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To think that if a man has had bottom surgery they should be put in a woman’s prison?

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Bex5490 · 11/12/2024 12:26

Genuinely interested in this and not trying to goad just want to understand.

When people talk of the threat of a man in women’s spaces, I assume the danger is because of their penis.

So if that’s gone then should they be categorised as a woman?

I’m kind of of the opinion that if you’re willing to put that much effort in (as in penis removal) regardless of your chromosomes, I’m happy for you to be called a woman…is this wrong?

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AccidentallyWesAnderson · 12/12/2024 11:36

*Additionally tansgender individuals are more likely than any other group, including women, to be the victims of violent crime and are often targets of hate crime. They are vulnerable and deserve protection which would be afforded by a trans wing in prison but certainly wouldn't be afforded by just throwing them in a mens prison to appease the people continually repeating a trans woman is a man. End of.
williamsinstitute.law.ucla.edu/press/ncvs-trans-press-release/

Trans people are statistically proven to be more vulnerable and are not inherent predators. The narrative that they are is unpleasant.*

No they aren't. This has been debunked several times.

www.mumsnet.com/talk/womens_rights/3430873-Williams-Institute-lied-about-transgender-prevalence-to-boost-their-arguments

NonPlayerCharacter · 12/12/2024 11:37

Bex5490 · 12/12/2024 11:31

Thanks…

You have officially changed my twitter algorithm to gender critical posts about fish!

But I do get the point.

It's only the first tweet that's about fish. You need to see them all. My personal favourites are flatworms and tuatara but they're all brilliant and you may notice a pattern emerging!

Ereshkigalangcleg · 12/12/2024 11:38

76 sex offenders out of 131000 trans women = 0.058%

The figure feminists use for overall pop is based on the number of "trans women" in the England & Wales census. You and your Medium blogger are using a different figure. The 2021 census puts the number of MTFs as 48,000 not 131,000. Why is this person pretending it's based on a different figure?

https://x.com/jeremykauffman/status/1831685340064559557

Helleofabore · 12/12/2024 11:38

Cheesytoastie · 12/12/2024 11:09

This is deliberate misrepresentation of the statistics.

As explained well here https://medium.com/@commiebisexual/are-trans-women-rapists-6400df2bed7a

We take the same statistics as above, but instead of comparing them with inmates, we compare them with the total population:

76 sex offenders out of 131000 trans women = 0.058%
125 sex offenders out of 33665000 women= 0.00037%
13234 sex offenders out of 33665000 men= 0.039%

This paints a radically different picture. Trans women seem to be a group susceptible to committing rapes, but nearly not 3.5 times more than cis men do, as the previous data led us to believe.

This data still obscures that 74 out of the 76 trans women sex offenders were legally male. What this means is that these women were imprisoned early in their transition. In other words, they have spent much more time presenting as men than women. I have no data to back up this claim — which is why it would be interesting to investigate this with a study — but it seems that very few rapists were trans women at the time of their crime. Instead, it seems, a trans-woman-to-be is as likely to be a rapist as any cis man.

Why do I defend this hypothesis? The reasons are four-fold:

Isla Bryson herself raped two women before her transition and none after.
Trans women are three times more likely than cis women to be victims of rape in their lifetime (47% against 17%). To put this number into perspective, per convicted trans woman rapist, 810 trans women have been raped. The looming fear over trans people's heads that they may, one day or another, be raped makes them much more conscious of women's issues and supportive of feminism and their fight against rape culture. I do not know any trans woman opposed to even the most radical branches of the fight against the rape of cis women.
Trans women have generally overcome patriarchy once they decide to transition. Transitioning is so subversive that to begin such an enterprise, one has to dissect maleness and reject it.
Trans women are depicted as being rapists, hence, we are more likely to believe a victim of sexual violence if she denounces a trans woman. This is similar to what happens to Black men in the US. This is namely the problem of the discrepancy between the perpetrators and those convicted. You are more likely to be convicted if you are poor or generally the victim of stigma. So, rich white straight rapists can afford not to fear the law, whereas minorities cannot.

