Colleague said I look like I’m pregnant

[MyLemonKoala]

AIBU to be upset by this?

At work today one of my colleagues who I’m not close with came and RUBBED my belly and said ‘wow, you look like you have a second one in there’

My DS is 2, I’m single and everyone is aware of the fact that I have accepted I won’t be having anymore children as I’m happy single after an awful abusive relationship.

I told her this was rude and she said ‘I’m sorry you’re so sensitive’.

I’m aware I have put on some weight in the last year as my appearance is the last thing on my mind right now due to simply being in survival mode after a lucky escape from ex. But that’s no one’s place to tell me!

Im still upset by this comment!

Wow that's unbelievable!!!

That's pretty shit to be honest. I am sorry, it's so hurtful.

That's beyond rude. So sorry.

Report her and she should not be touching you either.

You should have said “ah ! Thanks , see I thought you looked intelligent, guess we are both wrong”

I’m a pretty calm person but I would take that straight to HR. Totally unacceptable.

Honestly I’d be reporting that to a manager/HR.

Totally unacceptable to touch you.

"I'm sorry you're so sensitive"

If your partner said that to you we'd be telling you it's emotional abuse.

I did think about this but wasn’t sure if I was indeed being ‘too sensitive’. I think I will.

thank you x

Agree put in a complaint. She was well aware of what she was doing.

Sorry you have a shit colleague. Did anyone see/hear this? I'd expect her to be ostracised.

Try to be angry not upset, it's not a reflection on you at all.

Yes! Makes it 10x worse the lack of apology

What a bitch. Report!

Yes everyone rallied round me luckily. Have worked there for 3 years and have some lovely
colleagues. She then kicked up a fuss that people were ‘talking behind her back’ and was walking round with a face like a smacked ass!

Please bare in mind, she is middle aged, not a teenager

She is an arsehole

So sorry op 😢 she's so vile definitely put a complaint in about her.

Definitely complain to HR.

And don't let them brush you off either.

Absolutely report this to HR.

What a fucking bitch. I agree with the others, you should report her.

What a nasty cow. What did she hope to achieve by saying this. Is she intimidated by you? Is it an attempt to hurt you or shame you in front of others? Just imagine being the kind of person who says things like that, what a sad, viciously jealous person to say things like that. Feel sorry for her as no happy person would ever speak like that. Report as its bullying and then be glad you are not like her.

Straight to HR. This is wrong on so many levels.

Is she generally obnoxious and behave inappropriately?

She shouldn’t be touching you for a start. And when you told her you found her attitude offensive she told you you shouldn’t be so sensitive. You need to report this to HR. She’s an arsehole and asking to be sacked.

'I'm sorry you're so sensitive' is the epitome of non-apologies.

'Better a fat belly than a fat head' would probably not have improved the situation but I'd have been tempted to say it.

I've had a few people congratulate me on a non-existent pregnancy and when I blandly reply 'I'm just fat' they have the grace to look appalled at the gaffe. Your colleague doesn't even have the excuse of meaning well, she flat out wanted to tell you that she thinks you are fat.

And before people start with the advice, I have already started a regime of core strengthening exercises to get rid of my flab.

Thankyou everyone. I am usually thick skinned and confident but this one stung and I felt a bit silly to have let it upset me so much.

I will eventually lose the weight but I lived in temp accommodation with 1 x communal microwave for 7 months this year so of course, the convenience food caught up with me, which makes it even more offensive as it is obviously a touchy subject for me!

Yeah report. It was spiteful.She didn't mistake you for being pregnant (ask how far gone for instance), she said you looked pregnant. And touched your midriff. Fuck her. Not cool.

If an honest mistake followed by an apology, that's ok (although I'm a big believer in not commenting unless you can see the head unless taking a medical history).