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Reform and abortion

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Craftymam · 06/12/2024 10:41

Just a public service announcement as I missed this last week and find it quite shocking that coverage was so low.

Nigel Farage has said he wants to ‘open a new discussion’ on abortion rights.

Considering everything that’s gone on in America, the rise in popularity of reform and this alleged 100 Million donation from Elon musk; I felt I had to bring this to everyone’s attention.

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FOJN · 06/12/2024 15:22

I'm reading the thread and whilst there are posters who are giving considered and thoughtful opinions there is also a lot of anger and hatred of NF etc al being expressed, this is how they will win. I understand but it will not help win the argument.

We can be angry that women have to fight this battle again or we can plan to win.

We need the facts, they are on our side.

Abortion until term without a medical reason is not a popular idea, anyone arguing for that will alienate most people. Don't make people choose between reduced abortion access and abortion until term. We will lose.

There is no case for altering existing provision by reducing terms or access because as OP points out, most terminations happen at less than 10 weeks.

The viability argument for reducing limits to 22 weeks doesn't stand up to scrutiny. I'm reluctant to post the statistics about survival rates and severe, life long disabilities in babies born before 24 weeks but at some point we will have to overcome any squeamishness about appearing insensitive so that sensible, fact based discussions can take place.

We need to be prepared to address claims about late term abortions being permitted for things such a cleft palate, I have heard this argument. Anti choice campaigners claim that the medical necessity provisions allow women to abort babies who have minor, correctable birth defects as late as the third trimester. In the UK the number of late term abortions which take place each year is in single digits. Those abortions may include babies with correctable birth defects but the important point is that the abortions don't take place for that reason. Those defects often occur with much more severe and unsurvivable problems and that is why a woman may abort later in the pregnancy.

I could write a lot more but this is just an example of the kind of evidence we need. There are many more very legitimate arguments for maintaining abortion access as it is, we need to be prepared.

Hoardasauruskaren · 06/12/2024 15:23

I bet you any money that if Nigel or Donald got a woman pregnant that they weren’t married to, it would be a completely different issue with regard to the sanctity of life and they would happily pay for an abortion.

I’d be willing to bet any money Donald Trump has already done this probably more than once!

caringcarer · 06/12/2024 15:24

Dotjones · 06/12/2024 10:47

Well there probably should be a discussion on abortion, like how it should be easier to access and should be available at any point during pregnancy up to the birth. The laws we have at the moment are over fifty years old, they need updating. The 24 week limit is way too early and it shouldn't need the consent of two doctors, if the mother wants one that should be the end of the discussion.

Babies can usually live at 24 weeks. I think it's too late. If a woman wants an abortion plenty of time to get it done in first 16 weeks unless exceptional circumstances.

RingoJuice · 06/12/2024 15:25

Hoardasauruskaren · 06/12/2024 15:23

I bet you any money that if Nigel or Donald got a woman pregnant that they weren’t married to, it would be a completely different issue with regard to the sanctity of life and they would happily pay for an abortion.

I’d be willing to bet any money Donald Trump has already done this probably more than once!

He has never been in favor of abortion bans to the consternation of the pro-life wing of the party

TinklySnail · 06/12/2024 15:26

@Fluufer I’m still totally unsure of what rights you are referring to so yes, it would have required an answer.
For the record, I admire your stance on women’s rights and the desire to not have those rights eroded. It’s a good thing that people have these opinions and I would do not want to suppress your opinion.
A debate/discussion should allow all views and fair play for fighting for your beliefs.
I think we can agree to disagree.

Julia34 · 06/12/2024 15:26

caringcarer · 06/12/2024 15:24

Babies can usually live at 24 weeks. I think it's too late. If a woman wants an abortion plenty of time to get it done in first 16 weeks unless exceptional circumstances.

Exactly. Abortion even for unwanted child is not easy for women at least they can make sure they babies not develop enough to have nervous system and feel the pain

caringcarer · 06/12/2024 15:29

Annabella92 · 06/12/2024 12:11

What's wrong with this statement

Nothing is wrong with it. It's sensible now babies can be born at 22 weeks and survive. He's asked for a discussion.

MistressoftheDarkSide · 06/12/2024 15:29

RingoJuice · 06/12/2024 15:19

The overall point here is that abortion truly does have a eugenic effect on society in the macro sense and giving women the freedom to choose has been a large part of that. Some of the earliest proponents of abortion has used eugenic arguments and … they weren’t wrong, it’s just unseemly to mention.