Additionally tansgender individuals are more likely than any other group, including women, to be the victims of violent crime and are often targets of hate crime. They are vulnerable and deserve protection which would be afforded by a trans wing in prison but certainly wouldn't be afforded by just throwing them in a mens prison to appease the people continually repeating a trans woman is a man. End of.
https://williamsinstitute.law.ucla.edu/press/ncvs-trans-press-release/

Trans people are statistically proven to be more vulnerable and are not inherent predators. The narrative that they are is unpleasant.

"They are vulnerable and deserve protection which would be afforded by a trans wing in prison but certainly wouldn't be afforded by just throwing them in a mens prison to appease the people continually repeating a trans woman is a man."

A special trans wing was built and transgender inmates and their supporting groups rejected it as transphobic.

Helleofabore · 12/12/2024 11:39

Ereshkigalangcleg · 12/12/2024 11:38

76 sex offenders out of 131000 trans women = 0.058%

The figure feminists use for overall pop is based on the number of "trans women" in the England & Wales census. You and your Medium blogger are using a different figure. The 2021 census puts the number of MTFs as 48,000 not 131,000. Why is this person pretending it's based on a different figure?

https://x.com/jeremykauffman/status/1831685340064559557

An excellent point. I await the reply. I know it will be great.

Bex5490 · 12/12/2024 11:39

Ereshkigalangcleg · 12/12/2024 11:30

I’m saying that trans people speak of their gender identity. I don’t feel like I have a gender identity but I imagine that for them it exists in the same way that months or friendship or racism or any other abstract noun exists.

What does it exist as? What is a woman?

I agree that a woman is a biological truth.

But I think there are other components that make someone feel like a woman and yes those are based on gender stereotypes because that is the world we live in.

Which is wrong but it is where we are at as a society.

It isn’t so long ago that women weren’t allowed to wear trousers. We are still very much existing in a world governed by gender stereotypes.

Can I ask seriously why you think we don’t base laws around the fact that people become ready to reproduce around 12 or 13?

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MissScarletInTheBallroom · 12/12/2024 11:41

Bex5490 · 12/12/2024 11:39

I agree that a woman is a biological truth.

But I think there are other components that make someone feel like a woman and yes those are based on gender stereotypes because that is the world we live in.

Which is wrong but it is where we are at as a society.

It isn’t so long ago that women weren’t allowed to wear trousers. We are still very much existing in a world governed by gender stereotypes.

Can I ask seriously why you think we don’t base laws around the fact that people become ready to reproduce around 12 or 13?

In what way does someone who has used his penis to rape women "feel like a woman"?

Ereshkigalangcleg · 12/12/2024 11:42

But I think there are other components that make someone feel like a woman and yes those are based on gender stereotypes because that is the world we live in.

Like what? What makes a male think they feel like a woman, and why is it relevant to me, a woman?

Ereshkigalangcleg · 12/12/2024 11:43

It isn’t so long ago that women weren’t allowed to wear trousers. We are still very much existing in a world governed by gender stereotypes.

You think the answer is to double down on them?

Breatheincalmbreatheouttension · 12/12/2024 11:43

Snorlaxo · 11/12/2024 12:27

What about the physical strength that comes with male puberty?

This.

DowntonFlabbie · 12/12/2024 11:46

Ereshkigalangcleg · 12/12/2024 11:42

But I think there are other components that make someone feel like a woman and yes those are based on gender stereotypes because that is the world we live in.

Like what? What makes a male think they feel like a woman, and why is it relevant to me, a woman?

Since a man can only be a man how can he ever know how it feels to be a woman? He doesn't know how women feel.
All he can say is "I feel like I imagine women to feel" or "I feel like I fit the gender stereotypes of women more than the gender stereotypes of men".

Helleofabore · 12/12/2024 11:46

Bex5490 · 12/12/2024 11:39

I agree that a woman is a biological truth.

But I think there are other components that make someone feel like a woman and yes those are based on gender stereotypes because that is the world we live in.

