To think that two grown men could have decided this...?

[5FootMama]

So, in the throes of a class party at soft play where I was trying to both sort the table for the cake and deal with the small child having a meltdown. I tell the husband, he needs to sort the cake and the candles. He looks clueless. I just say "put the candles in the cake, bring it here for lighting" he goes with another dad. He comes back "where are the candles?" .... "In the bag next to the cake".... Come back "wheres the lighter? ... "In the same bag... Just look"

I have a clingy limpet child in the verge of tears, whilst I'm sorting the table out, and 2 minutes later the men both come traipsing back saying "we need you for the cake there's a problem"

Brilliant 🙄 I go back to cake to find out the issue, thinking it's been dropped or some kid has stuck their hand in it or something..

No. No... THEY DIDN'T KNOW WHERE ON THE CAKE TO PUT THE FUCKING CANDLES.

Two grown men needed to have me decide where to put 4 candles on a rectangular cake...

FFS. Pathetic.

I would have told them where to stick the candles ...🤣

Well there were two of them with this incredibly difficult decision to make...neither of them could solve the problem!

horrible language

Weaponised incompetence. If we keep acting stupid the women folk won't ask us to do anything ever again. Gross.

How is he usually op?

WTF is wrong with you. Disgusting language.

Why are people still finding this an acceptable word to use in 2024?

Same. Maybe not repeatable at all children’s party!

Why are some men not capable or willing to switch their brains on?!

Couldn’t stand to be around a man like this. I’d genuinely commit murder. You must feel like you have an extra child.

Do you need to tell him which shoe goes on which foot too?

That's hilarious! DH is very clever and would be exactly the same - totally clueless. But they are like it because their mums, and then their partners, enable them. Hopefully we are raising our sons to think for themselves.

Holy cow that’s rage inducing!

Changing the topic and asking an unrelated question, will you be asking Santa for some patio paving slabs this Christmas?

I don't think they do. It was just that poster. There seem to be a few who've strayed over from Reddit.

So if a man is "clueless" then it's the fault of the women?

Just on the flip side of this though....I am a capable woman - until it comes to either placing candles on my child's birthday cake or cutting it 🤣
I will call my sister in for her opinion every single time

It's not hilarious. It's absolutely depressing.

I couldn't view them with anything but contempt. It's frightening that men still hold so many positions of power and influence in society when too many exhibit this level of incompetence.

It's called weaponised incompetence. It's deliberate.

Ugh, who is still putting candles on children's cakes? I thought that ended after covid. It's disgusting when they blow their germy spit all over it and everyone has to eat it.

it is so tedious.

OP in your shoes i would have handed over limpet child and gone somewhere for a coffee on my own

To add to the above, my vag would seal itself shut after this scenario took place if I were you, OP.

I don’t think I would have known how to answer that. I’m thinking about it now. “In the cake”? But they already know that. It’s literally a stupid question.

I'm sorry but this has had me chuckling, because they are either very thick, or very sneaky. 4 candles on a cake. Omg I cannot stop laughing and this as if I didn't laugh then I would cry in frustration. I would have poked them both in the eyes with the candles 😆 🤣 😂

Jesus Christ that is so off putting. How pathetic.

I would have wanted to say, like I do with my kid, "mmh, good question. Where do you think they should go?" while rubbing my chin, looking at the cake.