her child down that’s a great mum in my opinion

Ask someone to video it and tell your ds you were rihht down the back. He'll never know.

I'm really sorry you're facing this. What part is the children's dad playing in resolving this conundrum?

Don’t do that without checking with the school first. Many don’t allow recording for safeguarding reasons

Being sick ≠ norovirus

My dad was sick last night, should we all now go into lockdown? When it was because of something he ate?

You poor thing. What an awful situation to be in.

You said there's no one there to help you. If you have mentally exhausted all the options and have to admit defeat on this I wanted to send you a virtual hug, before you have to tell your older one xx

My thoughts too. Amazing mum are not the first words that spring to mind.

You need to keep her home, disappointing as it is. Think of it this way: how pissed off would you be if someone had sent their child into school sick and they’d passed it on to your child and your child missed their nativity play they were much looking forward to? You’d understandably think what a selfish fucker they’d been.

Was about to ask the same?
Of course you can't take her.

What about her other child who was vomiting and feeling unwell. Staying at home would have been the better thing to do.

@Netflixconundrum where has she said her child has repeatedly been sick, or is feeling unwell? She hasn't.

It’s one of the hard things we have to deal with as a parent, OP - disappointing our DC. But sometimes that is what has to happen, and it is our job to make the best if it. You ask another parent to wave at him and take a photo if allowed, and you promise a treat for when he tells you all about it- whatever you can do. He gets to pick his favourite chocolate bar or you take him to do something at the weekend if someone else can look after the toddler.

Responsible parenting comes first.

Yes, YABVU. I work in education and am currently laid up in bed with this awful flu bug and sickness, because parents send their ill, snot riddled children into school. I'm in agony because 'resting' in bed to help aid my recovery has also triggered my back and hip pain, so am struggling with pain from that and am unable to get comfortable. I'm missing out on christmas activities with my own DC and with those children that I work with also and am also adding more work onto my colleagues by not being there.

Any parent who sends their ill children into school to spread their germs amongst others are incredibly selfish.

I still feel a bit guilty that my DS inadvertently caused two classmates to miss their first nativity - but that was due to chickenpox and he had passed his cousin’s germs on before anyone realised he had it. You cannot risk spreading a nursery sickness bug.

’…a mum who was in this position standing outside with her child in the pushchair under the rain cover.’
Perhaps not repeatedly (but also likely they could have been) but she said the child was also in this position so clearly their child had also been sick. A sick child does not need to be dragged out in the cold and rain for an hour or so to watch a nativity.

@Netflixconundrum I'm asking where OP has said this about her child.

At the end of the day, being sick once doesn't mean you're a carrier of every virus under the sun. And if she does have noro, it's likely the older kid has it too and will be spreading it all around school anyway. She should just go to the nativity.

you Have to keep her home for 48 hours after her last symptom of diarrhoea or vomiting. My daughter has had two D&V bugs from nursery from parents like you who take their kids in anyway.

I can’t believe you’re even asking.

Can you get another parent to take photos?

Phone school office about your situation and ask if staff can take his photo for you❤️ hope your wee one feels better soon.

And this attitude is why sickness bugs get passed around so frequently.

Yes the other child might get it but equally they might not. The fact is the op knows her youngest has been sick and using the nonsensical logic that their sibling might also get sick to justify taking a poorly child to watch the play is both ridiculous and selfish.

@GrumpyCactus but you're ignoring that being sick once ≠ a virus.

If she's just been sick once, and not again, no runny stomach, it's very unlikely she's got a bug.