Which is wrong but it is where we are at as a society.

It isn’t so long ago that women weren’t allowed to wear trousers. We are still very much existing in a world governed by gender stereotypes.

Can I ask seriously why you think we don’t base laws around the fact that people become ready to reproduce around 12 or 13?

Because it has been understood that a person of that age cannot consent to having sex?

Because the mortality rate is higher?

I am not actually sure why you though this was relevant

Ereshkigalangcleg · 12/12/2024 11:48

Since a man can only be a man how can he ever know how it feels to be a woman? He doesn't know how women feel.
All he can say is "I feel like I imagine women to feel" or "I feel like I fit the gender stereotypes of women more than the gender stereotypes of men".

Exactly, which is why their interpretations of "womaning" are often so completely unconvincing.

Bex5490 · 12/12/2024 11:50

Helleofabore · 12/12/2024 11:46

Because it has been understood that a person of that age cannot consent to having sex?

Because the mortality rate is higher?

I am not actually sure why you though this was relevant

People keep saying that laws should be based on biological truths not beliefs.

What I mean is that it is a biological truth that people of this age are ready to have children. It is our belief that this is wrong because of our moral code or beliefs.

We have created laws based on our beliefs here because it is the right and humane thing to do.

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NonPlayerCharacter · 12/12/2024 11:54

Bex5490 · 12/12/2024 11:50

People keep saying that laws should be based on biological truths not beliefs.

What I mean is that it is a biological truth that people of this age are ready to have children. It is our belief that this is wrong because of our moral code or beliefs.

We have created laws based on our beliefs here because it is the right and humane thing to do.

Yes, and the biological truth - that it's possible to have sex with children and some people want to - is the basis for the protection in law against it. The biological truth here is that humans are all male or female, that males pose a significant threat at a class level to females and that there are times it is necessary to create single sex spaces for safety and dignity. Because of the truth of two sexes and the nature of them.

We aren't affirming that everything that can happen in nature must be encouraged. We're acknowledging what can happen and protecting against it!

Helleofabore · 12/12/2024 11:57

Bex5490 · 12/12/2024 11:50

People keep saying that laws should be based on biological truths not beliefs.

What I mean is that it is a biological truth that people of this age are ready to have children. It is our belief that this is wrong because of our moral code or beliefs.

We have created laws based on our beliefs here because it is the right and humane thing to do.

And it is a biological truth that a girl of 12 or 13 has a greater chance of mortality or their child. So this is factored into the law, isn't it?

It could also be said that it is a 'biological' fact that they do not have the capacity to consent to having a child at that age because their brain has not finished developing.

SDTGisAnEvilWolefGenius · 12/12/2024 12:00

Bex5490 · 12/12/2024 11:27

I’m not saying that biological sex isn’t a truth. And one that cannot change. I’m saying that trans people speak of their gender identity. I don’t feel like I have a gender identity but I imagine that for them it exists in the same way that months or friendship or racism or any other abstract noun exists.

They may genuinely believe this, @Bex5490 - but firstly, why should I have to sign up to their belief, act as if it is a material reality, and reject my own knowledge of male and female biology - because, make no mistake, this is exactly what the trans rights activists insist on?

And secondly - how can any male individual actually know what it feels like to be female? They cannot experience actually being female, any more than I can actually experience being a cat - all they can do is to base their beliefs off the (old fashioned, frankly toxic) stereotypes of gender - girls like pink, skirts, make up, long hair, sparkly things etc, boys like rough sports, short hair and trousers. They are simply making assumptions about what it feels like to be a woman, with no actual, lived experience.

Helleofabore · 12/12/2024 12:01

Bex5490 · 12/12/2024 11:50

People keep saying that laws should be based on biological truths not beliefs.

What I mean is that it is a biological truth that people of this age are ready to have children. It is our belief that this is wrong because of our moral code or beliefs.

We have created laws based on our beliefs here because it is the right and humane thing to do.