So I really don’t think you can frame pronatalism as eugenic. IMHO.

Well, we both have different views then.

Eugenics / pronatalism promotes the view that some lives are worthier than others, and that society / politics should dictate which those are.

No woman should be forced to carry a baby, nor forced to terminate a pregnancy. This is about reproductive autonomy and the well-being of individual women, not playing into whichever lucrative zeitgeist is getting the best Instagram hits.

Hoardasauruskaren · 06/12/2024 15:30

caringcarer · 06/12/2024 15:24

Babies can usually live at 24 weeks. I think it's too late. If a woman wants an abortion plenty of time to get it done in first 16 weeks unless exceptional circumstances.

The majority of 2nd trimester abortion are for medical reasons. Abnormalities are often discovered in the 20 week scan. That only leaves a few weeks for further investigation & decision making. I’ve no idea how early the 20 week scan can be done accurately?

Freddie999 · 06/12/2024 15:31

Julia34 · 06/12/2024 15:11

Aborting baby until full term pregnacy should be counted as murder unless the mother is at risk. For me only psychopatic women will be able to abort perfectly healthy baby with not any risk for herself at the end stage of pregnancy. I aganist abortion but I have more understanding for women who make abortion early as possible to minimise the pain for the babies rather they are waiting to make the baby suffer in pain. I know some women will do abortion as punishment for man when he leave her. I know one women did she was happy she pregnant until 15 weeks pregnacy her partner leave her she do abortion and tell him lies she lost baby

You really can't think of any situation where I women could make a reasonable, informed and balanced decision to abort later on pregnancy?

I'll try a scenario out. Intelligent professional young women enjoying life and partying, takes good precautions with a progesterone implant and has the usual kind of side effects (bit of irregular bleeding cramping, bloating), but unfortunately contraception fails she ends up pregnant, she doesn't realise she's pregnant (has a bit of cramping, bloating and spotting but this is normal for her) and by the time she does she heading into the third trimester. She knows that she has partied hard and consumed a lot of alcohol throughout the time she was pregnant but unaware, and maybe a few other substances (sniff sniff). She's is intelligent and aware enough to understand the full implications of fetal drug and alcohol syndrome across the lifetime of her potential child and the implications for her own future, she also knows that this condition is not diagnosable prenatally. So on balance she would opt for a late abortion despite how distressing it will be.

Hardly a psychopath!

SuzieNine · 06/12/2024 15:31

TinklySnail · 06/12/2024 14:19

So what if some women feel that there should be a discussion?
What if some women feel that 24 weeks for a normal unwanted pregnancy is now too late?

I'd feel the same about them as I feel about women who want a "discussion" about universal suffrage.

TinklySnail · 06/12/2024 15:33

Regardless of political affiliation I would say that the majority of women would be against the idea of making abortion outright illegal.
I had an abortion aged 12, it was a later abortion because, well I was being abused and too scared to say anything.
I personally feel that sometimes late abortion is there for anyone who is going through what I went through or if there is something medically wrong. I’m sure the baby was healthy but it was done for my wellbeing. Being 12 in the 80’s negated what you wanted and I had no say. I honestly don’t know if that’s still the case.
I would like to think that women will always have the right to choose.
Should there ever be a time this appears to change, I hope we will all unite as women of all shapes and sizes.

Julia34 · 06/12/2024 15:34

Freddie999 · 06/12/2024 15:31

You really can't think of any situation where I women could make a reasonable, informed and balanced decision to abort later on pregnancy?

I'll try a scenario out. Intelligent professional young women enjoying life and partying, takes good precautions with a progesterone implant and has the usual kind of side effects (bit of irregular bleeding cramping, bloating), but unfortunately contraception fails she ends up pregnant, she doesn't realise she's pregnant (has a bit of cramping, bloating and spotting but this is normal for her) and by the time she does she heading into the third trimester. She knows that she has partied hard and consumed a lot of alcohol throughout the time she was pregnant but unaware, and maybe a few other substances (sniff sniff). She's is intelligent and aware enough to understand the full implications of fetal drug and alcohol syndrome across the lifetime of her potential child and the implications for her own future, she also knows that this condition is not diagnosable prenatally. So on balance she would opt for a late abortion despite how distressing it will be.

Hardly a psychopath!

