Colleague said I look like I’m pregnant

[MyLemonKoala]

AIBU to be upset by this?

At work today one of my colleagues who I’m not close with came and RUBBED my belly and said ‘wow, you look like you have a second one in there’

My DS is 2, I’m single and everyone is aware of the fact that I have accepted I won’t be having anymore children as I’m happy single after an awful abusive relationship.

I told her this was rude and she said ‘I’m sorry you’re so sensitive’.

I’m aware I have put on some weight in the last year as my appearance is the last thing on my mind right now due to simply being in survival mode after a lucky escape from ex. But that’s no one’s place to tell me!

Im still upset by this comment!

I would be surprised if this was just a clumsy comment. Sounds thought out and spiteful to me. Likely this person is jealous of you in some way OP.

Similar happened to me years ago. A middle aged colleague - who I didn't even know that well - came up to me (thankfully no rubbing because... just no) and said oooh you can't lie to me, you're expecting again aren't you?

I laughed it off while she continued to insist I wasn't fooling her for ages. When I went back to my desk and told my friend, she said "how bloody rude, I hope you said 'no, are you?'". I kinda wished I had. I

She sounds awful! What a nasty cow. Definitely report it. It wasn't a clumsy comment, she was deliberately being horrible.
Hope you're ok

Dignity at Work - look this up OP - all employees should be
free from harassment, bullying, intimidation, discrimination -

That's a brilliant come back!

God what a rude bitch! I'd definitely report her to her manager, I would imagine she will be disciplined for that!

That is, not to put too fine a point on it and apologies for language ahead, truly cunty behaviour. I'd report her because it was unnecessary, unkind and she bloody touched you as well! I'm sorry that this sad excuse for a human being decided to turn her nasty character on you.

Your colleague is a cowbag. Avoid.

Discuss your upset with your HR department.

Awful and surely no one is stupid enough to do this ? So was it deliberate?

Im blunt and take the mick with people, sometimes close the the line but never in a million years would I say this to someone. It’s down right nasty and horrible.

Yes definitely report. What a bitch x

Gosh how fucking rude. I like the 'No I'm not pregnant, are YOU?' response.

Do that next time @MyLemonKoala Sorry you had to go through this.

Yeah this. Nastiness and bitchiness often comes from jealousy.

Not sure if I would report her. I would have a word with her first and tell her it upset you, then if she persists with catty comments you report her @MyLemonKoala . JMO. (Touching your belly was grim though!)

@MyLemonKoala what happened when you reported to HR/line manager?

She was rude and out of line. but would you really report her over this? i think thats OTT. it doesnt sound like she was being malicious - just stupid. maybe just keep your distance from her

Absolutely report her to HR. Totally unacceptable.

Well done for standing up for yourself, @MyLemonKoala. I sincerely hope HR give her a thorough bollocking.

I recently went to gp with 18 yr old daughter, nurse said to me “ oh congratulations, when are you due ? “
I sad I’m not pregnant, im 46 and my youngest child is 11 yrs .
she replied “ well, I guess it can take time to lose baby weight “
I actually cried…. I never cry !!!

She was insensitive but really, reporting her? That’s beyond disproportionate. Just brush it off and don’t make a huge drama out of it.

About 6 months ago, a male colleague I don’t know asked me if I was pregnant. As I’m 52, I didn’t know whether to laugh or cry!

Straight to HR. Inappropriate touching and comments re pregnancy

Please PLEASE don’t feel you have to explain or apologise for your body to ANYONE! Good lord, single parenting a toddler, in temp accommodation, while holding down a job…I have huge respect for you, and it sounds like your colleagues do as well.

This woman has a serious problem with social interactions, boundaries, and empathy. It must be pretty hard work being her; her life will be full of conflicts with other people. You sound awesome, do what you need to do re HR, but try not to let her take up any more space in your head - she doesn’t deserve any more of your energy xx

She sounds jealous of you. Are you both going for the same promotion or pay rise? I’d report the comment to HR in case she’s putting ideas in their heads that you’ll be away on leave. I know there’s equality but you’ve still got to watch your back.

Tell her you're sorry she struggles so much with her social skills.

Your colleague is a d!ck.

If she’d apologised I’d have let it slide. But she didn’t. So I’d report her to HR.