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Paying for Bridesmaids

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wantnoscrubs · 11/12/2024 20:38

I understand keeping to a wedding budget is important and not spending too lavishly if it's outside of your means, but I've been asked to be a bridesmaid by three friends next year, whom I love dearly, and I've been asked to buy my dress for every single wedding.
They have said I can choice my dress but it has to be X colour.

I got married two years ago and had them as bridesmaids, paid for their dresses, hair and MU. I feel like if you ask someone to be a BM this is a cost you should take on? Especially as there is a cost involved already in being BM with hen dos and travel/ hotels.

They don't know I feel this way and I won't tell them cause I don't want to hurt their feelings.
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Cosyblankets · 18/12/2024 07:53

ILoveMyCaravan · 17/12/2024 22:48

I was asked to be bridesmaid for my DB and future SIL. She was having a bespoke hand made wedding dress with bridesmaids dresses to match. I was asked to buy specific shoes (that I would never wear again). I agreed even though I couldn't afford it. I went to several dress fittings. After the last fitting I was only then told I was to pay for my bridesmaid dress. It was very bridal looking and one that could never be worn again. I was absolutely gobsmacked. I couldn't afford it. The bride and her parents (who were paying for the whole wedding could pay, but they chose not to). In addition I wasn't even seated on the top table with the rest of the wedding party. I was the only one to be seated elsewhere. This was more than 30 years ago and definitely not the done thing.

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