You might have missed it, but can you explain why you think that this sub group of male people should have the additional rights to have a specific third accomomodation space for their use compared to other male people with philosophical beliefs that might make them a minority?

What other philosophical belief do you think needs a third prison accommodation space specifically for them? Why is this group to be treated so differently in your view?

Bex5490 · 12/12/2024 12:03

Helleofabore · 12/12/2024 11:57

And it is a biological truth that a girl of 12 or 13 has a greater chance of mortality or their child. So this is factored into the law, isn't it?

It could also be said that it is a 'biological' fact that they do not have the capacity to consent to having a child at that age because their brain has not finished developing.

Having the brain capacity to consent is subjective. One person’s brain might be significantly more developed at 16 than someone else’s at 18.

Let me be clear, I am not arguing for any changes in these laws! But mortality is high amongst 40 year olds who get pregnant.

Our laws on this are not based on the biological fact that a girl is biologically able to reproduce from when they start their period until menopause.

They are based on a belief system that we have built based on our beliefs now and the society we have created.

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DowntonFlabbie · 12/12/2024 12:05

Bex5490 · 12/12/2024 12:03

Having the brain capacity to consent is subjective. One person’s brain might be significantly more developed at 16 than someone else’s at 18.

Let me be clear, I am not arguing for any changes in these laws! But mortality is high amongst 40 year olds who get pregnant.

Our laws on this are not based on the biological fact that a girl is biologically able to reproduce from when they start their period until menopause.

They are based on a belief system that we have built based on our beliefs now and the society we have created.

But what has that got to do with anything here?

Bex5490 · 12/12/2024 12:05

Helleofabore · 12/12/2024 12:01

You might have missed it, but can you explain why you think that this sub group of male people should have the additional rights to have a specific third accomomodation space for their use compared to other male people with philosophical beliefs that might make them a minority?

What other philosophical belief do you think needs a third prison accommodation space specifically for them? Why is this group to be treated so differently in your view?

I’m unsure of what other group would need a third space. I do think there should be disabled spaces for disabled people, groups for minorities that want to have that etc.

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Bex5490 · 12/12/2024 12:05

In fact I guess religious people deserve their own spaces…

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Helleofabore · 12/12/2024 12:06

Isla Bryson herself raped two women before her transition and none after.

What the fuck have I just read? Someone genuinely thought this was a valid argument for defending the statistics of sex crimes committed by male people with transgender identities?

Bryson attended a beauty school where the girls were coerced to be almost naked with Bryson when they didn't want to be AFTER Bryson transitioned. Bryson was abusing female people sexually AFTER transition, it just wasn't rape. So, apparently, the person who wrote that line thought that was ok to ignore! Because no action was ever taken so no worries.

NonPlayerCharacter · 12/12/2024 12:08

Bex5490 · 12/12/2024 12:03

Having the brain capacity to consent is subjective. One person’s brain might be significantly more developed at 16 than someone else’s at 18.

Let me be clear, I am not arguing for any changes in these laws! But mortality is high amongst 40 year olds who get pregnant.

Our laws on this are not based on the biological fact that a girl is biologically able to reproduce from when they start their period until menopause.

They are based on a belief system that we have built based on our beliefs now and the society we have created.

Our laws on this are not based on the biological fact that a girl is biologically able to reproduce from when they start their period until menopause.

They are, though. They're recognising that fact and protecting her against what might happen as a consequence.

If we wanted to deny the biological truth here as we are being pressured to do for women, we'd say that the existence of infertility conditions makes this an incredibly complicated matter full of subjective truths and anyone who wants to have sex with a 13 year old girl should be able to because otherwise you're being dogmatic and bigoted and not understanding the complexity of it.

Bex5490 · 12/12/2024 12:09

DowntonFlabbie · 12/12/2024 12:05

But what has that got to do with anything here?

Well people are saying that we should only create laws based on truths/facts/ biology.

Our laws should only allow people to be classed as male or female because that is the biological truth.

I’m making the point that some very necessary laws are based on feelings not fact.

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