How often this scenario will become true once in 10 years? The truth is if we get abortion rights until the birth no matter risk pregnacy or healthy pregnancy there will be many women aborting healthy babies in late stage pregnancy I mean pregnancy when baby have change to survive if they born prematurely

Fluufer · 06/12/2024 15:36

TinklySnail · 06/12/2024 15:26

@Fluufer I’m still totally unsure of what rights you are referring to so yes, it would have required an answer.
For the record, I admire your stance on women’s rights and the desire to not have those rights eroded. It’s a good thing that people have these opinions and I would do not want to suppress your opinion.
A debate/discussion should allow all views and fair play for fighting for your beliefs.
I think we can agree to disagree.

You said the majority of people are against imposing such restrictions on women’s rights.
I assumed you are referring to the abortion rights under discussion. In which case it is factual to state that most women already have such restrictions imposed upon them

TinklySnail · 06/12/2024 15:37

Fluufer · 06/12/2024 15:36

You said the majority of people are against imposing such restrictions on women’s rights.
I assumed you are referring to the abortion rights under discussion. In which case it is factual to state that most women already have such restrictions imposed upon them

Mmm, to be honest, I personally believe the restrictions are there for a reason.
You are however entitled to believe it’s not.

Fluufer · 06/12/2024 15:39

TinklySnail · 06/12/2024 15:37

Mmm, to be honest, I personally believe the restrictions are there for a reason.
You are however entitled to believe it’s not.

I'm not arguing for no restrictions. I'm saying we don't need further restrictions.

Freddie999 · 06/12/2024 15:40

Julia34 · 06/12/2024 15:34

How often this scenario will become true once in 10 years? The truth is if we get abortion rights until the birth no matter risk pregnacy or healthy pregnancy there will be many women aborting healthy babies in late stage pregnancy I mean pregnancy when baby have change to survive if they born prematurely

I imagine this scenario and other equally reasonable ones will be more likely than the scenario you imagine of women enduring 8 months of pregnancy and all the symptoms and lasting physical damage that go with it only to decide to abort the baby on a psychopathic whim.

I trust women.

TinklySnail · 06/12/2024 15:41

Fluufer · 06/12/2024 15:39

I'm not arguing for no restrictions. I'm saying we don't need further restrictions.

I know ❤️

CatsndtheBear · 06/12/2024 15:42

Dotjones · 06/12/2024 10:47

Well there probably should be a discussion on abortion, like how it should be easier to access and should be available at any point during pregnancy up to the birth. The laws we have at the moment are over fifty years old, they need updating. The 24 week limit is way too early and it shouldn't need the consent of two doctors, if the mother wants one that should be the end of the discussion.

"should be available at any point during pregnancy up to the birth."

You cannot be serious.

A baby fully capable of surviving and thriving outside the womb deserves to be treated as though it is a human with rights.

How is having an abortion right up until birth any different than smothering a baby once it has taken its first breath?

Is that breath your line of where someone suddenly becomes a human with rights?

What you are suggesting is sickening.

TinklySnail · 06/12/2024 15:43

SuzieNine · 06/12/2024 15:31

I'd feel the same about them as I feel about women who want a "discussion" about universal suffrage.

And what is it that you’d feel about them?

Fluufer · 06/12/2024 15:44

CatsndtheBear · 06/12/2024 15:42

"should be available at any point during pregnancy up to the birth."

You cannot be serious.

A baby fully capable of surviving and thriving outside the womb deserves to be treated as though it is a human with rights.

How is having an abortion right up until birth any different than smothering a baby once it has taken its first breath?

Is that breath your line of where someone suddenly becomes a human with rights?

What you are suggesting is sickening.

Perhaps fewer babies would be smothered at birth were their mothers allowed to access later abortions? Nobody likes to think about it, but infanticide happens. Sometimes late term abortion might be lesser of two evils so to say.

MissScarletInTheBallroom · 06/12/2024 16:02

WhatUSeeIsWhatUGet · 06/12/2024 15:04

It seems there should only be discussions and "debates" where everyone agrees... 🙄

Huh?

Comtesse · 06/12/2024 16:08

Odious really is the right word for him. What a little creep.

KeyWorker · 06/12/2024 16:14

BIossomtoes · 06/12/2024 11:36

I honestly can’t believe I just read that. So you’re condoning infanticide on demand? No way could I go there.

It’s not infanticide. It’s feticide. It’s very different. If a woman doesn’t want to be pregnant for any reason, she should have the right to access safe and legal abortion. As early as possible as late as necessary.

username299 · 06/12/2024 16:15

Comtesse · 06/12/2024 16:08

Odious really is the right word for him. What a little creep.

I thought that said Oedipus.

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